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Challenges can only beat us down if we let them, it is an individual choice to rise up and become stronger than before—adversity teaches us lessons that cannot be learned any other way. A piece of hard black coal can never become a sparkling diamond if isen’t first immersed in a refiner’s fire

I’ve struggled with heartache and betrayal in my life, as I’m sure everyone has. One of the most difficult times was when my marriage of fourteen years fell apart-actually it was torn apart because of my husbands’ addiction to pornography. I was tested in ways I had never imgained, including feeling deep despair in my worth as a woman. I figured his addiction was because something was wrong with me.

Time is a great teacher and I learned the problem wasn’t about me, but something he was fighting inside. I remember sitting down to dinner each night, the first few weeks after he moved out, looking at the faces of my four boys and barely able to swallow a few bites of food before my eyes would fill with tears. I wondered how I could ever be happy again. Sometimes the pain was so deep I didn’t think I could live through it.

But here I am, ten years later, happily remarried to a man who loves and respects me, the mother of a beautiful daughter I never thought I would have, and a much stronger and compassionate person. My former husband’s addiction became my refiners fire, but the joy I’ve discovered since then has been as great as the pain was terrible.

I want to help others by sharing my story, and I have written a book about the experience as well as formed a support group for other women struggling in similar situations. More information can be found on my website [Link Removed]

Whatever storms blow our way in this journey called life, remember—the sun always comes out again.


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      Leeann wrote Aug 20, 2008
    • It sounds like you got through a really tough time. I find peace in what you said. whatever storms blow our way in journey called life, remember - the sun always comes out again. Thanks.



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      Amy L. Harden wrote Aug 21, 2008
    • You have an amazing story and one that many woman have and still do deal with on a daily basis.  We all know of this addiction that men struggle with, yet seem to blow it off as just something that is a “Guy” thing.  It is far more damaging then we realize, especially if it is something that we don’t have to deal with inour own lives.  Thank you for sharing your story....indeed, there is calm after the storm...you are living proof.



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      Janiegirl2vic wrote Aug 21, 2008
    • Hi Diony,
      I’m so glad you‘re on this site!  I actually joined just yesterday (Aug 21) for the purpose of hopefully finding support, advise, or whatever the Lord would provide as hope in helping my 18 year old son break free from his porn addiction.  I will most likely order your book.  

      Please check out my profile and read my short blog (re: my son) if you get a minute.  I would truly appreciate any feedback you might offer.  Thanks in advance!

      God bless you,
      Jane



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      Diony wrote Aug 22, 2008
    • Hi Jane,
      I just joined the day before you, hoping I could reach  more women with my message. I know God’s hand was in this.  

      I’m sorry to hear about your son, pornography can be such a devastating influence on our children, as well as marriages. My former husband became involved in porn as a teenager and it ended up taking over his life. But there is HOPE! The fact that you know about your son’s addiction is already a huge plus—openness is the key to getting help. My husband tried to keep his a secret our entire marriage (fourteen years) and he didn’t get the help he needed in time to save ours. Through my research in writing my book I’ve learned so much compassion and understanding for those struggling with this. I also feel the great need to educate our children about how serious of a “drug” porn is before they become exposed.  

      I hope my book can help your family. My website has a lot of links for support and help and I’m also organizing an on-line support group if you are interested in becoming a part of it.  

      Take Care,
      Diony



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      Janiegirl2vic wrote Aug 22, 2008
    • Thanks for commenting back.  Your words of encouragement are medicine to my hurting heart!  Yes, I am certainly interested in an online support group.  What do I need to do to get involved?  (I will be ordering your book soon)



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