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hi everyone...recently i asked for advice on how to handle a boss that really just seems to have it in for me...she is the most cold, calculating, mean, bully i have met in my life. not since third grade have i had to put up with this type of behavior from someone in authority over me...and that person ended up with a split lip...hey..captain of the kickball team..i was eight..whatever...so...before, people at work were coming to me saying things like” what did you do to piss her off?” or “why is she singling you out for something you didnt do?“...now, people are coming to me and saying” why is she being so nice to you?” is she pulling you into her web so she can kill you...seriously folks, i was ready to call the district manager in for a sit down with the two of us....
i guess now, im afraid of what she really has in her mind. i have been so not talking to her, unless i have to, i mean..we work together and sometimes i have to, but i try not to....for the past week or so, she has done a complete flip flop....calling me over to ask my opinion, telling people to go to me for help in their work, the sort of thing that two weeks ago, she never would have done...
i wish i knew where i stood with her. my review is coming up in two days...she asked me about it today...i have a lot of experience in my field, and was recently certified, im hoping for a substantial raise in pay....but im afraid that something bad is going to happen with her....
this is the only place i can let my feelings flow....any other advice for me...anyone else ever been in this situation? help....i was putting in job applications at other places last week, and now i want to stay with my girls..i would hate to leave my sister coworkers....




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      Vikki Hall wrote Jun 10, 2009
    • Ok as a former boss.....

      There are many tactics that bitch bosses will use to get rid of people that either they don’t like, don’t like the job they do, or are threatened by their competency. Sad to say I have been in all situations. And my motto was always one of us has got to go and it won’t be me. Now that was before I came into my level of experience and confidence.
      I’m thinking you fall into 1 of those catagories I mentioned and I am thinking that your boss is trying to get you to quit but where it doesn’t fall back on her. I would play her game.... become her BFF and do your job better than expected. Always smile! The moment she knows you are concerned or upset she’s got you and has won the game.
      Now there is another possible scenerio...... she plans on taking credit for YOUR greatness. “Oh I taught her and guided her” sorta thing.
      I was never a horn tooter on my work. I always figured my work ethic and consistant success was enough to let people know so I ignored the boss who hired me. Once I was in a lateral position with her she tried to claim recognition for hiring me and my success. Whatever made her feel better when she had to look in the mirror.....
      If all else fails....invite your boss out to lunch, acknowledge that your working relationship could be more positive to mutually benefit you both. Discuss and come up with a plan to do that.
      I wish you luck!



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