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Divorce is always difficult.  The process can leave you feeling stressed, and overwhelmed.   There are some practical things you can do to reduce your stress and help you to take charge of your life.  

 Get your emotions in check: Even if you are convinced that you are doing fine emotionally, remember divorce is a major life transition.  Take the time and space to deal with your emotions. If you are having difficulty, seek out the help of a divorce coach or therapist.  

Know your rights and options: Divorce laws vary from state to state, and so do your rights and responsibilities. Do your research.  

Develop a personal support network: Going through a divorce will likely to be one of the most difficult times of your life, having friends to support you can go a long way in helping you get through. It is often a big mistake to try to go it alone. Your friends will want to support you, let them.  

Keep things in prospective:  Make sure the divorce does not consume your entire life- the end of your marriage is a major change in your life, but there are many other aspects of your life which still need your attentions; children, Career, parents.  While it is probably easier said than done, you must still continue to play your other life roles; mother, daughter, employee, friend, community volunteer.    

Take time for yourself:  Take time to breath. Take some 'non divorce time' everyday. Even 5 minutes will help. Go for a walk, enjoy a cup of tea or a glass of wine, surf the net. Take some time to relax.  

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      Denise Critcher wrote Mar 24, 2010
    • That’s true you do need time for yourself, But in my case that’s all I have, my lawyer told me not to find a job, I really don’t have any friends of my own, there all his friends. And at 51 years old I just can’t go out without looking foolish.  

      I had to move out of state because out of the 16 property that he own there is only one in both our names and that was out of state.

      I’ve been in this limbo state for five months now and it starting to get to me.

      I’m in the process of taking an online course in Interior Design because I finally found out what I’m good at, but talking just to my two dogs and stranger when I go to the store for one thing or another is getting old.  

      So do you have any suggestion for me what to do with all of this time I have?



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      Laurie Giles wrote Mar 24, 2010
    • Since you are in a new place this is a great time to redefine yourself,  who do you want to be... I have had clients who joined some meetups to find new people and new things to do. check out the meetup website, see what interst you,



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      Sandras40 wrote Mar 26, 2010
    • That was wonderfully put. I went through a separation and I felt that it was a tough as a divorce.

      You are so right about letting your friends help. I did keep some out. With the up’s and down’s of going through depression may times I just wanted to be alone.

      It’s so difficult with out any support. Life and responsibilites do continue, so we have to do our best to keep all together the best way we can.

      Denise that is great that you are going to take an online course in Interior Design. I love decorating! You can always chat with us for moral support.

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      Denise Critcher wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Thanks Sandra for the support, at times I do need the moral support.
      My two friends out her in Calif. Have never been married so they do not know how hard this time is for me.
      I went out to a party or mixer whatever last night and had a great time dancing and meet a lady who was also single, she had been married for 23 years and had the same kind of marriage I did, she had dated a few men after her divorce and said that I think I will be single the rest of my life. I totally agreed with her, she said that it is just too much hard work. And I think that’s what it comes down to it. The husbands and society think you can do it all and I’m sure there are a few women that can, but for the most part we can’t. We can’t cook, clean, take care of kids, do our out side jobs and then turn it all off and be a sex kitten to our husband at night.
      I know my husband has two companies, goes to those companies maybe once or twice a week and plays golf the rest of the week and then more golf on the weekends. He allows the employees to run his companies. So while I’m at home cleaning his house taking care of his kids and redecorating his house and office he out playing golf! Does that make sense to you! Then tell me that I have spent to much time alone and I need to find friends! Then he goes and has an affair on me because I work to much at home. Is there any sense to that am I missing something?



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Denise, I am sorry of what you are going through.  I am in the midst if it along with others personal issues.  I agree this is the time to find support but may I add “quality” to the word if support.  I have great close friends and one of them do not see my point in keeping my house; so in turn, she strongly suggested I move to “start a new life” and yet worst, said my To Be Ex is the victim of the divorce.  I love her dearly but that is not supportive nor respectful to me.  

      Keep up with Faith and Hope... you will be alright even though it seems a bit strange, lonely and tough for now.  Take care.



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      Mztracy wrote Mar 27, 2010
    • Denise, the design class sounds good. Maybe do some volunteering  

      This is your time now to shine. You do what YOU feel good about doing.

      Good luck to you in whatever you choose! estatic



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      Denise Critcher wrote Mar 28, 2010
    • Thank you ladies for all of your comments, as of next week I will be starting a kickboxing class and an art class. One class for my soul and the other one just because I think I need to kick something to start the blood flowing again.
      I was think about volunteering for senior citizen group that need people to take the elder to there appointments.
      What I really would want to do is to start painting again, walls not canvas to create a room from scratch is the most exciting thing. Just creating a atmosphere is what I love to do.
      Thanks again for all of your support.heart



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      Mztracy wrote Mar 28, 2010
    • omg, you can come and paint my all the walls in my house!! They are white white white!! lol

      I wish my hands still allowed me to paint and draw, so now I can live vicariously through you! And kickboxing is great. I can’t do it, but in my walking days kicking things was just what the doctor ordered!

      Volunteering for the seniors would be cool, they have the best stories to tell and many have no one to listen. I think you’d be gr8 at that!



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