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Here is what I’ve been learning lately:  I have my very own truth.  

Let me preface this by saying that I’ve always been rubbed the wrong way by “relativism“, that there is no right or wrong, that truth is just relative.  There are certain truths that are unchanging:  gravity while you‘re standing on the earth, aging (ugh!), that there are over 7 billion people on the planet, etc.  As John Adams said, “Facts are stubborn things.”  So let’s call these things “the” truth.

On the other hand, say you got a pie in the face.  Some of you may be mad, some may break out in allergies (depending on the pie), and some may say, “Oh boy! Pie!”  Which of these reactions come from truth?  Yep, all of them.  Each reaction comes from each person’s feelings/personal make-up.

There are things that fly in our faces besides pie:  statements, actions, circumstances.  Depending on who we are, we will have different feelings about all this and we will be affected in different ways.  So I guess what you can say is:  facts + our perception = our truth.

Here is an example.  You & I have a lunch date with Sally, and we show up 10 minutes late.  Sally says, “I really hate it when people show up late to things!”  I counter with,  “Sally, I feel hurt by that; you aren’t considering what traffic was like!”  And you may say, “Better late than never!”  My truth is that I’m hurt & don’t feel that my human nature is considered; your truth is that it’s not a big deal, Sally will get over it!  And Sally?  Her truth is she feels unworthy if people aren’t where they say they will be when they say they will be.

If we all just spoke our truth in a loving way, how different our interactions might be!  If I spoke my truth to Sally, she may be more willing to cut me some slack.  If she spoke her truth to me, I might make a more conscious effort to be on time.  And if you spoke up, Sally & I may just realize that it’s really not a big deal after all!

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