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My mother left again today...I felt it coming for awhile now but I did not know it would be today. I have lost count for the many times she left for the simplest things.  

Last night during a discussion she got upset about a comment I made and then she went silent. I got up this morning met her in the kitchen and every thing was fine until she started to make remarks about me not having a medicine cup in the house while I was looking for the one I knew I had.  

She has an art of manipulating my other siblings to make them think that I was cruel to her and I do believe they think it is so even though she does the same to them. How do I relate to a parent that continues to upset my life and make me feel so robbed of the support I need even at this age.

Even though I did not get from her and my father the support and direction I need to propel me in the right direction to achieve. I still love her and want to give her what she needs to feel happy. I want her to forget her painful past when she growing up and I want her to forget the things that my father did to her. It brings tears to my eyes knowing I did nothing to her and she accused me of being a hypocrite because I called to her before leaving home today.

She left today her last words to my hubby was that she tried to live with me but she cant. Did she try? I saw it and I felt it long ago. She left today and I know it will happen again....It has happened many times before.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Jul 3, 2010
    • Jank, I feel your pain. Girlfriend listen I know that is your mother and for whatever reasons you and she can’t see eye to eye what you MUST realize is this you can’t control what another person does or their feelings. You should focus on you and begin to live for you! It seems your mother has a manipulating spirit about her and if she can’t control a person or her environment she up and runs. She is an overly grown and very capable woman who seems to be able to care for herself seeing she can run at a moments notice, honey you need to let go and let her fend for herself. I know it’s mom, but if you don’t begin to live your life you’ll find yourself sick with depression amongst other things and you don’t need that you have a husband and a life now live it and enjoy it, trust and believe mom will be ok, and if not its only due to her short comings and not yours, life is what you make it, now get to making your life again with your hubby, I wish you all the best.happy



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      Karyn Olson wrote Jul 3, 2010
    • I also can relate...I have always had a stormy relationship with my mother...I finally got tired of it so I let it go...I quit trying to make it right and patch things up and believe me it was for the best....it took some time but now me and my mother are close...now when she says or does something that I do not agree with...I leave it alone...and eventually it goes away...I am not sure if this has helped any...wishing you the best in this...happy



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      Lazylola wrote Jul 4, 2010
    • Great advice from Neicy



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