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I'm brand new here, but I am no stranger to blogging. I have kept web sites for over 10 years and make my living doing high end design for big companies. Sometimes though, it's nice to write a few chatty blog posts.

I turned 40 in January, and to be honest, it was scarier than it needed to be. I felt compelled to have some monumental ceremony or achievement to mark the day, but it was just another Sunday, more or less. In the intervening months, I've started to feel an incredible freedom in my age. I think it's part of the gift of 40. Every year since 30, I've felt more confident in my tastes and passions, but at 40 I feel no need to defend them. I also find 40 bringing me a far more generous spirit toward others choices.

I've never been a judgmental person, but I confess to being a semi retired hipster. What tends to go along with hipster culture is the sense that everyone else is one way, and you and your friends are in some "in the know" rarified subculture of ever more informed choices. Even though I've always understood the fallacy of the premise, part of me did see things are far more "us and them" than they needed to be. Dropping that attitude has made me more sympathetic outwardly and more importantly, inwardly, because my personal membership in the hipster club didn't have me down on others as much constantly holding myself to a completely unattainable standard - and might I add - wholly unnecessary standard - of being in the know about a whole bunch of obscure things I didn't always care about. Now I've let that go and streamlined where I put my energy. I try to save it for things I'm genuinely interested in and passionate about, more with an eye to making myself happy than being a scintillating dinner guest. It's embarrassing to admit I did this at all, but there it is. And by my admission I feel like I've done another thing at 40 to throw off a chain - received another gift of my years so to speak. 40 seems like the age a woman can set herself free. So that's the part I'm focusing on.


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