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The soaring rhetoric from presidential candidates has been about being agents of change- and the electorate is energized by the buzzword. But is the idea of ‘change’ really so new? In 1944, the Republican governor of New York, Thomas E. Dewey, ran for President against three-term incumbent Franklin D. Roosevelt on the slogan “It’s time for a change.” Although not using the specific word, John F. Kennedy, in 1960, promised change with “Let’s get America moving again.” In the 1980’s, Ronald Regan emphasized the importance and challenge of individual citizens initiating action, saying, “All great change in America begins at the dinner table.” In his 1989 farewell address, looking back on his years in office, Reagan said, “We meant to change a Nation, and instead we changed a world.” In 1992, one of Bill Clinton’s themes was “Don’t stop thinking about tomorrow” and he used the word change 10 times in his nomination speech.
Our concern here about the concept of change is more personal and aimed at you, members of the Sandwich Generation. Have your growing children moved out, leaving a void in your life that begs to be filled? Are there significant changes going on with your aging parents that affect you directly and often? Or are you in the midst of a mid-life transition yourself and uncertain about how or in what direction to navigate?
You have no real choice but to let go of the past when change is outside of your control or inevitable. And, much more important than what happens to you, is how you handle the situation. Regardless of the specific issues you are presently facing-personally or with your family in flux - use some of the following tips to help guide your way:
In the midst of this hotly contested political campaign, all of the candidates have now joined the change bandwagon. Talk is easy, but change itself is more complicated- and when serving the public good, it’s essential to also walk the walk.
So consider yourself right in sync. In the midst of the present major change, discover what is most important at this time in your life. And in keeping with the Buddhist concept of change, remember that change can only come from within. Rely on your wisdom and past experience. As you give support to your family members who are in transition, hold on to what brings you inner peace and soul satisfaction.
© 2008, Her Mentor Center
Phyllis Goldberg, Ph.D. & Rosemary Lichtman, Ph.D. are co-founders of [Link Removed] , a Blog for the Sandwich Generation. They are authors of a forthcoming book about Baby Boomers' family relationships and publish a free newsletter, Stepping Stones, through their website. As psychotherapists, they have over 40 years of collective private practice experience.
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