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Oh how I want a divorce,the biggest mistake I made was not getting educated even though I was going to be a stay at home mom.. Now here I am 18 years in this marriage with a husband that is only concerned with his own happiness....Everyone said to leave him years ago but I was determined for my daughter to grow up with her father in the home...Daddy issues..that’s me.. Now what??? The man that I attached to so deeply makes throw up sounds at me...boy DID NOT SEE THAT COMING..




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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Jun 24, 2010
    • If you cannot leave FOR yourself............then leave for your daughter. We dont want her to think this is acceptable in a relationship. Whwn I left my 30yr marriage.....I found strength in leaving for my 2 boys..........good luck....you can do this!



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      Denise Richardson wrote Jun 24, 2010
    • heartI agree with vgirl. You can and you shall make it without him.



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      Paris Mano wrote Jun 24, 2010
    • I agree with vgirl and neicy. This is not acceptable behavior and is abuse. You need to leave for yourself. Leave while you have some self esteem. It is a hard decision to make. I stayed in a marriage for 18 years and was sorry I did not leave sooner.You will gain strength and self worth and believe me your child will be much better off. If you need any support, please feel free to email me. But just move on. You are still young. I was 50 when mine happened. Felt like it was the end of the world but really it was the beginning of my lifehearthappy



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jun 24, 2010
    • These ladies said it best! It won’t be easy and it won’t be fun and yes you will be terrified and you will be a nervous wreck...... for just a little bit!  

      And then one day you will truly see the sun shine and all will be right with the world.

      I am wishing you the best!



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      Suzann wrote Jun 24, 2010
    • Yes, I totally agree with all the ladies here. It was in the “old days” that the notion of couples staying together “for the sake of the children” was concocted. It just doesn’t work today, because today we realize we are role models for our kids. And a woman who refuses to be abused (in whatever form, it may even be verbal abuse, but it’s abuse just the same) and does something brave about it, is a great role model to her kids, both boys and girls. (That’s just my humble opinion.)

      Good luck with whatever you decide. My heart is with you.



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      Lisa Simmons wrote Jun 25, 2010
    • Yes, you should get out on your own and experience life! I hope you can find a way to do it. Stay with a friend or family member until you can save enough $ to get your own appartment or something. I too have struggled with wanting to leave for several yrs now. I almost did it 2 yrs ago, but my husband kept threatening suicide and is not able to make it financially without my income. And my grown and married daughters both cried and told me I should have done it yrs ago, but why now after he has really been trying to stop being so domineering and controling. He is better at times now and he doesn’t have a drinking problem and he doesn’t mess around on me, so I can’t leave him now after 29 yrs of marriage. I can’t stand to see anyone unhappy, so I just try to keep a smile on my face and suck it up.  

      Sorry, I got on this rant! lol I’m just saying you should go for it! I’ve been told the first step is the hardest, but then you will feel so free! Go to a councelor. They will help you make an escape plan and give you support thru the process. I know because I actually got that far and then felt too selfish to do it. But it sounds like he won’t try to stop you. He probably thinks you don’t have the balls to do it! Men think a woman can’t live without a man and he may think you don’t have enough confidence to find another. But just think how nice it would be to be your own person and not have to plan your day around his life or worry about if he’s happy or not. Just worry about your own happiness for a change!

      Lisa :)



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      Macy wrote Jun 26, 2010
    • Kick his ass to the curb! Don’t forget to make throw up noises as you help him get there.  

      Sorry for being so crass, you deserve soooooo much more.



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      Marya1961 wrote Jun 29, 2010
    • Boy, some men are just flat out child like...you can do it on your own, don’t take the verbal insults..wish you lots of strength and happiness!estatic



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