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December is by far my favorite month of the year.  I love all the festive decorations, the smell of pine trees and Christmas lights. I truly believe that people in general are in a better mood during this month than any other time of the year.

Every year I stop and evaluate the past year - accomplishments, hardships, triumphs and tribulations.  For the last month I've been thinking about "stuff", we so happily acquire during our lifetime, "stuff", we think we absolutely need to have on a daily basis, and "stuff" we buy or get because it will temporarily makes us feel good.

Everyone has their own version of their “stuff” - as do my grandparents.  Every two weeks or so, I visit them.  They live three hours away, and the long commute makes it impossible for me to see them more often then that.  For the last two and a half years my grandmother, who I love with all my heart has been suffering with Alzheimer's, living in a nursing home.  My mom visits and feeds her twice a day, and because she is in "her own world," her vital signs are great and she can go on living like that for years.  I know that my grandma, who was always full of life and full of hope and energy, wouldn't want that kind of life for herself. But, as one man once said "We ask God for an easy life, but what we need to really ask for is an easy death".

Recently, I sat with my grandma trying to sing songs with her, showing her pictures of the kids, once again attempting to "find her,” and just when I thought I got through, her eyes drifted and she was back again to her own safe world. As I sat there looking at her blue eyes that have lost their spark, her hands that no longer wanted to hold me, I couldn't help but cry.  My darling grandma, who during the Christmas season decorated her house with all kinds of 'stuff", bought gifts for everyone she knew and strangers she didn't.  Now she spends most of her day in bed or in a wheelchair - otherwise known as her "stuff", the only "stuff" that she now needs besides a few simple items of clothing.

As I got into my car with tears streaming down my face I couldn't concentrate on anything besides the "stuff" that we cling to on daily basis. That’s when I knew I wanted to write this blog to remind everyone this holiday season that "stuff" doesn't really matter. What matters is the love we give, the love we get, the family and friends we surround ourselves with, and what we do to make this world a better place. This is the "stuff" that's really matters.  

Since I got back, I have given away boxes and boxes of all kinds of things. This holiday season I'm getting rid of  "stuff," hopping that it will make someone else smile and cheery until they too realize that we need so little to really be happy.

This Holiday Season I wish you all HEALTH, happiness, love & lots of laughter.  

 

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      Mzd3 wrote Dec 18, 2013
    • So true Yana...I’ve been getting rid of stuff too.
      It’s so hard to see a loved one like that. I hope she still enjoys memories from time to time.
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      Dianne53 wrote Dec 18, 2013
    • Yes Yana, there is way too much stuff we each carry around.  I am leaving to be with my mom, sadly her last Christmas and I do pray that she will have a happy passing to her next life. Blessing to you and your family. heart



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Dec 18, 2013
    • heart Joe and I stopped giving Christmas gifts to each other a couple of years ago. We certainly don’t need anymore “stuff!” This year we‘re spending Christmas with my mother, we‘re going to Disneyland, and we‘re visiting with special friends estaticestaticestatic



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      Kwcincyfan wrote Dec 19, 2013
    • Very inspiring article.  My mom has just recently been diagnosed with AZ and it is tough to handle.  I’m trying to find ways to cope and to help her.  Thank you for your perspective.



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      Linda L wrote Dec 19, 2013
    • Yana, thank you so much this is so meaningful. I’m having a hard time coping with my mom just a couple of years ago she was so vibrant. In addition, things are falling apart for me. Fortunately, I’ve been able to reach out to my fab friends for support. Some have noticed my hurt and have reached out to me to let me know that they care.

      All the best to you and your family. heart



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      Marya1961 wrote Dec 20, 2013
    • Thank you Yana, this post means so much.heart  If each and every person could take a few minutes out of their day to check on a loved one, or donate a box of stuff to a worthy cause, or volunteer for a cause, or help an ailing neighbor, or host a get-together, etc..just think what this world could be like.estatic

      I still feel technology has taken the joy out of togetherness.heartbreak



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      Denise Richardson wrote Dec 30, 2013
    • Hi Yana, I love your story. I am a huge giver I give all year round I’m always finding things to give to those less fortunate its a part of who I am. I feel a sense of peace and joy when I give to others it is so rewarding for me and I love to see the smiles it brings to their faces.hearthearthearthearthappy



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      Hbrose wrote Jan 8, 2014
    • I loved reading this Yana, it really hit home for me.  I’ve been faced with having to make an important decision on whether to sell our house or not this year.  And its funny, one of the main reasons I don’t want to is because of all our “stuff“.  All the stuff from when the kids were growing up, and all kinds of sentimental things that I can’t seem to part with.  But all that stuff has sat in our attic or garage for years.  But yet I can’t see myself getting rid of it, but I don’t know what I’d ever do with it!  worried

      So, I love hearing your story about your grandma and her stuff. Puts everything into perspective, doesn’t it?!  happyheart



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