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Hello,
its been awhile since I have been on Fab. Between excercising and learnin espanol for my trip to Mexico in February I have not had much time to go online.

I dont even know if you remember me.  

I just wanted to share some advice that helped me recently with my anxiety. Especially, during the holidays.  

Its about focus. And about changing my thoughts so that I can handle being around friends and family. Friends and Family that has really hurt me. And wasnt there for me when I really thought they would be.  

so, Instead of focusing on the vices; my epiphamy was to focus on the virtues of life.
Its so much harder when I am all depressed and feel like I am being taken advantage of because I cant help but to want to defend myself.
But if I put down others to make myself feel better then what? Where does it end? I must admit to myself that maybe I hurt them when I was being so selfish with my own problems that I didnt give them understanding of their problems and maybe I was not there for them.  

So my rules (for me) are as follows...
1. I wont focus on the times when they overindulged (gluttony)... Instead I will Focus on the times when they controlled themself (TEMPERANCE).
2. I wont focus on the times when they took more than they deserved (greed)... Instead I will focus on the times when they gave more than they should have without expecting anything in return (CHARITY).
3. I wont focus on the time when they were being lazy good for nothings (sloth) ... Instead I will Focus on when they made time for everyone and everthing (DILIGENT).
4. I wont focus on the time when they were full of envy... instead I will focus on the times when they were full of KINDNESS.
5. I wont focus on the time when they were full of anger and backstabbing... instead I will focus on the times they tried to be PATIENT without becoming upset or annoyed.
6. I wont focus on the times when they were acting like a bunch of stuck on themselves, pain in the arses (with pride and prejudice) ... instead I will focus on their HUMILITY- free from self deception.

So- anyhoo- I hope my plan works.
So far, so good anyway



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