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It's that time of year when spring is in the air, the weather is breaking and millions of high school seniors and their parents anxiously wait to hear from the choice colleges; acceptance or rejection. When the long awaited acceptance notice arrives, there is a real sense of joy and relief. For parents the acceptance letter often begins a rollercoaster of emotions; Joy about the Childs' accomplishment to sadness over letting go of our role as full time parent. Here are some tips for to help your get through;      

Acknowledge your own feeling
While your child acceptance to college is by far one of the most joyous and proudest parental moments, it is often one of the most melancholy moments as well. It is normal to feel some sadness and trepidation, after all, in some respects you will have to let go of your baby.  Acknowledge your feelings and work through them.  Talk to friends who have gone through the experience, get involved in a support group, talk to your spouse or significant other.    

Make memories and have fun with your child
Senior year will be filled with countless memorable events; prom, parties, and graduation. This is also a great time to make some great memories. Hold special family events and celebrations. Start by celebrating the college acceptance.  Remember to take lots of pictures and videos.  Spend quality time with your child. Let go of some of the mundane task and chores and take time to have fun. Your child is never too old to have fun with you.      

Don't stop parenting
An acceptance letter from college is not a certificate of adulthood. Although college bound your high school senior in many ways still a child.  From cooking and laundry to how to handle peer pressure and responsibility, your child still needs your parental support and direction. Keep teaching and guiding them.  

Establish the new relationship
Your relationship with your child will change and grow once they are off at college. Spend some time talking to your child about how that relationship will take shape. Set boundaries for both of you. Talk about how often you will visit, what are the expectations for grades, what are the house rules when your child is home. Being clear will help smooth the transition.  

Redefine yourself  

 College acceptance signifies the start of a new chapter in your Childs' life. Your child has great exciting new opportunities and challenges. The college acceptance also signifies a new chapter in your life, which can also be full of excitement and new opportunities. Have you been putting off a dream or a goal; a new career, going back to college, a new hobby? Now is the perfect time to go for it. Rediscover yourself.  

Laurie Giles
Attorney/ Life Coach/ Author/ Radio Host




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      Dana Cappelletti wrote Apr 21, 2010
    • I can only imagine how difficult and exciting it is to send your child off to college.  Great article and advice.



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      Yana Berlin wrote Apr 21, 2010
    • My daughter didn't get in to the college of her choice, however she had five other options.
      I always thought that she would be the one that will go off to college, but I see that at 18 she is not mature enough for me to be comfortable to send her away, so she will continue to live at home and attend school near by.  

      She had a minor "fit" over it, but we all ways told our kids "who they wanted to be was their choice, which school they will be attending was ours".  I just don't believe in spending 50 thousand dollars just to live on campus for four years while attending mediocre school.  She has an option of getting straight A while getting her Bachelors degree and applying for a great Master Program, that's when she will be able to go off to college and live on campus that is if she still wants to.  

      So I guess I accepted her acceptance letters, and gave her very little options, since we are paying the bill.

      What are your thoughts on the matter?



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      Marlene McCray wrote Apr 25, 2010
    • Nice article for I am there with my son. He is going away for college; its  welcoming yet challenging experience but he honors my opinions throughout so its a little more accepting.

      Marlene McCray
      Compass Representative
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