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Ladies,

How is that a man can show a little bit of interest and then expect you to be the one to keep it going. Why are men today so quick to rush into the bedroom and not the mind of a woman. What does that mean we are to seek him out and pursue the relationship because he’s not being aggressive enough or does that mean he he’s just not that into you? Where are all the men of old, what happen to really getting to know a woman and devoting quality time with a person.



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      Lazylola wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I’ll stay tuned to see if anyone has the answer...I sure don’t, but good question....



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      Angell VillafaƱe wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Yes Kerri this was a great question! I just think those men are not REAL men. It seems that most men are all programmed the same way and to do the same stupid things. Don’t know where all the real, good men are. I do they are out there but where...who knows?



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      Kerri1985 wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Thank you for responding, I hope someone can answer that question, it sure would be good to hear the answer.



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      Kerri1985 wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Thank you for the reply...let’s stay tooned. :)



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      Mz. Queen wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • They are out there, but even the one will have something lacking. I have to ask myself do I really want him to be aggressive because sometimes the aggression is unmatched to compassion and caring. He’s out there and he will pursue you justly when he’s ready. That’s what I believe.



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      Tuliplady wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • estatic  Sorry ladies, I think I got the last real man out there, and I’m not sharing.

      Actually, there are quite a few good single men in my area, but they’d be way too shy to show up at that annual mtg of Jenn’s.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I know there are good real men out there...... somewhere!



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      Kerri1985 wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Melissa,

      That is so true we look for the strangest things and then we complain when we they are looking for that samething and we don’t have it. Thank you everyone for the replies very encouraging and up lifting.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I just went and asked my husband. He said that he believes the age of chivalry is gone. He said that one thing he has observed is the way women are depicted in the media as aggressive, willing to jump into bed early on and the way they dress is suggestive. It’s confusing to men. There’s little modesty any more.



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      Coachmombabe wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Well, I guess I married one of the last ones, and that was over 33 years ago!

      No, really, I’ve no idea!



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      Mz. Queen wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Melissa has a point. I am guilty of just what she described, in my defense I have recently left the club of superficial and joined the one of hearts first.



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      Lilwhitedaisy wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I agree with melissa, i heard while single ( some yrs ago now, but still hear it from a guy friend i know back in the UK who is single, and i have NO idea WHY!)that most women are looking for money, well when i met my husband people thought i was crazy, they felt he was beneath me ( that came later HA HA HA!!!) But he is the sweetest man, opens doors for me, holds my hand, is romantic , sends me cards just to let me know he is thinking about me. Theres not another guy who can hold a candle to him, and i consider myself very lucky to have found himand even more honored that he chose ME to be his wife. So yes there are men out there, hiding behind the not so perfect bodies, and incomes.



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      Marilyn09 wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I agree with Melissa too.

      Another part of me thinks that if women were less likely to sleep around until he says that he loves her and shows her the love then he would be more likely to open up.

      I have a friend that has been single for 4 years now. And she made it a point to not sleep with anyone Until he gets real.
      And she has not had anyone open up to her- Not One.
      Its so easy for the guys cuz alot of women are desperate for male companionship and will do anything for it.  

      Then you have the guys that Melissa was talking about who really want a female companion but they prolly act too desperate. Too Average.



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      Janet Wooley wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Women have set there standards too high. We expect a man to have everything, money, house, car, good job, looks personality. Well if this is really what they want they need to be looking for older guys. If you find someone and you connect on a personal level, humor, personality, manners, well work with what you got some day he will have all the things you are looking for mentioned above. There are very few who have “it” all the one’s that do have major personality defects. That is my Humble opinion.



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      Marilyn09 wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Another part of your question was how come they rush to the bedroom and not the mind.

      How old were you before you wanted to rush into the mind of another woman?

      It took me years to believe that I was like my mom.



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      Mztracy wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Sorry ladies, I have the last of the real men!! tongue out



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      Linni wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • im too mean to own one! lol estatictongue out



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      Linni wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Melissa hit the nail on the head! i know alot of women like that! im not thank goodness.. i know that one day, that i will be with the man im supposed to be with when its time..  

      Like Marilyns friend, when i left the x husband in 1998, i vowed to myself that my children came first! and i can honestly say that in the last 11 years, i have stuck to that, and haven’t jumped into the sack..however, i haven’t dated either, so that makes it easier! LOL



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      Tuliplady wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • I agree with Melissa also.  You have to take a second look at those average guys.  (I did and boy did I hit paydirt!!!!)

      The single 40something guys I know who I would consider to be “a catch” are very average.  One guy drives an old beat up car because his kid just rolled the good one.  Another guy I know is a little on the homely side, but once you see his heart, his face is transformed.  

      For you single girls, give the homely guys who drive old clunkers a chance.  You might just find a diamond in the rough!



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      Jenni0811 wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • My little pic earlier was meant to be a joke and I hope no one was offended. tongue out

      I have actually become acquainted with several real, decent men lately...go figure, when it rains, it pours...otherwise drought!!

      For myself, I have selected the best of the best to win my heart and will be throwing back the rest.....perhaps, I should “sell” them to the highest bidder!! LOL

      I know how easy it is to get downtrodden Kerri, but keep your spirits up....there are many wonderful fish left in the sea.



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      Marilyn09 wrote Aug 8, 2009
    • Have you guys seen that new Match Making show. Where the contestants only meet each other in pitch darkness.  It was on last Monday?



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