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OMG.

Shut the FRONT DOOR. [in exchange for STFu]

Ok gals. I blew it. I KNOW it. And I KNEW better and did it anyway because I got carried away in the moment and now all I want to do is pretty much go stick my head in the sand.
Here’s what happened.

After yet another lovely trip to my man’s place, I get home yesterday and am still all la-dee-friggin DA over the way things are going and this SONG comes on, I get all carried away in it while getting situated here and I actually SENT him a msg that SAID “If I told you I love you would you run?”

REALLY?? If my best FRIEND tried that Id stop her!  

Yeah. So we were having text issues while having a conversation and some msgs werent showing up.

{Sure.}

Anyway, he asked this morning what the message WAS and why I was worried. I’d repiled, ‘Me being vulnerable and you potentially running.’ He had also thought maybe he did something wrong- I assured him he had not.

He said, ‘Oooooo I think I know what you mean. Prob not something to convey in a text. And Im not sure Im ready to jump that far yet. I REALLY LIKE WHERE WE ARE RIGHT NOW.
happy PLEASE dont think anything else OR anything bad! PLEASE!!’  [word for word/caps/verbatim]

I broke my own damn rules and am reeeeeally unhappy about it. I went for a long walk to try to think it through. I feel SOOOOOOOOOOOOO humiliated and stupid for even sending such a thing. I knew better and did it anyway. frown Probably blew it.

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      Angelcart wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Oh we've ALL done things like that!  Don't be so hard on yourself.  Your a georgous and talented lady and I hardly think he would "run" by you getting caught up in a moment.  BTW, what song were you listening too?  LOL  (just had to throw that in there!).  I'm sure if you just explained that that your were really happy and got caught up in the moment with the music he'd understand.  I'll bet he's even flattered !  I'm sure any guy would be!happy



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Thank you. 1st time I smiled this entire day.
      I SO wish I hadnt sent that msg..
      Thanks though!



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      Denise Richardson wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Jenz, DON‘T sweat over the small stuff this isn’t as bad as you‘re making it out to be so what you sent it, if he is as serious about you as he proclaims to be then it will work itself out, stop being so hard on yourself and even if he may not be so what its his lost in the end. Love ya!heartheartheart



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Tru DAT. ;}

      I just cant believe I did that. After all this time stickin to my guns? ARGH



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      Denise Richardson wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • You’ll be ok, trust me. Go have a glass of wine because I am lol.estatic



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Now THAT is a fantastic idea although ill have to wait a lil bit. In the meantime, Ill throw my phone out the window before I even touch it. lol



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      Tuliplady wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • You‘re overthinking things again.  Just take a deep breath or two or ten.  Have that glass of wine like Neicy said, and then just sit and think about how great it is to have this great guy in your life.  And more importantly, remember how lucky he is to have YOU!



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Thats just the THING! Im so bad at this and yes I overthink. I DO know, however, that he is the best thing that ever happened to me. Sorta worried



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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Hi Jen,
      you did not blew it!  Remember what I did?  Just stop talking about it with him.  Nothing happened.  If he truly cares about you he’ll be back.  

      Hugs,



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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Jenz, I’m unclear on how things have changed since I was last single. And wishing myself luck like a by stander not involved! LOL  

      Not the end of the world you sent the text, but texting is not the best way to communicate in my opinion. Would you maybe tell him you were riding the wave of the sex high and it’s not yet your final decision on the relationship itself?  

      I think I would hold off on declarations of love until he expresses his. But ... now he has a idea of how you feel and the ball is in his court.  

      Have that glass of wine and don’t beat yourself up, Hon.  

      Cathie



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • NOOOO it is not something Ive done before. And NOOO Im not on a sex high. I knew I loved him 2 months ago. Keep in mind I have also been friends with him for 3 years. He is no where near a stranger to me. As for keeping THAT man on his toes, Im not into playing games etc, however, this will not be discussed or mentioned again. I made a mistake. As a result I havent even heard a word from him since this afternoon which is somewhat unusual and I will NOT call or text him no matter what. Im really unhappy that I did this. Obsessing? No. Keeping busy? Yes. I just returned from dinner out with my friends. I have a few things in mind that will definitely keep him on his toes- in a renewed sort of way. Its WAY too soon to be throwing the L WORD around. Period. I dont care of we were friemds for a decade- HE needs to say it first and I cant help but feel that I ruined this. It sucks. When or IF he calls, Im not talking about it. Just act as normal BEFORE that silly ISH happened. ugh....



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      Denise Richardson wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Jenz, go get that glass of wine and chill lol.estaticheart



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      Cheekymonkey wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • Jenz,
      I would say since you have been friends for three years he probally knows you quite well. Right?
      So, tell him that your not ready for that either, that you were caught up in the moment and you were being cheeky. Tell , him that that your happy and content with how your status quo is now.
      (puts the chase back on) and laugh about it. Then go on like it never happened.
      I totally know how that “oops” feels when you feel humiliated and break your own rules. Plus your harder on yourself than anyone else.
      Deep breath , glass of wine, and go back to how you acted with him before. It will make it better for you both.
      Big hugs
      Cristen estatic



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • estatic
      He called.
      He talked about his day, asked about mine n we laughed and chatted as usual, as though it didnt happen. happy
      Perfecto.
      Chase is definitely back on.
      estatic

      Love you guys! And THAT is NOT a mistake text. haha



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      Cheekymonkey wrote Mar 7, 2011
    • heart now that’s great news! Have a great chase!!! Lol
      Hugs
      Cris



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Jenz I am glad the Chase is back on!!!! Hang in there heart



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      Marie66 wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Jenz, happy to hear the chase is still on!! heart



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Thanks happy

      Chase is definitely back on. This needs to be done RIGHT! happy



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      UK Girl wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Step away from the phone in future and stop over analysing honey - your fab and he is lucky ......... did you have the wine



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      Mztracy wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • I hope you‘re drinking that wine now!!



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Nope. No wine. I went to dinner at Panera with friends instead and indulged in a giant hot cocoa with whipped cream on it while having girl time and sitting by a fireplace. Soul DEFINITELY needed soothing! Sort of still does b/c even though the chase is back on [subtly and wisely of course] I still have no idea if it’ll work.
      Hate that part.  

      No wonder we are instructed to make a man WORK! They are a pain in the ash sometimes! LOL



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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • I don’t know, Jenz.... this is making getting out in the single world again sounding like a mine field of dangerous territory. Don’t people just fall in love anymore? Where’s all of the romance of falling in love? I was telling a young lady we don’t have an expiration date, but I didn’t know we had to plan out a stradegy of love these days.  

      Cathie



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Cathie~ of course ppl fall in love. estatic And honestly, Im pretty sure its happening here as well but I DO know he’s a lil scared. {Guy’s best friends are GREAT tattlers HAHA}
      Anyway, I know what your saying tho- its a scary unexpected place to be in your 4o’s. im going to be 44 in 2 DAYS- EEKS!

      Speaking of which... a special someone just asked me for my exact mailing address. Does this mean Im actually going to get something for my bday? FROM HIM? That would be really nice- its been a few years since a really nice b-day. happy

      Hopefully I really didnt blow it after all. Done worrying about it.



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