Don't have an account? To participate in discussions consider signing up or signing in
facebook connect
Sign-up, its free! Close [x]

Benefits

  • okay Create lasting relationships with other like minded women.
  • okay Blogging, let your voice be heard!
  • okay Interact with other women through blogs,questions and groups.
  • okay Photo Album, upload your most recent vacation pictures.
  • okay Contests, Free weekly prize drawing.
  • okay Weekly Newsletter.


First of all, I already know that my husband has a girlfriend.  This is usually the answer I get.  What I would like to know what the benefits of using viagra are when there are no problems with getting it up?  How can I tell if he is using it with me? I don’t think he is. We are sexually active about 3 times a week and he has no problems down there.  The people I have asked, have no answers.  I have no one else to ask. What are the benefits?



  •  

Member Comments

    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Yana Berlin wrote Aug 28, 2008
    • I’m not a doctor but this is what I’ve read about Viagra and the male psych.

      Viagra is prescribe to males that have difficulties with erection. A man who has been married for many years and doesn’t have any medical malfunctions will not need Viagra with his wife. He is way to comfortable for that, however, if he is pursuing a new girlfriend and has performance anxieties  taking one pill will eliminate any kind of worries and enhance his performance.  Remember that men’s are very insecure when it comes down to their performance.

      What I don’t understand why you are concerned about the effects of Viagra, and not his infidelity?

      Yana



            Report  Reply


    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Sandy Ochoa-West wrote Aug 28, 2008
    • Wow, you know he has a girlfriend and your still having sex with him????



            Report  Reply


    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Eva2 wrote Aug 28, 2008
    • I am still with my husband for several reasons.  I always thought that I would leave him if he cheated but now that it has happened, I am handling it this way.  All the advice has been to continue in the relationship as normal until I have hands on proof.  That is what I am working on and why I am asking these questions here.  I can’t have him know that I am asking these questions.  Another reason is that I want to keep my family together.  For soome women divorce is the answer but at this time I am not in a position to get a divorce.  My family and my finances would suffer greatly.  When I confronted him with my suspicions and asked him if he wanted a divorce, he told me I was making things up and that I was crazy, so now I am getting all the proof and information that I need.  When I have that proof and am mentally, emotionally, and financially  prepared then I will make my move.  I have seen too many women react with emotion and lose every thing that they have worked for.  If sleeping with the man that I have been sleeping with for many years prevents all these losses then I will be sleeping with him and actually enjoying sex without too much emotion.  Concentrating on the physical enjoyment.  But I do love him,just not as much as I used to. I know that right now you are probably thinking that he was right and that I am crazy but I have to get everything set up so I don’t lose anything.



            Report  Reply


    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Sandy Ochoa-West wrote Aug 28, 2008
    • Wow, ok don’t take this the wrong way cuz I am not in the greatest marriage myself and I would NEVER judge you, but girl I hope your using condoms because I volunteer at Birthchoice and there are 30-35 different STD’s out there and if your husband is having sex with someone else, and then having sex with you you might want to be tested for your own protection. The strains of STD’s these days can’t be “cured” they are viruses that you will have the rest of your life and most people walk around with them and don’t even know it. I am going to pray for your marriage and that you are safe. Good luck girlfriend.



            Report  Reply


    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      David M. Matthews wrote Aug 29, 2008
    • Just thought I would weigh in with a few thoughts.

      If you are confident, proof or not, that your husband is cheating on you, then as Sassy so rightly suggested, you are in danger of contracting an STD, and should have yourself checked immediately.  The results of that testing may, in fact, provide you with the “proof” of his infidelity that you are looking for.  And as with all disease, early detection is the key to minimizing the damage that may be done.  Unfortunately, as Sassy also pointed out, there are some contractible diseases that are currently incurable.  Let’s hope you have none of those.  And regardless of whether or not you have caught anything yet, condom usage from this point forward is highly recommended.

      You seem to be taking a very measured, pragmatic approach to your situation and deserve praise for your calm resolve and level-headed demeanor.  Cheating is a common practice in many cultures, and while I may not personally condone it, I don't necessarily agree that divorce is the only or best recourse for infidelity.  So far, you seem to be carefully considering your situation, and weighing your options.  Good for you.  Don't succumb to the pressure of others to follow a course of action that feels wrong or ill-advised.  This is your life, and the well-meaning armchair quarterbacks and junior psychologists in your circle don't have to abide by the consequences of your actions, but you do.  So whether you pursue divorce, maintain the status quo, or ultimately decide to forgive and forget, remember that the only opinion that really matters is your own.

      As far as the Viagra question - men use it because they have a problem, think they have a problem, are worried they may develop a problem, or because they want to impress you, themselves, or anyone else who's likely to encounter their erect member.  Men are rather penis-centric (like you didn't already know that), and now that there are ways to chemically improve the "stature of their masculinity," more than a few guys are popping those puppies like Pez.



            Report  Reply


    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Eva2 wrote Aug 31, 2008
    • I want to thank everyone for thier concern and input.  It is all very helpful.



            Report  Reply


    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 23, 2008
    • Hey, Storyseeker, I heard that one from Jeff Dunham.  happy



            Report  Reply


    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 23, 2008
    • Do you know of Jeff Dunham - the comedian?  I thought you steal his line.  If not, then, you must have a ding good sense of humor!  happy



            Report  Reply


About this author View Blog » 
author