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Ladies, what kind of year is 2009 going to be for you in the relationship department? Have you given that any thought?

This year, Larry and I celebrated our third anniversary in Tuscany. I will never forget it. I am so lucky to have met this man. Finding love in my 50's has been amazing.

I love feeling connected to Larry even though it doesn't happen as often as I like. You know how it is when you start living a parallel life....both keeping up with personal routines. I am learning how to get his attention and we are both committed to staying close. I love how easy it is to be with him, we have a sweet and satisfying rapport with one another.

I am excited about my gift for him this year! Even though we agreed to a small gift budget this year,  I came up with a no cost plan to give him a special and very personal gift . Want to join me? Give these gifts to your guy over the next thirty days. Just thirty short days, and then let us know how it goes.

There is only one can't tell him anything about it.  Just watch and see what happens.

1. Find something pink, very cool if you have a rose quartz around for this one but a candle or silk flower will work too, and put it under your bed. Your reminder that this bed is a precious place, one that craves nurturing. Let the pink object serve as a symbol of love and peace between the two of you.

2. Begin to agree with your man more often. No, I don't mean when he's on your last nerve. Believe me, we all struggle with that one! I mean agreeing over insignificant things. When he tells you something about a news story or expresses an opinion about something that doesn't have to do with you....agree with him. Your man LOVES to hear you say, "You're right about that." "Yes, I see what you mean." Or "Thanks for saying it like that, I didn't see that angle." It is very easy to say these things over issues unimportant to me!

3. Choose one time a week for the next four weeks when you allow him to have his opinion without you trying to change it. Practice listening and saying anything from the list above. Just one time a can do it!

4. Plan one meal a week that you know he will love. As you plan it, choose to remember your first few dates. Remember how hot your were for while you were waiting for him to get to your apartment? Mmmmm. Prepare the meal with those memories in mind.

5. Find one new thing to do that is a hobby or craft. I bet you have been getting the urge to pick up a long forgotten hobby/ Maybe an instrument is gathering dust in your closet. Decide that for a month, you are going to take action and revitalize an old interest.

6. Write him a series of love letters that you don't plan to mail. Plan on at least four but you can do as many as you like. Pour out your heart to him. Tell him what you want to see for the two of you in 2009. Confront him if you need to, be completely real. Know that you are connecting to his deepest self with your words and especially with your feelings. Doing this by yourself first will bring amazing words to your mind when you DO choose to talk to him, IF you choose to talk to him.

7. Watch for small opportunities to do random acts of kindness. I know my husband loves to have the counters clear of mail, cat toys, newspapers and all the rest of the kitchen clutter. I love to straighten those counters knowing that his pleasure at the sight of the tidy kitchen is one of my love expressions to him and it is easy for me!

8. Choose to overlook one of his annoying habits for one month. I am sure you can think of one! Make a pact with yourself that you will catch yourself noticing it and simply stop yourself and think of something else.

9. Give him one extra hug a day. Not a hug because YOU need one, but a hug for him completely. When you are hugging him, choose to stand in for every person he now knows and all of the others, past and future. Hold him in your arms and shower him with that kind of love. Be an extension cord between all who love him and his heart.

10. On the thirtieth day of the month, go look in the mirror and congratulate yourself! Check your options. You may want to continue, but I have a feeling you two will be in an entirely different orbit by then! Act on the creative connection ideas that occur to you, no one knows your man better than you!

Are you in? Add a comment and let us know your are with us! Print this page and make your action plan. Start with the ones that feel more natural to you. The order is not important. Some may feel awkward at first but just let yourself fumble a little. It's worth it! Merry Christmas to you and your man! Your 2009 is going to rock!


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