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Then:  Hot Guys

Now:   Hot Flashes

It used to be that a hot guy could turn my body upside down, filling me with anxiety, making it hard to think straight.  As the adrenalin rushed through my veins, my heart would pump loudly and I'd forget what I was trying to say, mumble something incoherent and hope that my smile was getting to “him” the same way “he” was getting to me.  

Nowadays, I still have anxious moments where my adrenalin pumps quickly and my heart pounds loudly.  I quite frequently lose my train of thought, not to mention a particular word.  And I often mumble incoherently, causing those around me to think I've entered early Alzheimer's.  

Unfortunately, this time around, it's not because of a hot guy...but the result of a hot flash!

You know, where the heat starts from deep inside you, and begins slowly to creep out your pores, drenching your neck and forehead.

It's something I can't control any more than I could control my bodily reactions to those handsome guys.   But at least back then I was taking off my clothes for something fun.  

Now, as I strip off the layers I've learned to wear, I merely get "you poor thing" looks from my yet to enter menopausal friends, a drenched shirt and the shivers, once the hot flash passes.

    

But quite honestly, I can live with the hot flashes, and even the mood swings which come on so unexpectedly.  One minute I'm perfectly fine and the next I'm crying over an AT&T commercial.  One second I'm browsing through the bookstore without a care in the world, the next I'm obsessing over the amount of gel I put in my hair.    

Even though these fluctuations in behavior make me “look” crazy, it's the "word forgetting" that is “driving” me crazy.  Right during important conversations, I completely forget what something is called.  Person, place or thing.  Nothing escapes this malady.  

I keep saying that all those words are going to be waiting for us on the other side of Menopause.  And that we're going to have these fabulous vocabularies, with a few outdated expressions - depending on how long it takes to get through, as my good friend calls them our "personal summers."  Personally, I don't think mine are ever going to end.

Maybe if I gave up some of my favorite things, like coffee, my work-out sessions, fine wine and those extra-dry, extra-cold martinis.  Things which upset my hormonal balance and trigger a hot flash.  But these are the also things I share with my best friends.  Women who relate completely to what I'm going through.  Women who I need to get me through the day.  

And for those women, I am thankful.  

So, pass the fan and that bottle of...you know red stuff made from grapes...Oh, here it comes...off with my sweater...



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      Tinaf wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • Wonderful blog, and love the idea that the words we can no longer find aren’t gone forever, just having a party as they lie in wait for us to arrive...



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      Lindao wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • It’s really great to share frustrations like words disappearing, then coming back—which is particularly exasperating to a writer!  Keep ‘em coming, Janie. —LindaO



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      Lindao wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • Okay, I started repeating myself and deleted the duplicate comment.  Another sign of baby booming? No, at least this time I could blame it on a slow computer since I pushed the send button twice!



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      Justjer wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • I really enjoyed reading and relating to your experiences.  And, actually, this too may pass (I mean the hot flashes).
      I totally support your decision to keep the important things in life (ie.alcohol,coffee, friends, etc}. And thanks for the link to the other site so I can enjoy your stories. Looking forward to more.
      Uh Oh I just tried to locate that link I saw a bit ago, and whaddayouknow...I can’t find it.



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      Arliep wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • You  described my condition to a T. I love the way you write. Do you have anything published? I would love to read anything else that you might have had published. Short stories, articles or books?? Your type of writing is what my book group prefers. We have been meeting for over 15 years- most of us are in menapause with a few exceptions of women trailing close behind.
      Looking forward to much more .
      Thanks for bringing humor to the “not so humorous stage of life”



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      Sandyde wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • God, I swear you‘re sneaking inside my head, Janie!  

      Great blog, many moments of laughter and many moments of yeah I hear that. LOL.

      Sandy



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      Janie Emaus wrote Sep 13, 2008
    • Tinaf, Lindao, Justjer, Arliep & Sandye,

       I’m so glad you can all relate to what I’m saying.  And Arliep, when I publish my first Women’s Fiction novel, you’ll be the first to know.
      Getting older is inevitable, so we might as well face it with laughter.

      Janie



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      JoAnn Donahue wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • Hey Janie,

      Great blog..

      insightful and honest!

      I like it..

      And giving up the things that matter

      to get thru something that we know we have to get thru

      and we also know it will pass. Nope, not doing it! :)

      it’s going to happen with or with-out them.

      It’s nice to talk openly about these things with others..

      Thanks for this place!

      JoAnn



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      Janie Emaus wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • joanndonahu,

        I so agree.  We can’t give up the things that matter.  Thanks for the comment.  I look forward to seeing you again.
      Janie



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      Sylvia wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • HANG IN THERE!!  ONE DAY THE HOT FLASHES WILL BE GONE.
      HURRAY!!



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      Humming1975bird wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • Janie,

      Loved the blog.  Sounds a lot like me.  The worst part for me is the mood swings (OH MY GOSH)!  I can cry over practically ANYTHING!  Combine this with the empty nest syndrome and I seriously don’t know how my husband lives with me!



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      Janie Emaus wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • Hi Humming1975bird,

        Thanks for your comment.  I’m hoping a lot of babyboomers can relate to my Then and Now columns.

        Have a great weekend.

      Janie



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