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Question: I wanted to ask - in regards to anal play: My husband and I use to do it when we were younger. I still enjoy it sometimes, but it can hurt and even make me bleed a little? Are we just too old to enjoy that particular form of play? ?Angie
Answer: As far as anal sex is concerned, I don't believe you are too old to engage in any sexual activity that both you and your partner find pleasurable. You must, however be mindful of a few things, in order to keep the experience positive and pain-free.
That area of the body is not specifically designed for incoming traffic, so patience and careful preparation are necessary when engaging in “backdoor gymnastics.” As always, proper hygiene is important. Both his penis and your rectal area should be clean to minimize the spread of bacteria during invasive sexual activity.
Next, don’t scrimp on the lubricant. Sex inherently causes friction, and anal sex, by its very nature and tight fit can take that friction to an extreme level. Therefore, special care must be taken to sufficiently lubricate the area to reduce friction, and lessen the possibility of abrasion and tearing (both of which can cause bleeding, and increase your exposure to infection). I suggest starting with general foreplay to increase both of your levels of arousal.
When both of you are sufficiently excited, your husband should now shift his focus to your anus. Liberally lubricating a finger, he should gently insert it into your rear passage. As he gains more depth, and your sphincter (the rubber-band like muscle that is your rectum’s gatekeeper) begins to relax, he should start to SLOWLY move in and out to increase your arousal and help prepare your anal cavity for the arrival of a larger occupant. When you feel relaxed and ready to proceed, liberally coat his penis with a water-soluble lubricant, like KY Jelly or AstroGlide and re-lubricate your anus. You‘re then ready for your husband to gently ease himself into you, moving slowly to minimize tearing and allowing you to easily accommodate him. When he has reached the maximum depth of penetration that both of you can comfortably handle, he can now very slowly begin to move in and out, increasing speed as you and he become more comfortable with the motion.
One important note: After anal sex, it is essential that your husband completely wash his penis before he has any further contact with your vaginal area, to avoid the spread of harmful bacteria. He should also not fondle your genitalia with fingers that have invaded your anus, for similar reasons.
I hope that answers your questions and makes for a mutually enjoyable sexual experience.
If you have any questions about men, relationships, dating or a related topic, please feel free to email them to me at: david@EveryManSeesYouNaked.com. I will try to answer as many as I possibly can here in my column.
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Inakika, and adding a padlock too....and puttiNg up my “NO TRESPASSING” sign
I did not know women get ANY pleasure from this! I thought it was for the man’s benefit. My back door is permanently locked! Front entrance only!
I did it once when I was really on drug (over 25 years ago)- I could not remember a thing nor would I want to do that again. (Dang, just wish I could post anonymous. This is such an embarrassment!)
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I know Teeky. It was a force entry. It took my virginity.
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I enjoy it with no pain at all...he’s not patient enough if it hurts you, girls!
You get a really DEEP orgasm when being “Back-door” penetrated. Even just him touching that area during orgasm gives it a totally different intensity. You don’t have to have penetration to enjoy that!
Maurajones,
Please, enjoy it for me. I am willing to concede that bit of pleasure all to you! LOL! Salud!
OMGootnessssss! This train loads from the front entrance, pleezze.
*Lcm*
Very interesting subject though, I suppose, if you‘re interested, I suppose, uhmm yeah, I better go.
Dueces
Lisa
*Lcm*
Hmmmmm...... maybe I’m old fashioned or traditional or something. It’s got me puckering just thinking about it. But hey more pleasure to you if it’s your thing......
Okay, so how does David rate not having to flag this mature. I am with you Ingrid. Not interested. I get complete satisfaction without experimenting with un-natural methods. To each his own... but I’m not playing!
I have to agree with the majority of the ladies. No back door entry!
Some of the stuff coming OUT has been so painful, I can’t imagine something that size (or larger) going back in.
and does age really have anything to do with it?
Not store candles, YOUR candles!
My 1st hubby wanted to do that. I just don’t get it.
A girl friend of mine told me that when she & her hubby did it, she took a couple of pain killers narcotics had he butt propped up in the air and was smoking a ciggy so she would be relaxed. I laughed so hard when she told me about it. I asked well did you like it.. She said no.
But surprising there are a lot of men out there who want to do it
FYI, this question is rated mature. I tested that from the outside.
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I pretty much knew from the title that it would be mature.
*Lcm*
ummmmmmm hmmmmmmmmm ahhhhhhhhh ewwwwwwwwwwww
can we say NOOOOOOOOO!!
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ya know though, this is kind of like a man discussing the pains of childbirth......
and again ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
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This ties with the blog on anal bleaching. If they bleach, the partner may miss his target spot.
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omg cdoll!!! lmao
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David’s Column is MATURE CONTENT, mature enough for all of us 40 and beyond.
This should never be a question that’s brought up again. Everyone has the right to read the column or not.
We have added mature content feature on blogs, questions and groups, labeling Experts & Columnists content as mature content (feature) will not be available on this site.
I have to agree Maurajones, my husband and I have done this before and it really made the big O more intense!
I just found this and please take this as a joke and not anything offensive or mean from me,okay??? otherwise, cover your eyes and skip.
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I am sorry! I am so rowdy.
Santa Claus already told me I had been naughty!
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If I were to get a tattoo on my lower back, I think I’d have:
“No Deliveries In Rear”
I say don’t knock it till you try it! My motto is “I will try it once, and if I like it maybe twice”
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I may be a day late and a dollar short on replying to this one but . . . but uh . . .
nope
naw
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Any question? Oh, btw, did I say HELL TO THE NAW!
Bfly...LOL....I got the message Loud & Clear....
Every hole on my body has a purpose and I am making sure that every rule is adhered to. Shit, it hurts when my doctor does the anal exam..can’t even imagine....Nope, Nope, Nope
I can’t help it... I am mooning you all. Hee hee.
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People are either into it or not. I don’t think age has anything to do with it.
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I agree with Annie.
For me not!
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I have to say ladies that there are some women, myself included, that actually enjoy it. It most certainly is not for everyone just like anything else, but with the right partner it came be great and it does make for stronger orgasms. If you’ve had it and it was painful then he wasn’t doing it right.
I cant imagine anyone NOT liking this! but I would agree, partner MUST kno what they are doing. we all would agree that driving anything takes experience!!! a good day to all!
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