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pic     This has happened really fast, but there is someone that e-Harmony has been “pushing” for me, and ... I like him.

So far we’ve just communicated through the e-Harmony “guided” communications (multiple choice stuff), but the last communication “allowed” us to make up our own questions and write answers instead of checking a multiple choice answer.

I must say I’m impressed with the way e-Harmony is set up. Someone is very educated there, the design of the program is really well thought-out. Although I haven’t met this man in person yet, I’m very impressed with the e-harmony service.  

So me and “Stuart” are at the point where we are actually emailing each other. Unguided free-flowing communication. About anything. Neither of us has the other’s email address, it’s done through the site’s email, but that’s good. It gives that level of protection.

My main concern, living in rural New Hampshire, and seeing that Stuart is not a “pet person“, was his attitude toward animals. I’m an animal rights activist, and an almost vegan. My fear was that, like many men in New Hampshire, he goes out hunting. So I asked him in one of our guided questionairs, about that, and no he doesn’t hunt, and yes, he does like animals, he just doesn’t want the responsibility of having one of his own.  

I asked him if it bothered him if I was a vegetarian, and he said of course not, he has friends of all varieties of persuasaions. I really liked that answer.

So that’s the latest on this romantic e-journey that I’m on. As always, I’ll keep you posted.

Love you all,
Suzann
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      Vikki Hall wrote Dec 18, 2010
    • Good Morning!

      So wonderful to hear that you are satisfied with eHarmony so far.

      I am hoping this all works out for you and can’t wait to hear moreestatic



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      Mindy Wilson wrote Dec 18, 2010
    • I can’t wait to hear more! Thanks for sharing!!

      Mindy



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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Dec 18, 2010
    • Good morning Suzann,
      I am so glad it’s going well!!!
      Keep us posted!



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      Tuliplady wrote Dec 18, 2010
    • I’m glad it’s going well for you.  Have fun with it and keep us posted. happy



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      UK Girl wrote Dec 18, 2010
    • Sounds great honey heart

      Your inspiring folk



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      Cathie Beck wrote Dec 18, 2010
    • Sounds pretty good so far, Suzann! And I like that you have the protected email option on E Harmony. I look forward to updates. ;oD  

      Cathie



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      Cheekymonkey wrote Dec 19, 2010
    • estatic This is sooo exciting and I think this is soooo great for you. I love the way they keep you protected.
      enjoy!!!!
      hugs Cris



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      Max0125 wrote Dec 19, 2010
    • It sounds promising! Good luck. A few of my friends have ended up in long term relationships compliments of eharmony.



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      Suzann wrote Dec 19, 2010
    • Thanks so much, you guys! Yes, this is turning out to be a positive experience. Slow, but that’s because they don’t “let” you get together until you’ve done their “guided communication” stuff back and forth for awhile, but as Cris says, it keeps you protected while you‘re beginning the process of meeting people.



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      Suzann wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Well, the ball is still in “Stuart“’s court - I sent him an email a few days ago and he hasn’t yet responded - so I’m sensing a non-urgency about him. A non-urgency about his wanting to find out more about me. And quite frankly, it’s a turn-off for me. I’ve fallen for the drama many times before in my life, and I don’t want drama anymore. If he’s “laid back” about getting to know me better, I’m not going to push, not going to get anxious about it, not going to fall into the need to prove to him that he really wants me.  

      So what’s my next step? I’m paid up in e-Harmony through February. I’ll give it until them, and see what happens. I’ve kind of lost interest in “Stuart” though.

      More later.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Well check out some others and maybe you will find a pet lover!



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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Hi Suzann,
      keep your eyes open. He is not only one out there.
      I think some guys feeling unsecure around Holidays.  He’ll be back.



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      Moloco2 wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Sorry about Stuart - there are many other fish out there that will jump out of the water for you!!! Chin up! estatic



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      Suzann wrote Dec 21, 2010
    • Great advice, you guys, thank you!



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      Cathie Beck wrote Dec 22, 2010
    • Suzann, I agree with the other ladies, and it would be so nice if you met someone who loves animals too.  

      Cathie



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      Suzann wrote Dec 22, 2010
    • Thanks, Cathie. I’m realizing that yes, he has to love animals. That would be a deal-breaker. My late husband was an animal lover and it was such a deep (among many) bond between us. One time my cat Peierrette (big orange tabby) got chased by a dog and we couldn’t find her. Technically she was my cat, but Mike was right there with me, searching the neighborhood for her, calling her name (not an easy same to calltongue out ), and crying with me for joy when we found her!



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      Cathie Beck wrote Dec 22, 2010
    • Suzann, while I was doing the Singlesnet thing, one man interested in me that had White carpeting in his house was a big clue to me he didn’t include animals in his life. And me too because I garden and sometimes track in dirt fron working outside even with trying to be careful. ;oD  

      You’ve only started on eHarmony and others will surface. Someone better for you!  

      Thank you for sharing the story of you and your late husband looking for your cat. The way he cared is priceless!  

      Cathie



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      Suzann wrote Dec 22, 2010
    • Cathie, that’s really something about the guy with the white carpeting!  

      You‘re right, if it’s not the right man, there’s no point in even worrying about it! I remember so many times (well, a few times anyway) between husbands when I was with a man that wasn’t exactly right, and thinking that while I don’t want to be lonely, I’d rather be alone than with a man who’s not right.



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      Cathie Beck wrote Dec 23, 2010
    • Suzann, it is kind of crazy living in the woods with White carpeting. LOL    

      Both of us will meet someone that’s perfect for us, I feel sure of it. ;oD  And I believe Eva is right about the chemistry and “kissing a few frogs“. Being open and heart ready to have a new relationship is good, and we don’t have to be in a rush. It’s not like we can’t live alone and do it well.  

      Hugs,
      Cathie



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      Suzann wrote Dec 25, 2010
    • Eva and Cathie, how right you are!!! Yes, it’s the chemistry.  

      And Eva, yes, I was fortunate to have had my late husband for the 9 years we were together. Even if I stay single the rest of my life, I’ve had true love, and I’m grateful for it and enriched by it.

      Cathie, you‘re right about not having to be in a rush. “It’s not like we can’t live alone and do it well.” That’s awesome!!!



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