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Then: Married 65 minutes

Now: Married 65 years

We all think that when we are get married, it's for a lifetime, but how many couples can actually live out that dream?  This past week, my parents celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary.  Even Hallmark doesn't think anyone will stay married that long because finding cards and gifts was difficult.  Everything stops at 50.  

My parents have a beautiful love story.  My sister and I tried to follow in their footsteps, but between the two of us, we gave our parents five son-in-laws.  You do the math.

Granted, my parents got married when they were young.   Most people don't marry in their teens anymore.  But even so, the big D is more prevalent today than it used to be.  Is it because we give up too easily?  It's supposed to be for better or worse.  But should we stay together when the "worst" outweighs the better?

My mother's secret to a happy marriage is  - never go to bed angry.  My dad's secret is to agree with my mom.  But they didn't always agree on everything.  Who can?

But when I asked my mom what she wanted to do to celebrate, she said it didn't matter where she was as long as she was with my father.  And he said the same about her.

It doesn't get much better than that.



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      Tinaf wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Wow, Janie, that’s a beautiful and inspiring story!  My husband and I are at 23 years already...but we’d have to be awfully old to make it to 65 years...in fact, I don’t even WANT to do the math on that!  =)



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      Lindao wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Janie, that is so sweet!  All the very best to your parents, and many more happy anniversaries to come. —LindaO



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • So cool!! It makes me sad to know there’s no chance of being married 50 years to my spouse—he is 53, I am 42 and we just got hitched.



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      Janie Emaus wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Tina - I’ll be married 30 years in January. And we’ll be awfully old, too if make it to 65.  Not that we wouldn’t, it we lived that long.

      Linda - I’ll pass your wishes on to my parents.

      Annie - Thanks for your congratulations.  

      Cindylou - Well, you could live to be 103!

      Teeky - My parents walk around holding hands and I’m sure they do touch people everywhere they go.



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      Jenni0811 wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • No it doesn’t. It’s a rare and wonderful thing when commitment really works. They have all my respect and well wishes for the next 65!



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • What a beautiful love story! I’m at 9 years.



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      Chattycathie wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Between my sister and I we have done 5 anniversary montages for 50th anniversaries this year.  We started to think that 1958 was the year people who married were guaranteed to stay together.  By the 3rd one I started asking the couples what they thought the secret is to staying together so long.  I got the same answer from all three.  They didn’t ever think of the other choice.  One said that after going through the war, and losing family—the thought of separation was not something she ever wanted to experience again.  I think that younger couples who want to learn to stay together could learn from these older ones.  Of course, I can’t speak from experience, since I never married.  But I truly admire people who when they say “I Do“, they mean it.

      Great post again Janie.

      Cathie
      Tears of Joy Video



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      Sylvia wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • ““:[Link Removed]  What a lovely tribute.  Just finished crying.  It is beautiful.  Thank you for such a lovely anniversary story.  What you wrote is the truth about our lives.  We are still in love and always will be.  Thanks also to all those who made such lovely /


      Sylvia, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      Yana Berlin wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Happy Anniversary To A Very Special Couple!

      Beautiful story, Jenie, you did it once again.

      I was so lucky to have two sets of grandparents growing up, and they were married forever.
      One of my grandfather’s died, but the other one lived to celebrate the 65 wedding anniversary with my grandma.

      Their secret to success, as told by my grandpa at 95  

      “I was the head of the house, grandma was the neck. Where ever she turned, that’s where we went. I was the strength, she was the reason, I was the optimist, she was the realist, together we made it work“.

      My grandma passed away few years ago, I talk to my grandpa several times a week. He makes me laugh every single time. When I ask him how he is, his response is usually:
      “I’m existing...with drugs today, they will keep me alive forever. Grandma must be pissed off“.

      Got to love the guy, at 95 he has more sense of humor than most people I know.



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      Janie Emaus wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Jenni, Vigirl, Cathie - Thanks for your wonderful comments.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Janie, how wonderful.. I love the hand pictures.. soo telling.. and wonderful.  Love lasts.. Im so encouraged.



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Janie, I love this. I’m a little sad, too, that I won’t get fifty years with Scott, but I’m making the most of every minute with him, so they will all absolutely count.

      Thanks for sharing your parents and their love with us.



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • That is a wonderful tribute. I don’t think I know anyone who has celebrated their 65th. That is so awesome. We have been married 22. I hope we‘re walking around holding hands 43 years from now! Yana I love what your Grandpa said! :)



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      Janie Emaus wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Yana - How nice that you still have your grandfather and that he’s still has a sense of humor.

      Greeneyedlady - Yes, love lasts.  All you have to do is find the right person.

      Feathermaye -  Making the most of every minute is what really counts.    

      Thank you all so much for your comments.



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      Sandyde wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Janie, what a beautiful story, and after such a horrid week for me frown.  It really brightened my evening.  My grandparents were married 61 years (my grandmother died before they saw 62).  My grandfather lived another 10 years, and while all the little old ladies chased him around  he never remarried.  He said my grandmother was the love of his life and he’d never dishonor her memory by replacing her.

      Love stories like these don’t come along very often, but they do inspire us, don’t they happy

      Sandy



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      Linni wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • Janie, thank you for sharing such a beautiful love story! please tell them i said congradulations!

      Yana.. i LOVE what your Grandfather said! LOL



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      AnneMarie Kimberling wrote Nov 16, 2008
    • What a sweet story!  My grandparents celebrated 60 years and we had the BESTEST celebration for it...  Oh the memories... Congratulations to your parents.



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      Arliep wrote Nov 23, 2008
    • wow
      Just wept after reading this beautiful blog about your parents.  You and your sister are very lucky.

      Write  on..you are great



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      Encee wrote Dec 13, 2008
    • I love this story.  How inspiring.  

       I’d like to do an email interview you for an article on my website.   Send me a message here if you‘re interested.  It would not be until sometime in January.  

      Big hugs,  

      Nancy



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