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_I don’t know what to do with myself. I have gone thru so many things in the past few years that are considered MAJOR life changes....separation, financial difficulties, moving multiple times, children growing up, illness and finally a death of a parent, reconciltion with my husband and quitting my career and finally moving out of state. I finally have time on my hands to do all the things I never had time to do and I find myself overwhelmed with all the time. I have never been a good cook or really have enjoyed cooking but I am attempting to cook and experiment with it. The house is clean and more or less organized (not my desk tho). I always thought if I didnt work I would do some kind of volunteer work. I believe in causes like United Way, American Heart Assc, and of course Komen for the cure. I just haven’t been able to dig in to them yet. The election of course has drained me of all energy and thought. I am also working on being over 40 and adjusting to the changes my body is inflicting on me. How is it possible to lose weight in the behind yet maintain the muffin top? Am I premenupausal or not? Do I need bi focals yet? (big discussion with my eye dr since i wear contacts). Do I just sit back and relax and enjoy the ride on this part of my journey? there are so many things to ponder and to do.... where to begin? That is why I am writing this down (is that blogging?). Maybe I will come back and reread and find clarity or maybe I will just continue to log the journey.....



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 3, 2008
    • My 2 cents (China Yen) of advise:  You already contracted to this site and it consumes your life for there are so many friends here, that are a lot alike!  

      (Contracted - don’t know if that’s the right spelling, I meant contracted to a germ, disease, etc but it means good in this case for me!)



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      Elizabeth Wilkinson wrote Nov 3, 2008
    • You are not alone here. Although different.
      I also want to know how to loose that behind yet maintain the muffin top. Let me know if someone gives the answer.    

       I’ve also moved and moved, seperated, reconciled, and now I have no time to cook since I pay the bills with my new career. I miss doing all the kid running around and daily errans. Now I am never home except every other weekend.

       When I talk to the kids that are all on thier own for the most part, they don’t understand me now or take things the wrong way.

       Don’t ponder too many things, it can get depressing. Get some of the answers, just find resources atleast. Make a list for yourself of the things you want to do or try and then start to go through the list by what will make you happy to get it done. Do it for yourself. Be Happy. Help your changes in this journey take you to new hieghts. Trying couldn’t hurt but it may help you to understand more.



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      Zita Jackson wrote Nov 3, 2008
    • I went through the same thing when my twin daughters went away to college.  I was left with “empty nest” syndrome.  I had to condense the amount of food that I cooked and had to learn to go to the mall by myself.  For the first year I took a massage therapy class, which I thoroughly enjoyed in hopes of doing personal massages after I completed the course.  That never happened, but I have great skills, then I began to sew, which is one of my hobbies.  I was making everything, dresses, pants, coats, you name it.  Now I am taking an H&R block income tax course, which should earn me some extra income during tax season.  I eventually learned to enjoy the time I had alone and appreciate the fact that I had raised kids who were willing to be independent and not want to live off of mommy forever but to forge out a life on their own.  They are now in their last year of college and they are lucky to find me at home.  I am engaged now to a gentleman in Delaware so I travel back and forth between here and there and spend a lot of time at the beach.  So I guess what I’m saying is, the sky is the limit as to what you can do.  Taking classes is always a good filler because it keeps the brain active.  Can’t help you with the bifocals though; I’m in denial myself about that.  So what I did was buy a pretty pair of reading glasses from the book store and I look ever so fashionable!!!  Hope this helps.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • well the election is finally over and I did my first pilates (maybe it was yoga) with a CD today..... I’m sure at some point my body easily moved into those types of positions but now i am wondering when my arms got shorter since it’s so much harder to reach my toes....
      I appreciate the comments they did make me feel better and definitly not alone.... both my sisters just say to me “just you wait vikki, you’ll see” without actually telling me what they mean. I am taking a class on Thur in tai chi (sp?) what am I getting myself into? is it better to become good at one thing or try lots of things all at once? I wish my fingers could keep up with my brain (they should have an olympics for the brain)....
      Enjoy this beautiful day we were given....



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      Dana Arcuri wrote Nov 11, 2008
    • I wanted to mention volunteer work that is very rewarding that I have done, which you may enjoy also.  Over 10 years ago, I took a class and became an instructor for the “LOOK GOOD FEEL BETTER PROGRAM” with the American Cancer Association.  As a volunteer, I use my skills in the beauty field to help women who are less fortunate and going through chemotherapy and radiation.  Since I love skin care and makeup, I was trained to have classes with cancer patients at local hospitals.  The BEST thing about the Look Good Feel Better Program is that it is Free for cancer patients and they receive a beauty kit filled with a variety of cosmetic & skincare brands with $200 worth of products to keep!  The instructors job is to demonstrate how to take care of your skin and apply makeup.  It is a very fun and rewarding job, which truly helps encourage women to look their best during a time that they need it the most.  Check your local American Cancer Society for a Look Good Feel Good Program in your area if you are interested.  

      Best wishes to you,
      Dana



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      Dana Arcuri wrote Nov 11, 2008
    • Opps!  I made a mistake.  It is called The Look Good Feel Better Program.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 11, 2008
    • I just applied with the local Hospice to volunteer. I am waiting to hear back from them but in the meantime I will check out the ACS. My mom passed away back in Jan from lung cancer and there were so many wonderful people that talked with us and took care of my mom that I feel inspired to give back. Hopefully I can alleviate someones burdens even if only for a moment.
      Thx!



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      Dana Arcuri wrote Nov 11, 2008
    • I am sorry to hear of the loss of your mother.  My mother-in-law passed away three years ago from lung cancer.
      It is so very sad watching loved ones suffer with cancer, but working with the American Cancer Society in the Look Good Feel Better Program, did give me the opportunity to reach out to other women struggling with cancer.  In the class for women undergoing chemotherapy or radiation, there is also a volunteer Cosmetologist who teaches about wigs, hairstyles and how to use fashionable scarves & cute hats.  As a volunteer, you would have the chance to choose when you volunteer and  which hospitals that you want to work in.  I met wonderful women and it was so nice that they were able to connect with others experiencing similar health conditions.  The class is very upbeat and fun so I think that is very positive for the cancer patients and very  encouraging.

      Here is the website to check it out and see what you think!
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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • I’ll be overwhelmed too when the day comes that I have free time on my hands... but it will be a long time coming for me. I didn’t just feel empty nest beginning when my two oldests moved out. I felt the loss of their extra hands. I realized just how helpful they were! :)
      I long for the day when I can volunteer and go on mission trips with www.mannarelief.org I want to take some of my older children with me.
      I am sure you will enjoy the milder winters. :) Soddy-Daisy is a beautiful area!



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