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Through the round of many births I roamed
without reward,
without rest,
seeking the house-builder.
Painful is birth
again & again.

House-builder, you‘re seen!
You will not build a house again.
All your rafters broken,
the ridge pole destroyed,
gone to the Unformed, the mind
has come to the end of craving.

-Dhammapada, 11, translated by Thanissaro Bhikkhu.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • Buhhda I see in you, I bow.  Thank you.  

      I am pondering upon the phrase "Painful is birth"  



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • Annie: to share my viewpoint: Painful is birth.

      I think pain in inevitable in life.  Like the yin and the yang.  There is always the balance:

      happiness vs. pain and suffering
      Day vs Night
      Sun vs. Moon
      Good vs Evil
      Full vs Empty

      etc. etc.  

      It remains me of labor birth.  No pain, no gain.  If we focus on pain, it will be extra painful.  However, if we focus on the birth, the pain will still be there however, it gives meaning and perhaps even a psychological lifted up and a little at ease.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • My interprettion is changing yourself can and is painful, that you need to completely tear yourself down to rebuild what you want.
      Ex: weight loss- getting to the point of destroying your health before doing something about it.

      Just my guess but good food for thought!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • Kind of like it’s about the journey vs destination?



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      Michelle Bodycombe wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • We go through life always seeking something to define our worth.  

      The house-builder is the ego which is never satisfied.  

      “pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional“.  When we identify with the ego we suffer.

      When we recognize the ego for what it is...the "house-builder" is seen...our perception of life is changed.

      “pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional“.  

      When we live from this place where we recognize the ego for what it is...we experience the events in our life differently and suffering is diminished.  

      Once the ego is "truly" seen...it is destroyed.  The mind craves nothing.  We know our worth...we are born with it...we need nothing outside of our self to define our worth.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • Yep that last paragraph defined it so well. Thank You Michelle for inspiring me to think.....



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      Almostfive0 wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • I feel suffering is optional.  I feel that when we search outside ourselves for our true needs and don’t find the answers that we seek, or when we try to live up to the expectations of others and fall short it causes us pain which makes us suffer.  

      We either choose to find our happiness from within or we continue to suffer, looking for something that does not exist outside ourselves in the first place.
      When we see the ego for what it is it starts to loose it energy.  Therefore, it no longer has the strength to cause us suffering.

      All is well.

      Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • Wow, very thought provoking. Thanks for sharing and thanks to all of you who helped to break it down for better understanding.



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      Michelle Bodycombe wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • Hi Summerbreeze.

      Vikki, Carol, LC & Annie... well said.

      I’ll just add...

      We cannot control everything that happens to us in life...like disease and accidents etc.  These things cause pain.  However, we can control how we preceive and react to them.  

      For instance...think of a person with a victim mentality...are they really a victim?  or are they choosing to be a victim?



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • This is very inspirational. This is one for my book of affirmations.



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      Almostfive0 wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • That’s exactly what I mean Michele...we define our own reality. Yes, we feel physical pain but we do not have to live as the victim of physical or emotional pain.

      And something else you mention: control. This also causes us to suffer because we want to control our situations when we can not always be in control



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 5, 2009
    • This was a very good blog and I look forwards to the next one.



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