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Children need parents to provide them with important tools to equip them for living.
Our children's lives are to a large extent, dependent on what we do or not do as parents. Parents have the power to teach their children to become capable, competent and self-reliant human beings. Teaching children to be self-reliant is one of the most efficient tools and finest gifts parents can bestow on their children.
Parents undoubtedly want to do and give their children the very best they can. However, in today's competitive world, parental responsibility does not simply entail making things easy for children. On the contrary, this attitude could promote children to be overly dependent and deprive them of their sense of self-worth, confidence and independence.
Discerning parents would do all they can to make their children capable and self-reliant human beings.Here are some SEVEN proven tips on teaching children to be self-reliant:
Tip # 1. Encourage
Encouraging independence in children should begin right from the early stages. Support your children's quest for independence and give your children a chance to do things on their own—-even if it entails that they may not do it correctly or as per your expectations. Begin by entrusting them with little tasks and gradually, let them move on to doing chores in the home. This will make them responsible in accomplishing bigger tasks as adults.
Tip # 2. Allow
Allow your children to follow their own bent of mind and make decisions about things that directly affect their lives. Allow them the freedom to explore the environment and the world around, taking care not to stifle their inner sense of curiosity. Allow them the freedom to think and act for themselves, even at the risk of making mistakes. Allowing children to experience failure and face the consequences, instills in them self-reliance—- making them less susceptible to peer pressure in later years.
Tip #3. Model
Parents can be ideal role models to their children. Children are ever-watchful of their parent's behavior; they observe and emulate their parents. Parents therefore need to be particularly careful and focus on demonstrating positive behavior. By consistently modeling appropriate behavior by words and actions, parents can yield a powerful impact on their children's lives.
Tip # 4. Build
Parents can help build their children's personal competence by avoiding constant directions and interference—-even if they see them struggling in the process. Children get the most satisfaction when they are encouraged to accomplish tasks independently. Children, who work their way through tough times while achieving personal goals, significantly acquire proficiency in decision-making and problem-solving skills.
Tip # 5.Create
Creating awareness of their skills and abilities can instill confidence and sense of pride in children. When this aspect is recognized and openly acknowledged by parents, it serves as a primary tool in gaining self-reliance. Parents, who are able to trust their children without passing undue judgments or threats, empower their children to take on the initiative of pursuing new experiences.
Tip # 6. Monitor
Wise parents take time to periodically monitor their children's progress from time to time. Setting benchmarks are one way to monitor progress, note improvements, It implies that parents keep a close check to ascertain that their children are headed in the right direction and motivate them with continual positive feedback.
Tip # 7. Celebrate
Finally, it is important for parents to recognize, acknowledge and celebrate when children accomplish their goals. Children need to “internalize” this exciting feeling of success—which gives them the opportunity to share their happy feelings with the family. When parents fail to elicit appropriate response or belittle their children's accomplishments, it could set the tone of discouragement and hamper children's future successes.
Conclusion
Parents need to believe that the success of their children is NEVER out of their control.
Lighting up their children's lives with passion and inspiration, empowering them with a sense of inner stability, motivating them with the force of conviction and teaching them the right skills, will go a long way--- not only in making children self-reliant, but indeed, in making them into responsible, contributing and successful adults.
Hello Fabulous Friends!
Hope you are enjoying your parenting journey as much as I have been enjoying since over three decades!
It is an exhilirating and fulfilling experience to watch our children grow into productive and responsible adults and wonderful human beings.
However, there are no short-cuts; if you are sincere and persistent, great rewards WILL follow.
Take a moment from your busy lives and think: Are my children on the right path? Can I do better as a parent? How can I teach my child to be self-reliant?
Parents, you can learn how—-just read the above article; try to make use of these 7 proven TIPS and vola!
Happy Parenting!
Hazard, yet forward!
Yours,
gabby
Gabby- Thanks for your helpful information. I like the 7 steps and have been working them in my own way lately, but to see them in print encourages me and helps me know I am on the right path!
Your interest and dedication clearly indicates you are on the right path.
gabby
Gabby
Thank you for this, it is a great reminder. Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily lives that we aren’t doing these things consciencely or strategically. By focusing on this, I think I can constantly improve.
Annie
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Annie—-it’s always a pleasure hearing from you.
You have always been so optim istic and appreciative in your approach.
Of course, we all, including parents, need reminders, incentives and inspiration from time to time.
GOOD
LUCK!
gabby
It’s funny how I do your 7 steps all ready
I just have to remember from time to time that it’s ok that it is not quite what i had planned what they do, bite my tongue on the negitive and give them the positive that they did the job the best they could do! Oh and what little sponges of info they are! They do reflect yourself, and oh, my, what comes out of their mouths makes me reflect” OMG , I sound like my mother!” EECCkks
Hi Wow40plus!
It’s always so nice to hear from parents that they are instictively on the right track. Of course we all need little reminders from time to time. But that’s O.K. too!
Many-a-times, you will also find that you’ll have to use
“balanced restraint” to be a more effective parent.Good Luck!
Happy Parenting!
gabby
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