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My daughter, 15 years old, has began to change into the “terrible teens” yes, just when you thought it was safe to go back into the water after the “terrible twos” it isn’t so.

She has changed almost overnight into this giggling, texting, and myspace chatting person.  When I talk to her now she answers with one word answers and with an attitude for no reason.  

Now you know I can only take so much. Today I told her that she needs to stop treating me nasty and she says, “treating you nasty?” I said yes.  I have and do everyday sacrifice so much for you and you seem very ungrateful.  She says, “ungrateful“?

I just looked at her and told her the facts and that if she can’t see how much I sacrifice for her I’ll start to show her how much.  She just looked at me.  I told her that if she was going through something she needs to talk to me about it but I am not going to stand for the way she is treating me anymore.

I mean I wake up on weekends at 6:30 AM to take her to competitions for color guard, pick up and take her to practice every Monday and Wednesday, pay lots of $$ for color guard and band camps, and every weekend she has something to do and I have to take her or pick her up.  

She is suppose to be with her dad every other weekend but she stop doing that....that’s another story, but instead she is suppose to  go over her sister’s because we are suppose to have a childless weekend that we all agreed (all the kids with the other parent every other weekend, that’s 3  - 15 year olds and its for their own growth not just for our sanity).  But I have also sacrifice this because of her needs with color guard and Walter is none to happy but puts up with it because he loves me.

I am just venting, and I already feel better.

I told her in the car on the way just now to practice that she is going over her sister’s after practice and I’ll pick her up in the AM for her competition, she asked why, and I said so that Walter and I can have some alone time.  She just said yeah ...ok.  So selfishly she looked at me.  It’s so sad.  I told her well I guess I am just another mother now like all the rest, you don’t talk to me anymore or anything I guess I see you when you are 21....of course I started crying.

Thanks for listening!  Now time for coffee and Kaulua.  Oh and then I looked like this driving her to practice but forgot until people started looking at me....well that gave me a laugh and I THANK GOD FOR THE GIFT OF LAUGHTER!



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      Fraz764 wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • Girl, and then she will turn 16! Whew!



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      Renee Robinson wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • 3asa’s have faith and hold on.  I have two (2) teenager daughters and i’m a single mom.  It’s scary but I had a 3 year stint with my now 17 year old giving me the blues.  Your daughter seems mild in comparison to mine and the things she said and the disrespect.  We worked it out because she was patient with me.  LOL.  There were times when I thought I mght not see her again—these weren’t good thoughts running through my head—and me behind bars.  

      Nevertheless, as I begin to set limits in a the legal way, she begin to come around and see my point of view along with lots of prayer and direction.

      I don’t know what happens around this age, but it seems like some one steals their bodies and minds.  As I was going through this, I started thinking about when I was a teenager and if I treated my mother like this.  Probably not, I was an angel,(LOL).  But I’m sure my mother at times wanted to trade me in.

      Thanks much for sharing this and the picture, by the way, is hillarious!!  Made my day and made me feel better about teenagers.  And can you believe I teach them everyday too...............Oh God why this cruelty?  LOL



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      Mztracy wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • omg, I will have 2 same age terrible teens in 3 mos.
      I feel for you darlin’

      even frazzled u r adorable!estatic



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • Can we throw step children in the mix? Hard enough sometimes to love your own but when they‘re someone else’s, eeeegadd! I feel for you, honey. Sometimes it’s a long wait for them to finally pull their heads out, of you know what I mean.

      But, 3sa, I have to say this, even with that look on your face in the car, you are gorgeous! What pretty eyes you have!



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • Love your picture, 3sa.  You look fabulously even you have that moment.  Huz.



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      Fraz764 wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • Your pic just proves no matter how crazy they try to make us, we are still FABULOUS!!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • I hate to tell you ladies this but..... it doesn’t change much until closer to 22 I think.



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      Bluerose wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • 3sa ... hang in there hon!  I’ll be looking forward to your teen-age blogs.  I have a 12yr old daughter who I know will start her terrible teen years eventually.  I dread it because she is so sweet & wonderful right now.  I told her that one day her head will start spinning.  We’ll see what happens.  And I love your beauuuuutiful pic!



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      Wittymom wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • First off, I just love that picture. YOu should put it up on your fridge!!!

      Mine is 11, I am trying to find a way to freeze 11 for about 7 years. I love her today, but I have days where I get the one word answers, and “ignore” button, or roll of the eye.  Each time, I have met her head on.  I too try to remember what it was like when I was 11 and I KNOW for a fact that I did not dare.  I keep trying to tell myself that they are all like that at this age, and I have heard some horror stories, but right in the midst of it, I totally forget that I am alone, and keep reminding myself how awful I would look in an orange jumpsuit behind bars....



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      Karyn Olson wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • I have 2 daughters...they are now 24 and 25 and believe me they have given me tons of white hairs...in fact they still do...now I have my grandson...so it is now round 2 for me...but I am a survivor...



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      Smiley1962 wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • I can hardly wait, my son is only 11 years old estatic



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Feb 28, 2009
    • 3sa, I am loving that picture girl!
      My daughter is now 21, but from about 13 until just recently, she thought she knew EVERYTHING!
      This is what I told her, honey, I know you think you know everything now, but when you grow up and realize that you don’t, come on back home to momma, I’ll be right here waiting for you. She is own her own now and I must say, things do get better. Keep you head up.
      I have a 16 year old son, I just recently went on strike with him. He’ll figure it out when he don’t have any clean clothes to wear.



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      3sa wrote Mar 1, 2009
    • Thanks for all the great support and encouragement.  Today was a better day!



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      Deb Darby wrote Mar 2, 2009
    • That is so cute and brave of you to put your picture on here like that! Way to keep your sense of humor!



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      Michelle Walker wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • I guess I’ll squeeze right in the boat with the rest of ya!  My 21 yr old wasn’t too bad but the one right after (Cherish) whose almost 18 and a new mommy is truly a horse of a different color!  The boy whose a few days shy of 16 has started the one word answers, texting and a tad bit of attitude but unlike Cherish he’s learned how to adjust his attitude.  Then there’s the 12 soon to be 13 yr old Chelsea who pouts when she doesn’t get her way and who has developed a gift for playing with words.  Now that DRIVES ME FREAKING NUTS!!!!  

      I’m just counting down the days (1,825) to go until the last one turns 18.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • 3sa, girl I can only sympathize with you because mine are all grown and gone, but my youngest daughter was my trial, all I can say to you is DON‘T let her or any of your children think for a minute that they have the upper hand with you, when they see this and belive that they do it gets worse, grab hold to the reins of God and ask him for that strength that only he can give and rememeber that we are he parent and they are the children on loan to us from God and he has entrusted them to us to rear and teach them the right things in life so as the word of the Lord say if “you spare the rod, you spoil the child“, don’t let her get the upper hand remind her who is boss by any means necessary.



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      Martha Perez Torres wrote Mar 13, 2009
    • 3sa is this what awaits me?  I am freaking out.  My daughter is only ten and I am so afraid of the teen years.  My Twins are 7 but my daughter is starting to give us a run for our money!!  The attitudes, the comments, the talking back.  I remember back in the days that if my mother would give me the look I knew better then to challenge her.  She used to give me the look and I would clam up and run to my room.  I will have you in my prayers!

      Huggs



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      Tina Hengen wrote Mar 18, 2009
    • I have a 16 year old daughter at home That I swear could be your daughters twin, lol. Oh it gets so frustrating at times and my feelings get hurt very easily by her. I really thought it was somethng I was doing wrong, or even not doing. But it sounds like this is typical teenage behavior. And to top it off she’s a red head and I swear that redheads inherit an extra smart ass gene, lol.



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