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Then: The Rolling Stones

Now: Kidney Stones

One day you go to bed without any wrinkles and wake up wondering what kind of little bird left those imprints near your eyes and in the corners of your mouth. How come yesterday you could do fifty sit-ups and now you're lucky if you can sit up in bed without straining a muscle. You used to be able to stay up partying well past midnight and still function at work the next day, without that three-o-clock nap. And you could handle stress without getting one of those hot flashes that makes you think you've just run a marathon and leaves you drenched in a sauna-like sweat.  

You ask yourself – When did these changes take place? They came on without you expecting them. No flashing yellow light. No life sign posted on the side of the road warning: Merging into middle age.

And then you find yourself talking about things you never used to talk about. Your health. Oh sure, you used complain about those yearly mammograms (you'd think with all this technology that they could do away with squeezing your breasts between those cold pancake turners and simply press your breasts up to an iPhone for the x-ray) and those oh-so-invasive pap smears. But health issues didn't rank up there with gossiping about the overly-dressed woman who just wouldn't stop talking at the PTA meeting. Or the fabulous shoe sale at Nordstrom's.  

But somehow over the past few years, health has crept into more and more of our conversations. Take the other night, for example. My husband and I were having dinner with some friends. The Rolling Stones were playing softly in the backyard (any louder and we wouldn't be able to hear each other talk) when suddenly I realized we had just spent an entire hour talking about medical procedures.  

About high blood pressure instead of the pressure in our bike tires after those long rides we used to take. About trips to the ER instead of taking trips to an altered state of mind. Not that spending time in the ER isn't like going to an altered universe, but it certainly isn't as much fun. About blood tests instead of pregnancy tests. About the differences between HDL's and LDL's instead of MBA's and MFA's.  

And I realized the word "stroke" had been in several of my conversations lately and not in reference to swimming across a pool of water. But the pool of life and how suddenly the waters can change.  

Oh sure, this isn't all we talked about. But somehow now that I've passed the middle of my life, these issues are calling out for my attention.  

I'm going to listen to what my body is telling me. Even if it takes a few conversations to fully understand what's being said. And I'm going to do all I can to help my friends and family listen to theirs.  

As the The Rolling Stones sang...
"Well, we all need someone we can lean on
And if you want it, you can lean on me
Yeah, we all need someone we can lean on
And if you want it, you can lean on me."



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      Feathermaye wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • Janie, this is by far my favorite of your articles! The title alone sent me off into laughter.

      I love your perspectives, and how creatively you "Then and Now" wow me.

      Nicely done! :)



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • I get Kidney Stones often, every two years.  My doctor tested everything and Ive had Lithotripsy three times.  Its not fun and I have another kidney stone forming in my right kidney already a 9mm.  It doesnt hurt it just the thought of knowing you have to have Lithotripsy. Its a sonic surgery where the stone is shattered by sound.  No cuting.

      My doctor said some people are geneticaly made up to produce stones, and Im one.  Im in perfect health otherwise.  Id love to get the book if its real, and try it.  My father said that Lemonaide is best for stones, so Ive been trying that.

      Great article and cute about the rolling stones, actually people with Kidney stones dont have a fun time, its painful for most as pieces of the stones pass and are painful, I havent had that but my father has been up many nights with the painful stones.

      Thanks for you article.



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      Sylvia wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • ““:[Link Removed] a fabulous story.  I am living exactly what you wrote.  My friends and I do talk about other things, but not until we finish our discussion on what doctor we saw last and what happened.  etc.  This story really hit home.  I loved it.   Sylvia/


      Sylvia, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      Tinaf wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • Janie, another great blog.  And funny, it seems that I never discussed health issues when I was young, then went through pregnancies, babies and toddlers, discussed them all the time, then fell back into the lull...and now they‘re back again! (All with the Rolling Stones playing in the background...)



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      Sandyde wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • Another great blog, Janie.  Once again, you reached right inside my head happy

      Sandy



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      Janie Emaus wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • Feathermaye - I’m glad you liked this column.  I have to admit that they are really fun to write.

      Greeneyedlady - I wouldn’t think that having Kidney Stones would be much fun.  I do remember when my father had Gall Stones and was glad when that ordeal was over.



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      Janie Emaus wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • Sylvia, Tina & Sandy - Thanks for your comments.  Life does change as we get older, doesn’t it?



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • I was diagnosed with Kidney stones when I was pregnant last year...I also had an infection in my kidney and UTI. I’d known about the UTI’s as it was a recurring problem but ‘they’ just treated the problem over and over again.  

      In my third month I woke up with a sharp pain and my husband called Kaiser, they sent an ambulance and I was taken to the nearest hospital (one that I hate)...I was hooked up to an I.V. and after a few hours, discharged. The discharging Dr. told my husband that I had a severe infection (blood in my urine was detected) and that he’d better take me to my Dr. in the morning.

      We went home and waited. Got to Kaiser the next morning and was immediately admitted to another hospital where the final diagnosis was made. We were told had I waited another 24 hours, all likelyhood was that my baby and I would have died. That’s how gravely ill I was...I spent 5 days in the hospital and hubby was right by my side...While there, the largest of the stones were ‘flushed’ out...Painful...

      Thank God there has been no other recurrence since I delivered, although I have to be checked every 6 months for a while...

      Just wanted to share...



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      Janie Emaus wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • Soulful- Thanks for sharing your story.  I’m so glad it all turned out okay.  Have a great weekend.

      Janie



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Oct 24, 2008
    • Hey janie,

      Could a woman ever get away with looking as haggard and beat down as Keith Richards?



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      Diane Klapper wrote Oct 25, 2008
    • Hi Janie,
      It’s me one of your biggest admirers. I really enjoy all your blogs they‘re very clever. I hope you never run out of then and now. I’m amazed that you can remember then becaue I can’t even remember yesterday. Looking forward to your next blog.
      givalook



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      Janie Emaus wrote Oct 25, 2008
    • Cindylou  - You‘re so right about Keith Richards.

      Givalook - Thank you for your kind words.  I hope I never run out of ideas, too!



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Oct 25, 2008
    • You know the saying, “If you remember the 60’s, you weren’t really there?” Not true!! I’m sure you really were there, Janie, taking it all in to carry us back.



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      Yana Berlin wrote Oct 25, 2008
    • Janie, you are a classic.....



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      Pamaloon wrote Oct 26, 2008
    • Yesterday I was at a conference and walked up and down several flights of stairs - and uh, Janie, today I need you to lean on! ;)

      I’m starting to understand how my parents felt when we’d go hiking, and my sister and brother and I would run ahead, and they would take FOREVER to catch up to us. FOREVER! I couldn’t figure out what took them so long - we were just walking, for Pete’s sake.

      Now I get it. :)



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      Janie Emaus wrote Oct 26, 2008
    • Yana - Thanks for your comment.

      Empower - Thanks for stopping by.  

      Pamaloon- You can lean on me, anytime!



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Oct 26, 2008
    • empower...not the cranberry juice itself...makes my throat sore...but I do have the cranberry pills...and I just started my acidophilis pills again...they really are a ‘cure all’



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      Lindao wrote Oct 27, 2008
    • Great post, Janie.  I remember not thinking much at all about my health years ago, but I eagerly watched the segment on The Today Show this morning about how I could calculate how long I was likely to live! —LindaO



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