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Okay Ladies this is my therapy session.
I have been in Louisiana since the 11th of January. I won’t be back to my own bed until Febuary 10th. I will than be home 1 week and have to go back!
I have been helping my husband take care of both of his parents who were injured in 2 seperate incidents.
I miss my quiet. I miss my routine.
I miss my life.
I have forgotten what is like to be around people 24/7. I have forgotten that the parents way is the only way.happy
I have had numerous confrintations with my hubby’s sister, who is not very stable person to begin with.
I have had to get my in-laws finances in order(what a mess).
I just want to go outside and scream at the top of my lungs! But I know I would then have to explain why I screaming to everyone.
As much as I truely care for these people I am starting to resent the whole situation. Of course than that brings me guilt.
Am I going crazy? or am I normal?
I want to just take an afternoon for myself, but than feel guilty because my hubby would be there by himself. His Father is not the nicest person I have ever met. He always has to tell my hubby what he is doing wrong. He has always been extremely hard on hubby!
I want me bed! I want my sitting chair and I want my computer. I miss my home! Why does missing what I have make me feel so guilty.
Oh I hope they heal fast!!!!
Thank you for letting me vent!



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jan 24, 2009
    • Oh, your feeling of overwhelm is totally legitimatize.  Guilt though is negative.  You are entitled to also take good care of yourself before you can take care of others.  You need recharge too.  You really need to scream and rejuvenate.  Talk to your husband and perhaps he would work it out with you.  Maybe way before everyone is up or late at night.  This is almost a must to be fair to yourself and others.  Take care.



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      Mary Clark wrote Jan 24, 2009
    • You are very normal.....you are not going crazy.....you should not feel guilty and you should not go outside and scream..LOL.  That would be another problem all by itself..the explaining.  

      Taking care of elderly parents is extremely hard.  It’s not easy on anyone so don’t feel like you‘re not doing a good job.  All the things you mentioned are hard to do...not to mention just handling their personalities.
      There is nothing wrong with missing YOUR life...nothing at all.  Anyone would miss their bed...their routines....that is normal.  So quit feeling guilty.  

      But what you are doing is a good thing.  Listen...one day..we are all going to be in the same boat if we live that long.  I certainly don’t want to be a burden on anyone but I do want someone to help me.  As people get older....things change...personalities change.....your demands change...and things that use to be important or no longer that way.  It’s hard....and you have to remember it’s just as hard for the elderly person to accept that this is my life too.  

      Now it doesn’t give anyone the right to be ugly to the person who is trying their best to help them.  But...unfortunately it happens.  

      Your husband needs to give you a break and don’t feel guilty about it either.  He certainly can do his part.  Take some time off for yourself and regroup.  As far as your sister in law...stay cordial and just try to get along.  When your in laws are gone one day...you will be glad that you took care of them and did the right thing whether they appreciate it or not.  

      Good luck....and just remember..you are special and will be blessed for your good works..



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      Rystmom wrote Jan 24, 2009
    • Will talk to him. Thank you for your advice
      Sue



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      Raysa Santana wrote Jan 24, 2009
    • It’s not easy taking care of a parent.  I took care of my mom until the day she died and I always felt she didn’t appreciate all that I did for her.  Many times she was mean spirited, but I did what I had to do.  However, I did take time for myself every now and then.  You have to.  It’s the only way you’ll keep your sanity.  Even if that just means, locking yourself in a room and reading a book for 1 hour.  Do something you enjoy.  You’ll feel much better afterwards.  When my mom passed, I knew that I had done everything I could for her.



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