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Too often, when a person feels the early signs of a loving relationship they move too fast and scare away the one they are falling in love with.  Or worse yet, they so desperately want to be in love and be loved that they miss important clues to the real feelings of the one they think they love.

A marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll from Outside the Dog Museum  perfectly describes the importance of taking it slow when he says, "You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip."  

One thing for certain—new love develops over time.  It requires patience.  It requires self-examination.  And it most certainly requires you to run slowly across fields until you find the proper footing, lest you fall down!

Recently, someone sent us a copy of a beautiful essay entitled "Letters To My Son“by Kent Nerburn.  Our favorite passage is excerpted below:

Here "is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so longwithout love, they understand love only as a need.  The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but astheir love cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need.  They forget that thesecret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made togrow only by giving it away."

The message here should be clear—love is a gift you give to someone, and if you are lucky, they give it back in return.  You need to step back and make sure that you feel good about giving your love away.  That requires being honest with yourself about what you are feeling and what you are giving away to another human being.  Accepting true love takes courage.  And trust.  And time.

To be truly in love is to dash across the field of lilies on a beautiful spring morning unafraid to fall down as you leap into the arms of the one you love and who loves you.  As love and marriage experts, we suggest you go, be in love if you are ready to give away your gift of love to another human being.

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