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When you want to lose excess weight for good, sometimes it’s not about changing your foods, but changing your thoughts! With that in mind, here’s some “food” for thought!

Usually when we talk about dieting, we talk about deprivation. We think of all the foods, treats, desserts and snacks that we can’t have. We feel that the only way we can get the weight off is by depriving ourselves of these “forbidden” foods and wait for the day we can indulge in them once again. We place these foods on a pedestal because somehow they have a magical, mystical power over us. We feel powerless when these foods are around us as if somehow they are forcing us to eat them.

If you want to lose weight your eating has to change, that’s a given. But while you‘re making alterations to your diet, making healthier choices and changing your eating behaviors, instead of looking at what you can’t have, what if you looked at the confidence, pride and improved self esteem you’ll feel when new habits are formed? Instead of feeling angry that you can’t eat something, how about feeling proud that you‘re choosing to work towards the body you want? Instead of struggling with the same few foods that caused your weight issues for years, maybe even decades, how about realizing that these particular foods simply don’t work for you and it’s your choice to exclude them from your healthy eating plan? No food can or will ever taste as good as the feeling of being in control over our choices, our lives and ourselves.

The only real deprivation is not being able to live the life we want due to the pain our relationship with certain foods have caused. Think about how your weight has held you back. With the excess weight maybe you don’t feel sexy, confident or spontaneous and this affects your relationships. Without feeling sleek and fit, maybe you‘re self conscious and not as likely to be as outgoing as you’d like to be. Without healthy eating and exercise, you‘re also more likely to be sluggish and fatigued; leaving you less willing to be active with your friends and family. Finally, unsuccessful dieting over time often leaves us feeling frustrated, discouraged and unhappy.

Instead of choosing to feel deprived by what you can’t have, how about choosing to embrace the feeling of freedom to live the life you want by ending the tug of war you feel with certain foods. It’s empowering and proactive to make decisions which support a healthy lifestyle. It’s also the first step in making lifestyle changes that suit your needs and encourage lasting results. Finally, changing the way you look at weight loss will not only free up some mental space, but it will make you feel like you‘re the boss; not the chips, cookies, wine or Saturday night breadbasket.

Debi Silber, MS, RD, WHCis a Registered Dietitian with a Master’s degree in Nutrition Science. She’s a Certified Personal Trainer, Whole Health Coach, Lifestyle Expert just for moms, President of Lifestyle Fitness, Inc. and the author of The Lifestyle Fitness Program: A Six Part Plan So Every Mom Can Look, Feel and Live Her Best.Debi’s been branded “The Mojo Coach” because for nearly 20 years she’s motivated overweight, overwhelmed and unfit moms to “get their mojo back” through gradual, lifestyle change. In an encouraging, light hearted, “mom friendly” way, Debi can motivate any mom to find the balance between motherhood and womanhood...because it doesn’t have to be a choice. To learn more, visit  


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      Yana Berlin wrote Sep 16, 2008
    • Great article Debie, wish you could remind me of this daily.

      I just signed up for weight watchers, soooo hard, I just love food, lots of them and often.

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 16, 2008
    • Wonderful! That was like a breath of fresh air. Thank you for a great article. Good to know we have a registered dietition here. You know your stuff!

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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Oct 2, 2008
    • Great article! One of my favorite books is “What to Say When You Talk To Yourself” by Shad Helmstetter. I like “Who Are You Really and What Do You Want” too. In both of these he uses the analogy of how the mental path we take becomes worn after years of use, just like a path in the garden or yard. We go there, without even thinking about it, and mentally we do this with the negative self talk that creates barriers for our success, whether it be weight loss, relationships, business, etc. I went to a women’s conference years ago, and the simplicity of what she taught has stuck with me.
      Feelings follow thoughts.
      Actions follow feelings.
      Control your thoughts, and you’ll control your destiny.
      In order to control our thoughts (a very biblical concept - we are told to take our thoughts captive, we are told as a man thinketh, so is he...) we must replace the bad ones with good ones.
      One of my favorites for weight loss is to remind myself that “Nothing tastes as good as thin feels!” I can now turn my nose up at things that used to be very tempting to me.  

      I am now repulsed by chocolate covered cream filled Krispy Kreme donuts, whereas there was a time when I could eat the whole dozen all at once! I simply tell myself that they have 18 grams of fat, the unhealthy kind even! - and it is effortless to decline an offer of one.  

      Chocolate is one that I haven’t given up though. The thoughts go like this - chocolate is an antioxidant - it is good for me - it has the same chemical in it that my body produces when I make love to my husband - surely it can’t be bad for me. I have even seen the rationalization that classifies chocolate as a vegetable. LOL  

      If you want to believe something, repeat it to yourself often enough and it will become your perception. I have learned that reality and perception are really synonyms.  

      This can be applied to any area of life, but when it comes to weight loss, it can be your ticket to a lean body!  

      Sharing Hope,

      Dee Dee

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      Leslie House wrote Oct 20, 2008
    • I am trying to just get the scale to move, being 49 and not being able to lose a single pound it’s hard to think positive. I work out 5 to 7 days a week and try to eat right, but can’t lose any suggestions.

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