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I would like to think that the world of dating hasn't changed much since my last official pre-marriage date with my darling husband. But, sadly, that is not the case.

Long gone are the days when the man initiated the relationship by formally asking the woman on a date. And whatever happened to the romantic candlelight dinners at nice restaurants that men eagerly paid for? Now it's Taco Bell and Starbucks, with the woman paying her own way. Men no longer bring flowers to their dates, and courting and gift giving appear to have become ancient relics of the past. The worst thing is that women somehow now find ways to justify this behavior and accept it.

So what has replaced all the romance? Need a moment to think about it?

It’s the cell phone.

Cell PhoneNowadays, men text. They text to ask you on a date. They text you the next day to say they had a fantastic time (or not). And they text you with silly sexy messages that are often inappropriate. But if that's not enough, they even text you to say they are breaking up. I don't know how else to put it, but  let's face it, men now days just don't have the balls.

Remember the "Sex and the City" episode where Sarah-Jessica Parker got all bent out of shape because her boyfriend broke up with her on a sticky note? At least he was taking a chance that she might walk into the room, see what he was doing and confront him. Texting is way different.

With just a few taps of the fingers, a text message can literally break your heart. Having several girlfriends that are currently dating, I'm no longer surprised to hear the horror stories of their dates and the behavior of men. No, not all men are created equal. And yes, there are still some gems out there worth your time and attention. The key is to be very upfront and personal and to weed out all those who have lost touch with their pride and their manhood.  

Call me old-fashioned, but I don't understand any date - first, second or 20th - where a man doesn't pay for a woman. Yes, I've heard all the feminists say how women are equal to men and we should pay our own way and bla, bla, bla.  But that kind of thinking is exactly how we got to where we are today. In fact, feminism has gotten us in all kinds of trouble. Just look at women today—we're trying to be super mom, super businesswoman, super this and super that. In our quest to be equal, we're trying too hard to prove that we can do everything that men can do and do it better.

Couple fightingEnough already! We don't need to compete with men because everyone knows they aren't in our league.  We know we can do everything men do, so let's stop trying to prove it to the whole world. Women are women and men are men and let's not confuse the two. Don't get me wrong. I'm all for strong, empowered women. But at the same time we need to be feminine, compassionate and loving. We don't need to compete with men; we need to complement them. In order to do that we just need to be ourselves.

So ladies, those of you who have sons, nephews, brothers, uncles, or male friends that are dating, let's remind them that women want and need much more then a text message. Women need to be courted, cared for and cherished. And if the man can't deliver on these, tell them to at least call. Or better yet, text their buddy, have a beer, and stay home.

And to all of your female friends, a great suggestion would be to simply disconnect the text option on their cell phones. If men have forgotten how to court, let's remind them (and ourselves) that women want to be taken care of in the most loving, caring way.  

From now on, texting is out of the question!  

p.s. If you agree with message, PLEASE share this with all the women in your life, and all the men that you think still have hope. Click the buttons on top to Facebook, Twitter, etc.

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      Stacey Clark wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • Let me be the first to say, I refuse to let my power as a woman (and women let’s face it we do have power) rob me of being treated like a lady..after 17 years of marriage my husband and I still do it the old fashioned way, flirt, have candle lit dinners, he opens my door and treats me like a queen...I constantly tell my boys about how to treat a girl and respect her..and how I would prefer they wait to kiss a girl until they are married LOL..

      I am personally offended as a woman to see bill boards up all over the place that degrade women.  I personally will not go to Vegas because it is the most awful city that represents a woman as nothing more than a piece of meat..I was part of a team of women who viewed a new show that was getting ready to come out on NBC and it was a show about women hookers that had no value in life other than having sex and making money.  I stood up and said I will not support this kind of show and gave them my two cents the next thing I knew they were walking me out...Ladies it’s time we take back the purity and respect of women and in my opinion standing up and shouting that we are equal to men is not doing it for us...again understand what I am saying here, I am a strong woman that has survived and can survive through anything, but I have come to the place in my life where I am SHOUTING from the roof tops, “I can’t do it all..”  I am first a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, a friend, and than after all of that if I have the energy I will go out there and fight in the corporate world to be the CEO of a company!  

      Life is too short and I personally have wasted too many precious years of my babies lives trying to prove that I can be all things to all people.  I take each day as if it were my last now, I know I am fabulous, I am beautiful and I am powerful and I know that when it comes down to it I can do it just like a man and most of the time better but seriously who cares???  Does it really matter that much!  My mother n law gave me a great treasure that I live by daily, she said, “Stacey when you have to continually prove your worth to the world you allow the world to become your judge.”  How true this is!  

      I am all for throwing out the technology of 2010 and getting back to actually talking on the phone and communicating face to face, after all just because everyone around us is living as if they were “The Jetsons” doesn’t mean we have to!!  Let’s get back to living and loving like we know how, have a block party, actually talk to our neighbors, talk to our kids, and have a family night!!!  Life is too short!!!  Great blog Yana you got my blood pumping strong this morning:)



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      Anne Lyken-Garner wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • Oh I so hear you, Yana! I feel exactly the same way and thank God I’m not dating in today’s dating system. I would not have given my husband the time of day if he’d courted me like these young men do with their girls. Never.
      I’ll teach my son to be a gentleman. I think that girls will appreciate that. Which woman would give up a man just because he’s too respectful of her? She’d have to be mad.



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      Corine68 wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I agree with all of you.  I have been single for way to long.  By choice of course.  I, being a single mom, have raised my two sons alone and now am ready to enter the dating world.  Which scares me to death!  Met up with one guy who took me to lunch a few weeks ago and he asked why I hadn’t called.  I told him that the phone works both ways and he hadn’t called me either!  (still haven’t called him)



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      Sumitra wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • AMEN.......... if all of us who support this elimination ..than the RIGHT value system of conducting relationship will becoame a way of LIFE AGAIN....
      It takes a real man ... to TALK !!!!!!!



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      Carine Nadel wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I so agree-texting is out of hand-and why do men think it’s okay to treat someone w/ so little respect?



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • Very interesting and I agree...... However I look at my kids and it just seems to be the way of life for them.....



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      Sausan wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I think Helen Reddy and the so-called Women’s Liberation Movement happened to men.



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      Mariana Calderon-Thornton wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I totally agree with all of you, and of course we have to blame the so call “feminism” we wanted freedom, but I guess it went out of control we are not equal !! but we both have the same opportunities. I guess I am old fashioned too and I am so dissapointed by the “new age” of dating.....



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      Mira66 wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I find myself single again and out there dating after 2 decades, and my how the rules have changed. I wish I could say I knew what they were, but in the last two years that I have been dating I am clueless. What I have discovered are men who would rather IM than pick up the phone and talk and just are lazy when it comes to courtship. I wish I could say that this type of situation doesn’t happen often for me. I have made my own rules as to what I will won’t accept when it comes to men and dating, and I am sticking to it.



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      Brynn08 wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • We all have our place in the world and I understand about wanting to be and feeling empowered and proving that we can do it all just like a man.  As we all now know this came with consequences as written in the article.  As the good saying goes, “watch out for what you wish for!“.

      Now it’s time we start making some changes to change the "feminism” movement that got us here.  This starts in the home setting the example and for you single women are dating set the expectation of how you need to be treated.  Our men do not always need to know that we can and will do it all if we need and must do.  Let them feel that they are our men who are capable of taking care of us.  As my boyfriend says, “Let me be the man“.

      It’s been a hard transition for me because I was the do all single mom/dad raising two kids on my own, but to tell you the truth, once I let my self trust that I can depend on a man and trust that he has my best interest I wouldn't ever go back!  I love being the queen!!  

      Good luck to us all!



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      Keanu14 wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I’ve been married for 14 wonderful years and there is still romance in our relationship.  I don’t think we have to cut men off from texting altogether, but definitely on the important stuff.  However, women need to also avoid the temptation of important communications by email or texting to men because it is easier; otherwise we are guilty of sending the wrong message to men.  When I am away for a few days on business I really enjoy receiving an early morning text message from my husband telling me how much his missed me and loves me, but doesn’t want to call too early and wake me up or disturb my meetings.  I wouldn’t want to miss out on those text messages by outlawing all texting with men we are in a relationship with.  Women just need to make clear that men need to act like men and communicate in person when it is important, and perhaps it is up to women to begin the relationship by not responding to text messages and instead respond by calling him to discuss his text message or email.



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      Kajenn wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I agree with you, Yana, about men being men and women being women.  Viva la difference!  I can’t count how many times my husband has been treated like dirt for opening a door for a woman frown  Why, just the other day, he was out grocery shopping for me (yes, that’s the kind of MAN he is) and a patron of the store began telling him what kind of raw honey to buy.  It was $28 for a tiny jar from some other country!  He found a nice jar from a local area (understanding the benefits of local honey), and he nicely explained that we were on a budget and thought the one he found would be good for my needs.  She argued with him - quite incessantly.  Finally, he looked at her and said, “Look, I’m a good husband“.  “So YOU say!“, she snapped.  I told him, had I been there, I’d have whacked her on the head with a bag of brown rice!!

      There are a lot of disconnected people out there and, in being disconnected, they project their issues onto others, especially the opposite sex.  It’s time we start appreciating each other for what we have to offer instead of trying to turn each other into mirrors of ourselves (I don’t think that’s what we REALLY want anyway tongue out).

      Today is my husband’s birthday.  I’m treating him like the king in my life that he is heart

      Thank you for your article estatic



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      Macy wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • Over the years of trying to be equal we have just created more work for ourselves. We have taught men how to treat us and have not been too wise with it. Equal means equal, sharing everything from raising kids to housework. Many women don’t feel empowered enough to say to their partner that they need help with household duties and the kids. Somehow they feel like a terrible mother and wife not being able to do it all. Men don’t feel this way, in fact they like it when the women feels guilt, that way they do less.  The more they can get out of you the more they take. We have to stand up and stop mothering these men, then and only then will things change.
      I am tired of dating children... so bring on the real men of this world.



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      Brynn08 wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I totally agree with you Keanu14.  I get those sweet moring love txt too.happy



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      Broadcastgal wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I totally agree with you all!  This lack of values and morals has given Men a way out of doing the right thing.  I have been dating myself with the issue of texting and I must say, it is quite annoying when you have something important to speak about.  Pick up the phone and show some class!  A small gesture of respect goes a long way in my book.



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      Cradicella wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I honestly don’t know..I’m in my mid-forties, and am single..the younger men text me and the older ones call.  I suppose it balances out.  My take on it though, is if you are going to date me..you simply must treat me like a lady, the way i want to be treated..if not, you don’t stand a chance.  Whether they are texting or calling me, sooner of later, they have to face me.  Ultimately, the decision is mine how I want to be treated.  The company I keep says a lot about who I am, and what I think of myself, and as sure as heck am not going to let any men treat me like a second class citizen.  Pretty simple.



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      Joan Cox wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I understand some of what you mean. The phone is completely out of control. The ‘courting thing?‘, i dont have many issues with. In todays economy I can totally go with paying my own way, but I found the specials are easy.. I do it.. I make myself unavaliable for txting, it got so bad i actually tell people that unless it is an emergency, i do not respond to text msgs, regardless of who you are. peroid. it is written in stone and i refuse to bend, now people actually call me and talk to me or we meet after/before work or during lunch breaks. I like it far better then txting, I grew up without a cell phone, I can live without it if need be. My children even know, if it is not an emergency like ‘car broke down, stranded.. help‘, or ‘sick, need mom‘, I will not respond. They would txt me with stuff like ‘going to be late’ and I refused to respond, its not an emergency, PHONE me and talk to me. If you broke down and waiting for call from wrecker or somthing, fine, txt me  your location so i can check on you.. if you be sick.. txt me.. and soon as i can, i will be there.. if its much else.. then its most likely not an emergency.

      I will get a card for a man, and thank him for a wonderful time. they like to be courted too... and I have surprised one or two with a candle light dinner.. and it is amazing how that kick starts them and how romantic they can be.. when the realize hey this lady likes stuff like this..  

      today men really dont know where they stand.. and thats ok.

      i dont mind helping them along the way.. i believe in partnership and giving of myself as i want them to give to me.

      It seems to work.

      for me anyways.



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      Kerri1985 wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • Yana, I thought I was the only one who felt like something is missing. Things have changed over the years we have mothered the men in our lives and are doing everything for them which makes them have to do less. Men don’t date and take their time with women anymore, everyone is in such a rush to jump in the bed and not really taking time to really develop something with that person. Now, you have to show skin or wear something short just so he will notice you and then when he does he treats you as if you are one of the home boys on the street. We as women need to demand more respect from the opposite sex if we want to be treated a certain way then we have to lead in that direction.

      Peace~



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      Darlene Sabella wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I have a pair here, they are placed over the fireplace mantle, do you want to barrow them.  I had to remove them from my first X, however he never used them and they are now in good hands, I use them all the time.  This way we don't need the protection of men anymore nor do we need them to hunt  for our food, I can do all these things myself.  Men, are only attracted to beauty, not brains, not sweet and caring, they will smell out good legs with high heal shoes, however, a must is big breast and nice firm butt.  Now, I lost all those things years ago, so I am now invisible to men, so I just use the balls that I have saved.  To all my wonderful fabulous 40 plus girlfriend, let me know if and when you might be in need to use them, I am already getting so many request that I must keep a list.  Luv & Hugs, darski



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      Kyah wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • Right on Darlenesabella!

      I tend to scare men away. They are afraid of independent women. I have never been a damsel in distress. I still look good for 50+ and the young women seem envious when the men their age look at me, they wish they were as comfortable as I am in the skin that I’m in. Later for them too, they’ll get here eventually. The young ones want women to take care of them and the old ones want women to take care of them. Damn it take care of yourselves! If I can take care of myself, what the hell do I need them for?

      I don’t think I need to borrow yours, I think I’ll start my own collection of balls on a stick ... still attached (ooo, that’s gotta hurt!)!



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      Momtopreschooler wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • I understand that this article is about courtship, which by definition comes before marriage. But I believe that male-female romantic relationships in courtship or marriage (seeing as how they involve males and females!) are fundamentally the same. As Dr. Laura Schlessinger explains in her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage , "One of the unfortunate sequelae of the feminist movement is a lack of respect for the uniqueness and specialness of femininity and masculinity." Or more briefly, "Chivalry is largely dead, and feminism is the murderer"  (pg. 3). "It soured both males and females on the joy, awe, wonder, excitement, thrill, satisfaction from, and mystery of feminism ad masculinity" (pg. 3).

      Another painful result of the feminist movement is the fact that “[f]ar from being oppressed in their marriages, most wives are the oppressors” (pg. 75). Don’t you see this everyday? In television programs and movies, on commercials, even on children’s programs!, in the grocery store, in the hardware store, everywhere? Women are seen (and most definitely heard!) oppressing men: They treat their men like dirt, worse than friends or even strangers! Nag, nag, nag. Complain, complain, complain. Insult, insult, insult. Never being happy with anything that their men do. So why should men even try?  

      Or men see sex as recreation and entertainment everywhere, with women falling all over themselves to perpetuate this view of women as sexual objects, so why should men respect women and hold them in high regard? Men learn what they are taught by women: Women are sex objects.  

      Or with all the emphasis on individuality and self-sufficiency by women, why should men want to be in a relationship with a woman who insists that she can be all and do it all without a man? As Dr Laura explains, “Men now figure they can benefit with less pressure of responsibility and use women to insure the acquisition of more goodies” (p. 3).

      In the introduction to this book, Dr Laura notifies that reader that "[s]ometimes this book will seem like a smack in the face, other times it will feel like a big hug. But it will always be about the truth: men and women are as different as bananas and peaches. Sure as fruits they have commonality, but differences in texture, consistency, flavor, color, response to heat and cold, and nutritional content dictate a uniqueness that is to be appreciated, not criticized or dismissed in some bizarre notion that it hurts the banana if the peach is pink" (pp. 1-2). I LOVE the example she relays on page 56: "One small step toward a wife's [or girlfriend's!] taking responsibility [for maintaining the relationship] is to keep lips buttoned over things that do not really matter [italics added for emphasis]. I'm fond of repeating a phrase sent to me by a retired Marine master sergeant: 'Is this the hill you wish to die on?' " IS THIS THE HILL YOU WISH TO DIE ON? That is an excellent question that we need to ask ourselves before opening our mouths to speak to our men or to anyone, including our children! Is it really all that important that the peach is pink?!

      Dr Laura continues, “I believe that the single most horrible problem for marriages today is the lack of understanding, not only of what is needed by a man in a woman but also what is needed by a woman in a man. The very acceptance of the polarity of masculine and feminine is what makes a tight, loving, long-lasting bond—not the more mundane issues like equal effort in house-keeping” (pg. 2). Don’t you agree that she has hit the nail on the head once more?

      Why should we be so quick to make sure that men know what we "need" in a relationship, as if they'd be in trouble if they didn't give us everything we want so they'd better snap to it?! (See Valentine's Day commercials, for example.) Why don't we expend our greatest efforts to find out what they  need? Why don't we stop thinking about ourselves for a change? We expect men to think like we do, feel like we do, communicate like we do. We become impatient and angry when our children inconvenience us because our expectations aren't being met. We do the same with our men. Me, me, me. Think about it.

      Furthermore, as Dr Laura asserts, “It may be a surprise for many women to imagine that their husbands are in pain because of their behavior toward them. In all fairness, men do tend to be more stoic than women; they try to be strong and carry on no matter what. I do not fault that at all. That is a description of masculinity, one that has been under attack from a feminized culture that denies the importance of such inner strength and fortitude. Without those and other masculine characteristics, much of Western civilization would not have evolved. Think about the self-control and self-denial necessary in exploration or combat or survival under ferocious conditions. I do believe that it’s to the betterment of men and society that women temper and civilize these masculine characteristics; however, to deny the reality and value of masculine traits altogether is cruel toward boys and men, not to mention foolish, as it undermines the home and country."

      We need to value the “inner strength and fortitude” of our men but also value their very real feelings/emotions. “Since men are simple creatures who come from a woman, are nurtured and brought up by a woman, and yearn for the continued love, admiration, and approval from a woman, it makes them vulnerable to their woman’s moods, desires, tantrums, criticisms, disappointments, dissatisfactions, angers, and rejections," states Dr Laura. “The fact is,” Dr Laura explains elsewhere, “men probably are more emotionally needy for feedback from their wives [or girlfriends!] than wives [or girlfriends] are from their husbands [or boyfriends]. Women turn to their mothers, their friends, their neighbors, their coworkers, their relatives, their shrinks, their hairdressers, their manicurists, and most media to get validation—earned or not” (pg 77-78). "A man wants to be put on a pedestal, not so he can look down on everyone, but to show him that he is the most important thing to his woman" (pg. 76).

      As one of her readers/callers said, “My father told me, “You‘re marrying a man. Treat him like one and he will always act like one.” Isn’t that true? As one person replied to this courtship article, her boyfriend tells her to let him be the man. We do have that power, power to let men be men. And we can take pleasure in being women. We‘re not inferior to men, but we‘re not superior either. As a reply here read, “We complement each other.”

      Making GREAT EFFORTS to understand and APPRECIATE differences between real men and real women is one key to a mutually satisfying relationship. So forget about the cell phone. That’s one of those “mundane” issues that distract us from the main issues. Men like and NEED to be appreciated, just like we do. So let’s behave like ladies and support our men! And mothers of sons need to raise their sons to be men! Appreciating male differences begins from the time boys are born and training them to be real men starts very young also. We must train them to work hard, not be couch potatoes entertaining themselves all the time. We must train them to be responsible and trustworthy, and so on and so on....



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      Denise Critcher wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • Oh Yana you are so right! estatic
      My soon to be X use to be a man now he’s a withering clueless wonder of a man. He had to call his assistant the other day to see how much he would have to paid to go to the doctor! Because I was the one that knew that. You have to wonder if men now a days could find anything without their wife’s or girlfriends. I raised my one son and his four children I’m sure as hell not going to stick around to raise a grown man!



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      Anonymous wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • He is a good husband but there is no romance. What does a wife do in that case?frown



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      Maryann Rhodey wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • Amen to this Yana!  It’s interesting that women have worked so hard to be respected and then allow men to do this when it comes to dating.  I could go one but I think many of you said it all.  Nice work everyone!



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      Momtopreschooler wrote Apr 1, 2010
    • You act romantically toward him ! estatic Shower him with loving kindness. Tell him how much you appreciate all his hard work (be specific). Listen to him when he comes home and talks about his work--even if you don't quite understand what he's saying! estatic Cook him his favorite meal after a tough time at work . . . or just because you love him. Gussy yourself up and hire a babysitter! happy (Unless your husband prefers the natural look, then don't gussy yourself up but hire a babysitter! happy) You get the picture. And I will bet that, unless he has some heavy baggage of some kind or some severe stress in his life that demands serious attention, he'll start being romantic, too! heart



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      Brynn08 wrote Apr 2, 2010
    • momtopreschool you verbalized my thoughts and feeling well thank you!  Letting our men “be the man” does not minimize who we are as women, but can create a wonderful relationship full of love and happiness. . . the list is long.



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      Sharon Adams wrote Apr 2, 2010
    • Chivalry IS NOT DEAD!...yet



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      Veggie wrote Apr 2, 2010
    • Loved some of these responses.

      Great topic.



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      Momtopreschooler wrote Apr 2, 2010
    • I agree, boofull1! happy That's why Dr Laura said it is "largely" dead. PTL it's not completely  dead! estatic



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      Cradicella wrote Apr 2, 2010
    • Anonymous...“he’s a good husband, but there no romance, what‘a wife to do?“...

      Have you told him how you feel?  Have BOTH spoken about how you feel.. the key here is to communicate OPENLY..

      You can not read each other’s mind.. and if you try, they may only be assumptions..and we all know what happens when we ASS-U-ME.. happy

      Often, I find, if you can not communicate as “husband and wife“, take it to the other level.. if you were and are best friends..speaks to each other that way, and really try to be objective, and especially considerate of each other..

      Because there is no romance, does not mean there is no love or no trust..relationships change, and you may both be at that point where it feels like you are at a stand still, but, if you were truly looking at it from afar..it might be time for a refreshing change, such as go out on more dates, take a vacation together, surprise each other with gifts, and don’t wait for a special occasion.

      Good luck with everything..Praying for you bothhappy



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      Lizbobbi wrote Apr 2, 2010
    • Absolutely!  You have no idea how hard it is to date nowadays.  Sometimes I just tell guys I am married, but working for the Police Department, that does not deter them.  Yikes!  I seriously have been thru so many bad horrible dates lately, that I am just going to be happy being single, and being able to take care of me and my dogs :).



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      Yana Berlin wrote Apr 2, 2010
    • @Bernadette68 With all do respect, I think you completely missed the point of this article.



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      Theneighbor wrote Apr 4, 2010
    • We woman set our own self-worth.  The bar should be HIGH!  If a man has to stretch himself to reach for it he will either give up or he will strive.  Only accept a striver.  Otherwise you are settling for less than what you are worth.  Translation:  He will be worthless.



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      Free914 wrote Apr 5, 2010
    • happy Like this one



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      Timbuktu wrote Apr 5, 2010
    • I’m was dating last year - never got the heave-ho by text - that would have been better than how two did break up (if you can call it that after two or three dates)- by nothing, zero, nada rien. That’s plain rude!

      Still if you don’t want texts, tell them you don’t. I only use my cell phone very occasionally. Hate the idea of being interupted whenever and wherever. I loathe the way people are busy texting and answering their phones on dates. If a guy did that to me I’d get up and leave. But not before explaining why.



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      Whtshdwpanther wrote Apr 5, 2010
    • Greetings one and all! I’ve read every comment and agree with most. There is but one that may not ring certain. When I have a “male“, yes that’s the term I use for those who do Not know how to act as a man, I try to teach him by example how I wish to be treated. He is courted, seduced, and swept off his feet! Now, in the 29 years that I’ve been doing this, I have only know 1 who understood what I needed, wanted and what I was doing. One man. My problem with him? He tried to kill me. He was a preditor. Equally as experienced as I am. Not good. Ladies, please be careful out there in the dating world. If he really IS too good to be true, then run like H*LL.  

       I do understand Yana’s point. I blame it on Hollywood. I hate and loathe Metrosexuals. I do not want a guy who is in touch with his “femine” side. How am I supposed to be soft and femine when he is???? Somebody’s got to be the “guy“!  

      He must be masculine, desciplined, hard as rock in every way imagined, and he must be able to outsmart me IF he really wants me! Otherwise? I’ll just stomp him into the ground with high heeled boots. I am a challenge, straight up. And if he doesn’t like it? Well, don’t let the door hit you in the *SS on your way out. I like myself, and I love being me. With or without a mate, date, or male.  

       I have a 25 year old son. I taught him how to respect himself and to respect a true woman. Due to this training, he does not have a few girlfriends. He has a fan base. Even his grammer school teachers did not want to see him go. One actually cried...balled is more like it...when he graduated to junior high school. I was sitting right beside her when she did it. He holds the door open. Holds your chair. Asks his date/lady what she would like to have for the evening meal, then places the order for her if she wishes. And, yes, HE pays for the meal....or at least offers. So far, the women have paid for him! Truly, he tries to talk them out of doing so but that only works about half the time.  

       He is looking for a strong woman who knows her own mind. Respects herself. And is mature enough to handle a man who will find out everything you love and plan a date around those facts. My apologies, ladies, but I have reared a true romance novel hero. Sorry. Yes, he will even fight for your honor.  



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      Judeo wrote Apr 6, 2010
    • Hi Yana, for the first  time on this site that I feel my fresh as I go down the page. They say it end time but I think there is a missing link between civilization, complement and competition.And I feel it is the women that has missed it.If I do not like the way i am being treated by my date what stop me from telling it off and move ahead with my life until the right man comes . Remember it will only take some tome buy He will surely come. But impatience has made women to accept all sought from the male counterpart.



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      Faye43 wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • How very true!!! happy



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      Anwilliams wrote Apr 12, 2010
    • I read and like some of the responses. I also think it is because so many single women are rearing men and there is no way a woman can teach a boy to be man. She can teach him how women should be treated. But if she does now it is the blind leading the blind.

      Angeline
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