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Well, this weekend my daughter and i are going to a mother daughter retreat and i am really looking forward to it! heart My BFF Julie, and her daughter are going as well, and thier Church is paying for it! I am so blessed with this and am really looking forward to what God has for us there!

My problem is this.. being a single mom,my son feels slighted with the amount of time i spend with him.. its always my daughter, and i know it hurts him...his dad is never in his life ( dads choice ) and as a mom, it hurts to see my children hurt..

how can i make a difference in his life, when i cant spend time with just him? i cant jump in a car and go with him, because we dont have a car.. if we are outside talking dd comes out and has a “need” to be a part of it, you know..  

im just rambling and cant get out (for what ever reason) what is on my heart.. i love my son.. he is my son, my only son, and i want him to be happy and have a good life..

any suggestions will be so very welcomed!
love you all!
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      Denise Richardson wrote Aug 13, 2010
    • Linni, maybe you can have a chat with your daughter and let her know how your son feels and that you’d like to have some quality time with him, hopefully she’ll understand. Take a long walk with your son or if there is a nearby park you and he go there and just sit and chat and love on one another, if you have to catch a cab go to a movie with him or something of that nature or maybe even just take a long bus ride with him just to sight see and chat, don’t use NOT having a car as an excuse to find ways to do things with him, I know it would help having your own transportation, but sometimes they look at the fact that you can find ways to spend time with the other and not me! Hope all works out for you and he.heart



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      Linni wrote Aug 13, 2010
    • great suggestions Neicy! thank you..i have spoken to her about it in the past, and you know being 12 its ALL about her! lol i do think she is starting to understand a bit more, so hopefully it will start changing..
      thank you again Neicy!
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      Lazylola wrote Aug 13, 2010
    • Having all boys all I can say is take turns doing stuff with them, invite him to help you prepare a meal, stand side by side folding clothes, watch a TV show (of his choice) together. I get my kids involved in everything I do, housecleaning, yard work, grocery shopping...they will be prepared to be on their own one day...I hope.heart



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      Lazylola wrote Aug 13, 2010
    • May I add that when we do it together it doesn’t seem like a drag or a chore to them, they enjoy it, especially when they get the one on one time.



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      Jo46 wrote Aug 13, 2010
    • Wonderful suggestions from Lazyola and Neicy.  You have to spend time alone with your son Linni.  My sister who has 2 girls and a boy and who is divorced has shared those very same feelings with me.  She has made the time with her 14 year old son to play video games with him, boardgames, hiking, fishing, movies with him.  His sisters are not allowed.  I know you know how to keep it simple Linnni, just do it!



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      Nerissa wrote Aug 14, 2010
    • Believe me I have been there and it is a balancing act and I have two sons.. I learned to enjoy the things that they enjoy and cultivate their talents and interests. I can remember buying video game secret books for Chris and learning to play Nintendo while he was asleep so I could beat his pants off next time he challenged me. Justin on the other hand was so into music and we lived in an apt building so I spoke with all the neighbors to make certain that his practice time would not intefere with their life styles. When I would come home from work, I could hear the comforting sounds of those drums blaring. I either purchased or got from the library new music for him to try. Just like with food, we have to make sure that we “feed” our children, they need different things at different times. Mine survived they are as different as night and day the only thing they have in common is they are both young men, things will be just fine, you will see in time. The most important thing they need from you they already have L O V E !heart



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      Linni wrote Aug 15, 2010
    • these are all great suggestions! thank you all for your input! i really appreciate it! heart

      it was alot easier when my oldest was still at home! lol she would watch one while i took the other, and vise versa.. then when her and i would go somewhere the neighbor would watch my son and youngest daughter! lol so much easier then..

      HOWEVER i can do it now! thank you all so much!  

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      Mztracy wrote Aug 15, 2010
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