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On September 10, 2008, I received a call that was to change my life.

Twenty-three years ago (when I was engaged to be married) I found out that I was pregnant. When I told my fiancĂ© he seemed okay with the surprise of my pregnancy. However, as my pregnancy progressed, he stopped coming home (I didn’t know that he had moved in with another woman) leaving me alone.

As my pregnancy progressed I marveled at the wonder of the life growing inside of me, sure in my dream of a future family (between myself, my future husband, and our child that I carried). When I was presented with the rejection my head was reeling. Devastated, heart broken, and with no family or friends to support me at a very difficult time in my life...I prayed for guidance. The only thing that kept me going was the love I had for the child growing inside of me, and what would be the best for his/her future.

I decided on adoption for my baby. It was the most painful, difficult decision that I would ever make in my lifetime. I drew strength in the knowledge that I was taking active steps to ensure that my daughter would grow up in a loving, supportive family...given a much better childhood than the abusive childhood that I had known.

It was a closed adoption, but they allowed me to stay in the hospital for the first three days of my daughter’s life. I held her, feed her, talked to her, and cried for the life that I had wanted us to share together that would be denied us. I cried because my promised future life of marriage and a family had been taken from me. I told her that I loved her, and I hoped that someday we could meet. The only control I had was to stay strong with my focus of the best future for her in the midst of my own tragedy and heartbreak.

I wrote a letter for her adoptive parents to share with her when she was old enough, so she would know how much I loved and wanted her. I do not believe she ever received that letter.

One day, I received packet of pictures of my daughter that the foster mother was kind enough to provide. Those pictures of my daughter were framed and I have gazed upon them for the last 23 years, wondering if some day I would ever meet the daughter who indirectly saved my life.

Almost five years later I married and had a son. My son grew up seeing the pictures of his half sister, and often wondered if we would ever hear from her, or meet her. We celebrated her birthday every year. On her 18th birthday my son asked, “mom, do you think we’ll hear from her this year?” He asked the same when she turned 21 years of age. (Because it was a closed adoption, we had to wait for her to be of age and hope that she would seek us out).

On September 10th, our dreams came true when the agency called me. They had been looking for me for a very long time, and were about to give up on ever finding me. They had a letter that my daughter had written for me. That first letter was in my hand within 48 ours, and since then we have written each other several letters (through the agency) and exchanged numerous pictures.

The weird thing is I had been thinking about my daughter and sent an email to the agency a couple of months ago, telling them that if my daughter ever wanted to contact me...how they could reach me. They never received that email, but had called me because of my daughter’s letter...searching for me instead!

I feel so blessed at being given this opportunity to communicate with my daughter. It is a dream come true for me. She asked me what I wanted from this reunion and my first thought was, “I want the world of course!” But I know/knew that the progression of our reunion and how far it will go is ultimately her choice, and will take time. I have all of the love and emotions in my heart of a mother, but I gave up the right to be called her mother. I did not give up the right to love her with all of my heart because I am her birth mother and loved her with a quiet desperation for the last 23 years. I can be her friend. An ear to listen and a shoulder when she needs one. I can hope that someday we will meet in person, only time will tell. Right now, the most important thing is that we have been given this opportunity to connect. I feel a great sense of peace in knowing that she is happy.

What’s extraordinary is that two days after receiving my first letter, she logged on to a web site (where we are both members) and clicked on a familiar picture. MIRACULOUSLY the click of that mouse, took her to my profile where she and I discovered that we are members of the same web site, and never knew it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOW!

She’s a wife and a mother of a 2 year little girl, and is pregnant with her second child (another little girl) due in the Spring.

I think life is amazing, and everyday I wake up and wonder if this is all a dream, until I pinch myself and realize that it is real. So very, very real.

What an amazing journey indeed...



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      Inakika wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Wow, this is such an amazing story. What a wonderful thing, to finally find the daughter you blessed another family with, all these years later.
      Amazing.



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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • That is really a wonderful story.  Thanks for sharing it with us.  I have friends that adopted a baby last year and she has given them so much joy.  She stated once to me that she loved her so much that it hurt.  It was a brave thing that you did and you should be commended for it.  I really do admire you.

      I wish for you a bright new future with your daughter and your grandchildren.



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      Linni wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • God is so good! He gave you a precious life, and you made a sacrifice, a decision that most would probably never be able to do, and i, like maryclark, commend you for that!

      What a beautiful story! i know in time things will be so good for you all.. thank you for sharing your story!

      God Bless
      Linni



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      Coachmombabe wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • I love your story! It moved me so deeply. In the line of work I do sometimes young women, for whatever reason, feel they need to adopt out their babies. I can appreciate how very difficult that must be! I believe you when you say you have loved her all along. One of our volunteers adopted out a son 16 years ago. She keeps in touch with the adoptive mom, but does not see her son. She is waiting for the day when he wants to know her. She carries a photo of him with her.  

      I rejoice with you at this reconnecting with your daughter! A person can never have too many people in their life that genuinely love them! I hope you will keep us apprised of your journey.



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      Marie Hempsey wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • I am sooo very happy for you! Your story has really touched my heart. I will pray that your connection with your daughter grows into a great friendship! I do not believe in coincidence, you and your daughter are meant to know one another. God Bless!
      Friends.
      Ree



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • I hope you have the reunion you desire!



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      Mztracy wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • ok, i am crying!!
      I am so happy for you all!!!



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      Shopgirl1960 wrote Nov 17, 2008
    • I too thank you for sharing this story. It is hard to put into words all that I would like to wish for you. But mostly I wish for you a feeling of peace,contentment and a special bond with your daughter in the future to come.



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      Dennie05 wrote Feb 2, 2009
    • Just reading this for the first time before I read the most recent post that is on the dashboard today.  WOW...what love you have for your daughter.  Purely selfless.  I am going to the other post now to continue reading. Thankyou for sharing.



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      Subathra wrote Aug 2, 2009
    • What a touching story!! I couldn’t help crying.Thank God..Im al alone rite now.

      I hope your reunion with your daughter would be everlasting this time.Well at least,you would be there to share the bonds of love and relation ship with your grandchildrens!!

      My love to you..

      Suba



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