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I grew up in a family where there was a lot of blame. I was often blamed for the moods and feelings of my parents and it took me many, many years to let go of the feeling that how they felt was my responsibility, or somehow my doing.  

I have since learned, what other people are experiencing is about them and not me. Of course I may do or say something that has some kind of affect on someone, but how they perceive it and how they respond, is completely their choice.

One person may find something I’ve done or said to be funny, to be a compliment, or to be something that makes them happy, but another person could take my words or actions in a completely different manner and think or feel I am saying or doing something hurtful.

We all respond to things that are said and done in different ways. Each of us has a unique perception to what these things mean and if we are hurt by another person’s actions or words, our perception has a lot to do with our unhealed wounds from the past.

Once we learn what people do and say is more a reflection of what’s going on for them, what they do doesn’t affect us painfully any more. Of course every once in a while we may stumble and forget “Who We Are,” but the more we practice, the better we become at letting other people own their behaviours and staying focused on our own.  

Have a beautiful day!!

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