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You know, we look at the word “ex,” and it can conjure up all sorts of things related to that word.  Just by saying the tiny word can create something that isn’t appealing, and many humorous statements related to that word as well.  

Let’s take a different look.  I’m divorced, and have a wonderful relationship with my ex.  What we didn’t know how to create in our marriage, we certainly have learned to create while not being married.  I invited my ex into my life to teach me the things I needed to learn.  I sent the invitation and he showed up.  Now, there were some painful things, but it was exactly the classroom and teacher experience I required to help me “SEE” clearly.  

When we got a divorce, it wasn’t peachy keen at first, and I had to work through some anger.  Yet, I also kept affirming that I wanted to have a beautiful friendship.  Thus, I focused on what I wanted.  

I remember Wayne Dyer making this statement about anger, and it helped me tremendously.  He said that all anger comes from within, and no one is responsible for your anger.  It wasn’t something I wanted to hear because it was comfortable to blame my ex for my “feeling” bad.  

Wayne Dyer explained this analogy and this is when I really got it.  He said when you squeeze an orange, what comes out?  Orange juice, of course.  It doesn’t matter the device that is used,or the person doing the squeezing, orange juice will always come out.  Likewise, with us, when we have anger that pours out of us, it isn’t the device or the person that does the squeezing.  It’s already what’s inside.  Oh, that 100% responsibility that can be a challenge, but also very freeing, and it depends upon how you look at it.

Take a look at this video that my ex and I did to celebrate the 30th anniversary of our wedding.


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