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How can we find true friendship in this often phony, temporary world? Friendship involves recognition or familiarity with another’s personality. Friends often share likes and dislikes, interests, pursuits, and passion.  

True friendship involves relationship. Those mutual attributes mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, “Oh, he’s a good friend of mine,” yet they never take time to spend time with that “good friend.” Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other’s growth.  

Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day! Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away.  

True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.  

Real friendship looks at the heart, not just the “packaging.” Genuine friendship loves for love’s sake, not just for what it can get in return. True friendship is both challenging and exciting. It risks, it overlooks faults, and it loves unconditionally, but it also involves being truthful, even though it may hurt. Genuine friendship, also called “agape” love, comes from the Lord. The Lord Jesus calls us His friends and He laid down His life for us (John 15).  

Relationships in real life involve different levels of friendships, and that’s okay. But humans are designed by God for lasting relationships. Often our isolationist society offers only vague, empty relationships. God wants us to have friends here on earth. Most of all, He wants us to be friends with Him!  

Do you need a friend? God wants to be your true friend. Are you longing for companionship? God is always with you (Hebrews 13:5). Who do you know who needs a true friend today? God wants you to befriend others. He calls us to be His hands and feet in a world starving for true friendship.


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      Mz. Queen wrote Dec 2, 2008
    • This is the first time I’ve read a blog from you and I like it.

        This is the last blog I did on friends. I agree with alot of what you shared.

      Friendship is a complex thing it calls for death are you willing to die?  

        Friendship is a complex thing it calls for truth are you willing to die?  

        Friendship is a complex thing it calls for perfect vision are you willing to die?  

        How can one choose? Well as I understand and interpret the Bible one has to die to self for starters. It's no longer about me it's about you. How I treat you what I see when I look at you and what I tell you.  

        I have to be willing to die for you literally and in my heart that is my mind of thoughts. I have to bite my tongue sometimes and when I tell you the truth I'm supposed to tell you in a loving way, because you are my friend.  

        Can I tell you about yourself if I can't tell you about me. Am I a friennd always or just a friend in "fair weather." What will I give up for the friendship I want will I be willing to die?


      Much love

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