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The saying "40 is the new 30" has never been truer than it is today.  Call them cougars, MILFS or whatever you'd like, women out of their 30s and into their 40s and beyond are hotter than ever.  Movie roles requiring sex appeal and depth are being taken by Hollywood's veteran leading women, many of which have dominated the spotlight for a decade and half or more.  

Demi Moore

Cameron Diaz

Demi Moore made a fierce and highly talked about comeback in Charlie's Angels Full Throttle back in 2003.  Ms. Moore stepped out of the surf in a bikini showing that age had done nothing but good things for her, even after three kids and a lengthy absence from Hollywood. However, these facts didn't stop her from effectively taking the title of hottest woman in the movie, despite sharing the spotlight with other Hollywood hotties such as Lucy Liu and Cameron Diaz.  

Julia Roberts

Julia Roberts is still one of Hollywood's most treasured leading ladies for her elegance, beauty—not to mention a face we all can't seem to keep our eyes off of.  Her role in Duplicity, out in theaters currently, is to portray a sexy, intelligent and determined woman, a role that would be completely inappropriate to be given to any of Hollywood's young starlets.  

Sarah Palin

But Hollywood isn't the only place sexy women over 40 can be seen. Sarah Palin rocked the election last year with her beauty and confidence.  This mother of five, at the age of 44, was the object of media attention both for her conservative politics and stunning looks.  Men lusted after her clean-cut look with sexy librarian glasses and a French twist that begged to be undone.  Women took equal notice of the would-be VP's appeal, clamoring after the glasses and hairstyle that was so alluring.

Michelle Obama

Michelle Obama

Michelle Obama also rocked the election with her chiseled biceps and enviable smile. She may be 45 but there is no evidence of age taking its toll on the First Lady.  

Many of these ladies are also mothers, many having more than one child and showing a fearless determination to still be hot and relevant in the media.  Motherhood used to be the death knell to women in the spotlight; it was believed that once women crossed over into the care-giving role they could no longer maintain what sex appeal they once had.

Salma Hayek

Gwen Stefani

Madonna

Never has this been more untrue; Salma Hayek, Gwen Stefani, Madonna, Courtney Cox and Teri Hatcher are all proud parents but also some of the sexiest women employed in the entertainment industry.  

Courtney Cox

Courtney Cox

In fact, Courtney Cox was just signed on as the lead in a new TV sitcom called Cougartown. Turning 40 is not the end of the glory years, it's merely entrance into an elite group of women who still hold their rank even four decades into life.  

So ladies, don't dread the passing of the years as if they signal the end of your desirability, challenge yourselves to turn the tables on the 20-somethings and show that you still "got it."  Own your age and be proud that there is a generation of hotties out there that have been and continue to strut their stuff—with all the world's admiration.

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      Feathermaye wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Great blog, Yana!

      I am so looking forward to what the future holds. My life, not to mention my state of mind, has improved with each passing decade. I can’t wait to see what’s in store for me next! happy



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • It’s a great time to be a woman over 40! We are a huge demographic with lots of buying power and presence. We have an opportunity to truly shape the future in how the media and society views and respects women. Heck, we can take over the world!



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      Yana Berlin wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • @Feathermaye, you girl are going to have a great time in your forties, simply because you had no problem hanging around “us” 40+ for so long and not having any issues turning forty. estatic



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      Jgirl1331 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Excellent blog..I’m still trying to get used to the term “cougar“..I find it offensive.



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      Rose Nino wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Fly me to the moon...I love that I’ll be 44 next month. Life only gets better.

      Great blog estatic



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      3sa wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • A cougar woman likes herself.  She is sultry, self-confident and has the power to stop men in their tracks.  She’s not the skinny, barely-dressed 25 year old - she’s much more desirable. Are you ready for the spontaneity, sensuality and pure excitement you deserve?  If the answer is yes, consider yourself timeless.  You have an incredible presence, finesse and sexiness that comes only with maturity.  You, my dear, are a cougar!



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      Oceangirl40 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Great Blog, I never looked at myself as a Cougar LOL.  I guess  I am and I so enjoyed turning 40 and still loving it.  I was lucky, when I turned 40 I went on a trip to Mexico with my sisters, mom, Aunts and cousins. It was a all woman and everyone over 18 trip, we laughed, drank and cried.  I am in my 40’s and loving it.

      Annie123 I also thought a cougar was an older woman dating or married to a much younger man.  I guess that shows what I know, I have been misinformed all these years.



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      Mary W wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • As one of those women in my late forties ... who within days will be 49, I see myself as an evolved woman .  While being a sole parent to three sons, ages 12, 14, and 16, I define myself much more broadly than a mother. Being a parent is a role that I cherish, however I do not let it hog the spotlight, as there are so many other components of my life that determine who I am.  

      At the same time my career does not define who I am.  I am thankful that I have a great career which allows me to provide for my family’s comfortable lifestyle, but I am not defined by how much money I earn.  

      In no other area have I felt more evolved and confident than in my pursuit of intimacy.  The self-awareness and confidence that I have today in the area of sensuality has evolved over time and has never been stronger than they it is today.  I have developed a novel term to define who I am when it comes to sensuality and intimacy.  I define myself as an “intellisexual.”   I talk very openly with close male and female friends about my desires and my intent to experience them.  Men are intrigued by my uninhibited way of sharing through conversation what is it I want, I think that it may take some of the burden of intimate pursuits off of their shoulders.  I have been told that they are attracted to the evolved woman I am.  

      I am a woman who takes pride in my appearance.  Appearance is not dictated by solely how fit my body is, or the the tag that is on the clothing I wear.  My appearance, how I am viewed by others is determined by both my internal and external strengths.  I feel comfortable and beautiful in my own skin and I know that it is what is on the inside, my faith, intelligence and grateful appreciation of my life to date, that creates how I am seen by others.  

      As for myself, I have never felt more confident in who I am in all the spheres of my life.  I believe that it is through the process of life-long learning and the unique cerebral ability in which I as a woman have been able to allow learning in one spectrum of my life to germinate another area of my life that is key in strengthening who I am.  I am a woman who knows who I am and what I want.  While it is wonderful to have role models who are first lady’s and actresses, it is more important for each one of us to develop who we are and to share and be inspired by the other fabulous women that make up this site and beyond.  

      I see myself as a cougar in all areas of our life.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I am a cougar deep down, I can be tamed and as sweet and lovely as a pussy cat.  estatic



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      Wittymom wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I am so enjoying the confidence that 40 has brought on, and I see that I am in good company!



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      Sandra Chaplin wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Kudos Yana on this subject because I never felt more beautiful than I do now. I’ve put my happiness for me on the back burner for to long and now I’m ready to let some of that smoke and steam be release.  

      There was many things I had to change about me and know that what ever of this remaining life I have, it time for me to enjoy it until my body literally tell me to shut it down and retire to the rocking chair and the only way that will happen is this back of mine has totally gone out of commission...lol!

      So ladies take every second to say this is my time and I’m going to make it counthappy

      Peace!!!



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      Clyn wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Im not fond of the term cougar,its used in the media as a put down or joke much of the time.



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      Glamagirl wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Love it and yes I am a Cougar.  Hear me growl proud and loud!



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      Xblackpanther wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Seems like the only people that have a problem with this is older men.  LOL



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      Juliejulz wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • i thought i would add my 2 cents and then remembered an e-mail i received a short while ago. its a huge help that the author is one of the funniest, simplest, and sharpest fellas out there. enjoy:

      THIS IS PRICELESS!
      60 Minutes Correspondent Andy Rooney (CBS)    

      As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:  

      A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, ‘What are you thinking?’  She doesn’t care what you think.  If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it.   She does something she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.    Women over 40 are dignified.  They  seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive  restaurant.  Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot  you if they think they can get away with it.   Older women are generous with praise,  often undeserved.   They know what it’s like to be unappreciated. Women get  psychic as they age.  You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.  Once you get past a  wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest.  They’ll tell you right off you are a jerk if you are acting like one.   You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.  Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons.  Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal.  For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a  bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress.  Ladies, I  apologize.  

      For all those men who say, ‘Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?‘, here’s an update for you.   Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage.  Why?   Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!    

                                     Andy Rooney is a really smart guy!  



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      Elizabeth "Libby" Day wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • As a lady 24 years past 40 I feel I am as much in my prime if not more now than I was at 40.  I am more independent, confident, and relaxed in who I am.  My body is full and toned and there is nothing I have to prove.  I will join the Medicare group in November only because that’s what my birth certificate states, but I refuse to be a senior citizen.

      Yes, this is a new age for the 40+ woman as well as the 60+.

      Thanks for the post.

      Libby



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      Sausan wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I’m not sure I like being called a cougar.  But I’m really happy where I am.  

      I’m not prowling around for a guy to keep me happy; I’m happy because at 54 a guy searched me out and pursued me.  ... And a wonderful guy he is!  I’m have a great time with that.  

      At 54, I don’t feel a need to prove to myself to anyone that I am desirable or great in bed, I already know that I am all that.  I own two very successful businesses and have done it on my own, have a circle of wonderful supportive friends, and have dealt with crises that many only hear about.  So, although I really enjoyed this blog, I cannot relate to being called a cougar.  I am a self-made woman—confident, talented, and still having much to offer to the world.  I am who I am; but not a cougar.  

      As for the pig with the small sausage, sausages are a man-made product and certainly come in all shapes and sizes.  The pig had nothing to do with the size of a sausage.  You can go to any store and buy any size sausage.  happy  But the milk is a natural product of the cow.

      I think labels make us different than who we really are.  The cougar label is just not a part of my world.

      -Sausan



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      Scootergirl1 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Ladies
      Yana, the blog has got us going
      It’s always great “hearing” you all. juliejulz, your addition from Mr Rooney will remain with me forever and a day.
      This is my time. Being 40 is truly beautiful (most of the timeestaticestatic
      A cougar is a beautiful creation.
      I’m a COUGAR.



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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Love the article....and the Andy Rooney spot was priceless also.

      Now I want to see both of these written for the woman with an additional decade of savvy and wisdom behind her....the woman over 50....ME!!  A few more wrinkles, but Cougar, nonetheless.

      When I talk to my BF about this site, he says I am misrepresenting....I answer, it Fabulously 40 and Beyond....I’m your Go-To Gal for the “Beyond” part!  estatic



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      Mindy04 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I think the meaning of the term ‘cougar’ has changed over the past couple of years. It used to imply a woman who goes after younger men (like prey). Then it was women who are involved with younger men. Now I suppose any self-confident, vibrant woman over 40 can be considered a cougar.  I think it’s all good. People recognize that a woman over 40 is as fabulous (or more fab)as any other woman.

      Mindy



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      Charlotte44 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Love this! Even though my guy is 46. I’m a cougar at heart!



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      Gloria Alice Dipiiro wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • It’s A GREAT Day to Be Alive and be 40 and above. Thank you YANA

      I feel GOOD and Sexy! Grrrrr

      Great Blog



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      Fraz764 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I’m actually beginning to love the term cougar, to me it indicates a slick, smooth, quick, clever, and sexy woman. That’s us



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      Jgirl1331 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Now..can you all try to explain all of this good stuff about us over 40 BEAUTIFUL, AWESOME, INTELLIGENT and just too darn good women..to the dense over 40 men in san diego?  

      LOL..I still don’t know if I’ll get used to cougar..I have never heard it used in a positive way until now.  It’s usually used to describe a predatory, older women who victimize young men...so, maybe I’ll read this whole blog and comments again...change my perception!  

      Either way, I’m loving being 40+!



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      Bev Schwehr wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I had my best time when I was 40. I think it is because I finally figured out who the heck I was. I was Bev, not just mom, not just hon, not someone who had to compete with every little 20 year old cutie that came along. I was sexy, smart very interesting and comfortable in me. Now I am 20+ 40 now and you know what...it gets even better.



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      Betzography wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • *LOL..I still don't know if I'll get used to cougar..I have never heard it used in a positive way until now. It's usually used to describe a predatory, older women who victimize young men...*  

      I’ll never embrace the slang term cougar. Talk to anyone who isn’t in their 40s and they’ll give you the same definition you’ve given us. It’s offensive and always will be.



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      Bozz wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Yep Im not comfortable (at the moment) with the term “cougar” either. To me it yet again implies that, yes women can be powerful, but only if their power still has something to do with being sexy/attractive as possible to men. Im SO over the “women can be powerful as long as they look and act sexy while they do it” attitude that still controls us.

      The day that women are represented as powerful, valued, validated, respected and adored in our non ‘sexy’ form (ie. looking and acting just like a normal human being), the day we can still be put on a pedestal when we are maybe looking fat, wrinkly or washed out, (as men are allowed to be) is the day I will consider things to be more equal.

      Until the term “cougar” has connotations other than just being another sexual fantasy, (just the ‘older woman’ sexual fantasy), I wont be comfortable with it.

      Sorry to rain on the parade, I agree with all your sentiments about powerful older women, I just dont like the power still only coming from how ‘sexy’ we are considered to be.

      I love women for being WOMEN and that doesnt mean only SEXINESS for me :o( (now Im getting teary because I feel so strongly about this). What happened to mothers? sisters? aunties? friends? funny girls? silly girls? brilliant women? and Im not talking about the ‘mothers, sisters, friends, aunties, funny girls, ‘desperate housewife’ images as represented in the popular media. Im talking about the mum that you cuddle because shes soft and warm and has a loving heart, the sister you adore because you play rough and tumble outside all day and you dont give even one thought to what you look like (because its IRRELEVANT), the friend you share a soul with.

      Im over LOOKS still being the predominant thing we are valued for.



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      Drummerchicksw wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I am way more popular than I ever was-it’s amazing. I love dating younger guys because I don’t feel old at all, and many older men are very routinized and not very adventurous or open-minded. The only thing is that it can be difficult trying to have a longterm relationship with a younger man. They tend to be more immature than the 20-somethings I used to date when I WAS 20-something, back in the day!

      Still, I’m having a lot of fun estatic



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      Drummerchicksw wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • And I agree with Bozz, btw. I don’t like the term “cougar“, but for different reasons. What I don’t like about the word and the stereotype is that it implies that older women “prey” on younger men. I don’t do anything of the sort. They prey on me, for the most part!

      Also, we don’t look at older men who cavort around with younger woman as “preying” on them. And they’ve been getting away with that kind of behavior for years!!

      I think it is a derogatory term but it seems like this blog is trying to reclaim it as something more positive. I suppose that’s a good thing.

      I have no problem being considered sexy. At this age, it’s a gift!



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      Lmbutterfly wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Hello all! I found some very interesting definitions of Cougar on the Urban Dictionary online: [Link Removed]

      It seems that the term is not necessarily derogatory, although some use it in that way. There is one common thread to all the different definitions, however, and that is that the “Cougar” is on the prowl for a younger man.  

      I don’t object to the word, personally, as there are also different degrees to which one appears to be “available” and is attractive to young men. It could be as mild as turning a few heads—flattering, but not necessarily something that either party would act on.  

      Here’s to you, Mrs. Robinson!  

       —Lisa


      Lmbutterfly, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      V1957 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Am am 51 and one of my young female coworkers who is the age of my daughter said I was a cougar or a milf.  I didn’t know what either term meant and had to ask.  I guess that was a compliment.  I like the idea of still being sexy, but I definately wouldn’t want to be with a younger man.



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      Karen Branum wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I wonder how we should refer to the people who who call us Cougars? they should have some kind of name too...right?



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      V1957 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • That’s too funny!



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      Butterfly13 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I always have felt age is simply 2 numbers-I dont believe in the “cougar” title since men have always dated younger women especially when you hear a man cheating on his wife with a younger woman to prove he still has it, they dont have a name like “lion“- LOL.  I have found men in their 40’s have way too much baggage since I have never had kids, or have been married Im baggage free. Bottom line men like women that are self assured, not jealous, not possessive asking a million questions such as where were you why didnt you call etc..a more mature woman can enjoy the moment and simply have fun with the wisdom to boot!!!



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      Encee wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Yes, me too.  I was always good-looking, was the prom queen for heaven’s sake! But did I think so?  No way!  That is, until I got old enough, and smart enough to think better of myself. I’m beautiful now because I think i am!

      I like the idea that women 40 and over are considered sexy.  Holly Hunter on Saving Grace i my age, and so is Madonna, and Sharon Stone.....gee.....we‘re are a powerful group don’t you think?



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      Encee wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Congratulations greekgirrrl!!!



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      Angelcart wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • IN CASE YOU MISSED IT ON 60 MINUTES, THIS IS WHAT  ANDY ROONEY THINKS ABOUT WOMEN 40 & OVER:

      AS I GROW IN AGE, I VALUE WOMEN OVER 40 MOST OF ALL.  HERE ARE A FEW REASONS WHY:

      A WOMAN OVER 40 WILL NEVER WAKE YOU IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND ASK “WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? SHE DOESN‘T CARE WHAT YOU THINK.

      A WOMAN OVER 40 DOESN‘T WANT TO WATCH THE GAME, SHE DOESN‘T SIT AROUND WHINING ABOUT IT.  SHE DOES SOMETHING SHE WANTS TO DO, AND IT‘S USUALLY MORE INTERESTING.

      WOMEN OVER 40 ARE DIGNIFIED.  THEY SELDOM HAVE A SCREAMING MATCH WITH YOU AT THE OPERA OR IN THE MIDDLE OF AN EXPENSIVE RESTARAUNT.  OF COURSE, IF YOU DESERVE IT, THEY WON‘T HESITATE TO SHOOT YOU IF THEY THINK THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT.

      OLDER WOMEN ARE GENEROUS WITH PRAISE, OFTEN UNDESERVED.  THEY KNOW WHAT ITS LIKE TO BE UNAPPRECIATED.

      WOMEN GET PSYCHIC AS THEY AGE.  YOU NEVER HAVE TO CONFESS YOUR SINS TO A WOMAN OVER 40.

      ONCE YOU GET PAST A WRINKLE OR TWO, A WOMAN OVER 40 IS FAR SEXIER THAN HER YOUNGER.

      COUNTERPART:

      OLDER WOMEN ARE FORTHRIGHT AND HONEST.  THEY‘LL TELL YOU RIGHT OFF IF YOU ARE A JERK, IF YOU ARE ACTING LIKE ONE.  YOU DON‘T EVER HAVE TO WONDER WHERE YOU STAND WITH HER.

      YES, WE PRAISE WOMEN OVER 40 FOR A MULTITUDE OF REASONS.  UNFORTUNATELY, IT‘S NOT RECIPROCAL.

      FOR EVERY STUNNING, SMART, WELL-COIFFED, HOT WOMAN OVER 40, THERE IS A BALD, PAUNCHY RELIC IN YELLOW PANTS MAKING A FOOL OF HIMSELF WITH SOME 22-YEAR OLD WAITRESS.  LADIES, I APOLOGIZE.

      FOR ALL THOSE MEN WHO SAY, “WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE?  HERE‘S AN UPDATE FOR YOU.  NOWADAYS 80% OF WOMEN ARE AGAINGST MARRIAGE.  WHY?

      BECAUSE WOMEN REALIZE IT‘S NOT WORTH BUYING AN ENTIRE PIG JUST TO GET A LITTLE SAUSAGE!

      AUTHOR:  ANDY ROONEY  (GOTTA LOVE HIM!estatic)



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      Tok08 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • As a 40 something british woman - I have never heard of the term Cougar before - it must be uniquely American. I certainly didn’t see it as a derogatory term, more empowering - power, sleek, clever, wise and fleet of foot - these are the images that spring to my mind.If a younger prey happens to get in the way, so much the better - as one of my favourite sayings go, you‘re only as young as the man you feel happy. Just joking ladies! It’s all a state of mind - I think I’ll stay with the empowering Cougar, and my cat agrees happy
      Have a great day over there ladies.



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      Sausan wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • Badgers?



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      Bassoon2 wrote Apr 2, 2009
    • I’d prefer to be an Alpha White Wolf



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