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Good Morning my Fab Sistas!

Im just getting off of work but before I hit the sack I wanted to update you on what this fool said last night.

I am taking it one day at a time. Im on this emotional roller coaster. One minute Im crying, next minute Im depressed, next minute Im sad, next minute Im out in the public so I have to appear normal (IM FAR FROM NORMAL RIGHT NOW) and smile estatic, then Im back to crying.  

My close friend told me not to open any of his texts, delete his old texts that I saved and ASAP change my number, wellll, Im not strong enough to do any of that.... So last night he text me, “Did I do something? I call, no response. Text no reply. I guess you have moved on. Peace”  

Well...NO I didnt respond to that either but WTH??? Is he serious? Its like Im stuck in the Twilight Zone! Why is he doing this to me? I know he has plenty of his cell phone buddies he could chat it up with, why continue to torture me?  

Talk to me Sistas...

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      UK Girl wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • he is playing you honey - that is the classic manipulation where he deflects his bad behaviour on to you so you feel guilty and go running .....

      You do need to change your number and escape - your friend is right delete and just ignore his texts - look what happens when your read them
      your a great lady why do you need to be messing with this guy when there are loads of others who would treat you like a queen !



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      Cathie Beck wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • Yeah, you should change your number. He knows what he’s doing and that is manipulating you emotionally. Keep in mind he Told you he doesn’t care how you feel about him texting with other women, he’s not going to stop doing it. Sounds like he likes the drama, so do you want to be a part of his drama and lose yourself in it?  

      Even in a wild love story with lots of drama, the drama has to end for a relationship to be a good, solid, loving relationship. Relationships fall apart when drama is all that feeds it.  

      Hoping all the best for you.

      Cathie



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      Blackblonde7 wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • Coco, Im actually glad he did that & Im gonna tell u why. He is now revealing his true self 2 u. The bull shit behavior has all led up to his last text: "Did I do something? I call, no response. Text no reply. I guess you have moved on. Peace" What man says that 2 the woman he's suppose 2 love & care about? I personally think he is trying 2 drive u crazy, please dont give him the satisfaction. Ur husband is coming, be patient, he will be everything this jerk aint, and love u like a star. Delete his ass, texts, emails, burn any reminders of him, and release urself from this prison- he is so not worth u or the love u have been bestowing upon him thus far. Keep ur head up sister-there is lgt at the end of the tunnel!



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      Jenz ~ wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • What is he TALKING about?
      “Did he DO something?”

      Yes. He did. He failed epically when he kept his online contacts and website followed by telling you he didn’t care what you said about that.

      Game over.

      No trust, no respect, no deal.

      Look at it this way girlfriend. You are the BOSS and HE is fired for insubordination. You win. Soon, you’ll be ‘hiring’ someone who can DO the job correctly! estatic  

      I know this is really super hard right now. Perhaps changing the phone number is the best idea even though it sucks because you know in advance you wont be hearing from him at all because he CANT contact you. But ask yourself what's worse? Him contacting you so you know he is attempting to but it screws up your head, your heart and your day every day or, you knowing each day will not be interrupted by an emotional rollercoaster. Youre stronger than you think you are. Pain is something we all avoid and finalizing the end of this thing with textboy is probably firing up some fears. {Been there!} Know THIS though- you do not need the attention from him to validate yourself. You are awesome with or without a dude around. You are not incomplete without him.
      You could think of this as a gift to yourself. =D
      A happy future in the making.
      Peace, indeed! It’s on it’s way!



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      Marlene McCray wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • Why are you feeling this way and his not when you are the one that deserves to be happy? Manipulation in any relationship is harmful. You deserve better. Reach out to your inner self, you know that strong “Girl Who Rock” attitude and make a decision that serves you!!

      Marlene
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      Mztracy wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • ditto to all above!!

      You deserve better and better is out there waiting for you! heartheart



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      Denise Richardson wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • In a few words again, "MOVE ON" don't even allow him to rent space in your pretty little head any longer, sweetie he is palying a game and like I said before you now hold the ball in your court and keep it!!! Leave him where he stands and "NO!" you don't owe him an explantion if ever he tries to get one, move on please move on.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • I know it hurts right now but I do believe that staying with him will make the hurt worse and for a prolonged period of time. I say cut all ties, allow yourself to heal your heart and then be open to receive the love of a man who will truly treat you the way you deserve. But, honestly, I know it hurts. You can vent with us any time; we’ll support whatever you decide to do but know we‘re here.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 14, 2010
    • Change your number or block his text and call.  

      You are vulnerable right now and he is a drug.  Yes, sometimes you would like a quick fix but you know how drug works.  So like anyone wants to wean something off, one must stay away from temptation.. in your case, any news or form of communication from that drug dealer, that man.

      Be strong, you can do it.



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      Anne E wrote Nov 15, 2010
    • Coco,
      ChinaDoll is right- you can have his texts and calls blocked.  You’ll get over him and find someone a lotheart better!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 15, 2010
    • The women on here are so wise and CORRECT! We can be strong for you but ultimately you need to take the 1st step!



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      Suzann wrote Nov 16, 2010
    • Hi Sweetie,

      I totally agree with what everyone has said. I know it’s hard, but he sure is manipulating you - and I don’t know why, but you are kind and loving and respectful - and that’s how a man needs to treat you. If he’s not kind, loving, and respectful of you, I would definitely move on and leave him in the dust.

      I understand your emotions and you grief. It is a loss, not only of a possible love, but also a loss of trust in someone. It’s huge. But you will recover, you’ll be okay. And then you’ll be ready for a man who treats you with honesty and earns your trust.

      heartheart



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      Jersey Josie wrote Jan 19, 2011
    • Hi Coco,

      I know exactly what your going through. I am going through something similar - Reading this blog is everything that goes on in my head and my friends telling me.
      But here is the catch it really comes down to you making the final move. And when you are ready to do this you will because there comes a point where you say; I’m not doing this anymore, I deserve better. And after you have made the right choice for yourself you will look back at all this drama and realize it was just the path you needed to take in order to get to your true destination. Good Luck JerseyJosey



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      Sweetpea007 wrote Sep 22, 2011
    • Not really sure of all the details.But what I gather some one hurt you.First of all you are stronger than you think.Steve Harvey has a book that helped to understand men better.Act like a lady think like a man.He also has a second book which I hope to purchase.You are a queen you deserve the best.Men play games.You can,t allow his stupidty to control you.Its his lost live your life enjoy try different things to do.I will email you.as this is a open post I really can,t express what I really feel.But I can tell you this I have been there.Love you
      estatic



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