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Then: A Bridesmaid

Now: Mother of the Bride

Aunt Grandma Mother Of The Bride

I can't tell you how many times I was a bridesmaid.  Or how many times I stood in front of a mirror in one of those chiffon dresses hearing the bride exclaim that all of us bridesmaids looked just lovely in the same dress.  One that we knew couldn't and didn't look good on all of us. Some of them didn't look good on any of us.

And then there was the cost of all these dresses.  The bride always said that we could wear the dress again.  I even uttered those words myself when it was finally my time to be the bride.  I assured my bridesmaids that, yes, they would definitely wear that Rhoda-type head scarf again.

What was I thinking?  Obviously, not much.  Not one of those dresses saw the light of day or the twinkle of a starry night, ever again.

Ironically enough, though, my daughter did wear my wedding dress (it was purple, not white) to a Fall Formal.  But that's another story.  

The thing is, we expect to be bridesmaids more than once in our lives.  And to layout the money in order to walk down the aisle with a good friend.  But we don't expect to be the "mother of the bride" again, not if we only have one daughter.  In that case, we hope for one wedding.  One reception.  One "mother-of-the-bride" dress.   Because let me tell you, shopping for that dress isn't easy.  

Not only do we want to look good, but face it.  We want to look better than the “mother of the groom.”   Who I'm sure wants to look better than the “mother of the bride.”  It's just the way we women are.  

So, I  walked in and out of dressing rooms, trying on clothes that fit the body that I wished I had.  Such as breasts that actually formed a cleavage.  Arms that didn't jiggle like jelly.  Feet that could still wear a decent pair of heels.   After many hours, I finally found a dress that accentuated the good parts of my middle-aged body.    

This wedding took place on the beach in Maui as the sun set over the Pacific Ocean.  It was a beautiful affair and even better, I know I will wear this dress again.    

I just hope I never wear the label "Mother Of The Bride" again.  At least, not in this life.

PS.  Thanks to Cynthia for the delicious truffles!

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 23, 2009
    • The pleasure was all mine! I just wish we could have met. I have a confession to make - I drove to the airport around the time you were due to arrive hoping I could extend a welcome to you in person. No luck. I drove around the car rental area looking for the woman I see in your profile photo. No luck. Then you said your flight was late getting in and I knew why I missed you.

      Making the chocolates was a joy. I even had the chance to meet David Paul when I delivered them - that could be a good connection for me.

      I love the photo of you, your sister and mom and hope that your family had a wonderful time all together on this vacation. Sometime when I’m passing through Los Angeles on a visit to my mom - we’ll get together for coffee.


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      Janie Emaus wrote Nov 23, 2009
    • Cynthia,

       That was SO sweet of you.  I’m sorry our plane was so late.  I wouldn’t have been hard to hair was one giant frizz ball as it was raining when we landed.

      Thanks again.

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      Lindao wrote Nov 23, 2009
    • I was a “mother of the groom” last year, Janie.  And, yes, I wanted to look gorgeous.  I think I did okay, and I chose clothes that I could wear again sometime, although I haven’t yet.  Congratulations on your daughter’s marriage! —LindaO

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      Tinaf wrote Nov 23, 2009
    • Janie, I totally cracked up at the Rhoda head scarf!  I’d forgotten about those!

      Congrats to you and your daughter on the wedding...and the wedding sounded divine!

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