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Not sure if I am the only one out there that likes being labelled a “cougar“. Someone over 40, female, single and out in the dating world is automatically considered a cougar. I cannot count how many times I have been referred as that and just sat back and said nothing. Not to mention all the times a 20 something man has tried to hit on me. (Have to admit, it was fun to play with their minds.) Why do females always have to be called something or lumped into a category of some sort? It never occured to me how sexist that word is and I think that is why I am annoyed when I am referred as such. Then along came the TV series, “Cougar Town” and I couldn’t believe my eyes.
Just would like to know what they call men over 40, single and out in the dating world? Is there a new series about that? Perhaps we should start one!
Whew, shoudln’t have got myself started! estatic

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      Mztracy wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • I have no issue with cougar.
      They are graceful, gorgeous cats!



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      Max0125 wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • Good point Mztracy. I have always wondered why women who have “men” like qualities are labeled by a derogatory name.



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      Anonymous wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • rawr



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      Venus 7000 wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • I really don’t like the term.  I get the impression that it has become trendy for a young guy to hit on an older woman.    This is not necessarily a positive thing as the media has painted single women in their forties as desperate, sex starved and easy.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • I have no issue with it at all!  I consider it to be a compliment actually.  A strong, powerful, beautiful woman that always gets what she wants.  That’s what I think of when a woman is called a cougar.  It beats the hell out of being called an old hag!!  

      xoxo



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      Karyn Olson wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • I also don’t have an issue with it...can she help it if she is attracted to OR attracts younger men? I don’t think so...it is life...
      Not too long ago I was that girl...not that I was attracted to or went crazy over them...but I have had a few men younger than me (half my age) tell me that they were interested in me...made me feel good...built up my self-esteem...nothing wrong with that.

      BTW...a man such as that is called a dirty old man...I would much rather be called a cougar than a dirty old lady...LOL  estatic



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      Marie66 wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • I too have to agree... I don’t see anything wrong with an older women dating a younger guy.. My hubby is 9 yrs. younger then me.. We’ve been together for 13 yrs now..

      I rather be called a cougar then a dirty old lady estatic



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      Mz. Queen wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • I agree too.
      I’d rather be called a cougar than a dirty old lady, but I’m not dating anyone my children’s age. I welcome the attention and compliments also I am comfortable with a man 10years younger than I.



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      Max0125 wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • I read my response from before and I wanted to clarify that I have no problem with the term cougar. I think that a woman should go out with anyone who she wants to. What I do not like is how society tries to tell us that we shouldn’t  go out with someone younger. What is good for men is good for women. I do think that older men in general, are afraid of the whole older women and younger men relationship.



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      Rose1on1 wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • The term “Cougar” sounds a little harsh but I guess it will evolve into something a little more accepting as time goes by.

      I’m not for it or, against it.  It is what it is and it doesn’t define who we are, in actuality.



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      Kyah wrote Jan 5, 2010
    • They can call me anything they want, it matters not. Older men are definitely intimidated by women their own age being attracted/attractive to younger men. I know society has a habit of being stereotypical and judgmental and personally, I pay my bills/taxes, live my life, do my thing, and society’s opinions don’t mean crap to me. As long as it’s not a man who thinks because I’m older, I’m going to take care of him, I’m going to enjoy myself.  

      Life’s unfair; women reach their sexual peaks in their 30s and 40s, and men reach theirs in their teens and 20s, period.



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      Macy wrote Jan 6, 2010
    • Thanks for all your input, it is so nice to get different perspective on the whole cougar thing. I think what I was trying to get across was...why do we have to be labelled anything at all, why can’t we just be without being stereotyped? It seems society likes to label women and wrap us up in some nice neat little package. The positive in all of this is... we are such complex and smart beings that it feels better for some to stereotype women just to get a handle on us.
      Cougars really are beautiful, strong and sleek and I believe we are even more beautiful without the label.



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      Kathy Holmes wrote Jun 10, 2011
    • So true. It’s the same with the labels “chick flick” or “chick lit.” But I’m afraid my grandmother was right - it’s still a man’s world.

      But having said that, I just have fun with it. The whole Cougar thing tickles my funny bone. I loved that scene in “Mamma Mia!” where the young guy was hitting on Christine Baranski and she was playing with his mind - like you said. I had the same thing happen when I was single in my late 30s. And all of this inspired my short story, “Cougars” in Cabo,” which will be in the “Cougars on the Prowl” anthology.

      Even in the gift shops in Vegas, I see little t-shirts that say, “Cougar in Training.” Okay, so maybe some people think this is in bad taste, but it’s all part of pop culture, which is hard to escape. Just laugh it off. Like my father-in-law (a pastor) says, “If I didn’t have a sense of humor, I’d go crazy.”

      Kathy



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      Mztracy wrote Jun 10, 2011
    • Well, I’d love to be called a Cougar!! rawrrrrr tongue out



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      Msj wrote Jun 10, 2011
    • LOL @ Tracy!



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