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I was having a conversation with my daughter Megan and my SS Garrett yesterday. My daughter boldly proclaimed she knew me. Knew all my secrets, my thoughts, my concerns. Of course when I stopped laughing long enough I proceeded to tell her what I found while going thru my Mom’s stuff.

My Mom had 2 loves in her life besides my dad. They were Elvis and Viggo Mortenson. We knew about these men. After all I went to see Elvis in concert with my Mom while I was in 1st grade. I went to school the following Monday and used that as my topic in show n tell.
We also put their pics in the pictorial memory we put together at the funeral. They are on the disc that the funeral home made for us along with the beautiful music played.

What we were not expecting to find while cleaning out her things were pictures of Mr. Mortenson naked.... or half dressed. Yep! Buried under some clothes in her drawers there they were.

I can honestly say I was not prepared for those but am so thankful that I didn’t find things like vibrators n such. We had laughed about that before my Mom had passed I truely expected my Mom and sisters to play a joke on me and plant some.

So my question to you is.....

What will your kids/family find when you die?

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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Because we are a family of jokers I plan on leaving some naughty items for my daughters to find. I will be planting some things just to get them going....

      Teach my daughter a lesson for thinking she knows all.....



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • written journals with thoughts that would surprise them. I’ve usually maintained a happy attitude because others in my family are the gloom and doom people. No sense in more of us being outward about it so I tend to write my sadness down in my journals.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • That will really leave them some memories... your actual written word about your personal thoughts.

      I am sad that they would be sad tho but sometimes that is truly the only way to express yourself.



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      Jenni0811 wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Scary question.....  A good one to think about as we collect “momentos“, hide secrets or write journals. Hopefully the worst they will discover is how huge a shoe glutton I really was.....



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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • LOL! I’m already out in the open on that one....along with handbags.



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      Daphne wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • I have written journals to each of my children from the time they were born.  I don’t think they know about them...they are tucked away.  

      I have also written down the passwords to all my online accounts so that things can be closed down.  

      Aside from that, there isn’t anything glaring that my family might find after i die...which might be any time now considering how absolutely crappy i’ve felt since Saturday night.



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      Linni wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • well, my children will find journals that i have written.. i write everyday.. wheter its one line or a few paragraphs.. they will also find my journals i have written to God.. yes, i wirte to Him almost everyday..

      the will also find 2 pairs of handcuffs lol not sure where i got them from, or from who! lol it was back in my drinkin days.. goodness!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • hmmmm...... I bet there are stories associated with those handcuffs......



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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • oh do tell.... what’s in the goody drawer?



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      Jenz ~ wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • One thing, and I should probably throw this particular thing into a time capsule somewhere...lol is, a journal that was designed specifically for my personal love life. It challenged me to write my deepest secrets, desires and experiences in it. I did it for a year & a half. It really ws challenging yet romantic at the same time. That book may very well start someone’s hands on fire. lol It’s loaded with emotion and experience. As it stands, if something were to happen to me, it’d be found easily..
      Other than that, any pictures I have are all password protected and not in any storage, photo albums, etc.

      Who knows- maybe someday someone will see it besides myself & say, “Wow! She LIVED!” haha



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      Wittymom wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • My daughter knows about the journal I keep for her.  Lots of paperwork, I keep all kinds of momentos, invitations, funeral mass cards, matchbooks, oh Lord, they will have alot of cleaning up to do.



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      Linni wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • lol.. wish i could remember the stories with the handcuffs Vikki! lol



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Nothing secret. the only “family” I have going through my possessions is Mark, and he knows about the goody drawer!



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      UK Girl wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Sadly nothing racy just a storage space filled with junk .. that I can’t bear to part with!

      They know all my secrets ... other than the storage room - my thought is they’ll have something to do clearing that out .. ha ha



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      Linda Hendricks wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Hopefully ... my best friend gets to it first.... otherwise.... oops.... my vibrator...LOL



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      Waxwing wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • What a great thread !

      Let’s see :  

      that I actually used to work full-time and have a resume  ( my children have no idea - all of my college friends work, I don’t )

      a picture of my college love, hidden in a drawer

      a thong ( ugh, that scares me even )



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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Well I have a thong too..... racey red. But strangely enough  not shocking to my kids. Which makes me wonder I would find if I had to search thru their stuff......ugh!!!!!



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      Denise Richardson wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • They will find journals as well as a photo book designed just for my granddaughter, old cards and letters I kept from when my hubby and iwere dating old photos of me in my early years, a saftey deposit key to the box, a will, who knows what else my life isn’t over yet lol.



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      Yana Berlin wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Great post Vikki, remember that movie?

      The Bridges of Madison County? I think it was called.  

      I think I’m pretty transparent, having said that, who remembers what we still keep? I have diaries from back when I was 14 all the way to 18, will my children even be interested in reading them? who knows?



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • I love old things. I have things I’ve collected stuck everywhere. They will find these things.
      They will find my journals. I even have an anger journal. A journal of letters written but never intended to be mailed.
      My goodness, I can’t think of anything that would make them say whoa! But you never know?



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      Inakika wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • Lots of chocolate wrappers and wine bottles.....



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      Smiley1962 wrote Feb 25, 2009
    • If my son looks in my one special drawer then he will find all the outfits that I have. Hopefully if my husband is still alive he will remember that drawer and make sure my son does not look in it. estatic



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      Womensafety wrote Feb 26, 2009
    • What a great question, and something to make you think. I have a letter for each of my brothers and sisters and one for every niece and nephew. Due to the loss of two of my nephews in 3 month time my family have taken a real close look at death more than we ever wanted to.

      This question makes me smile to think of your family Vikki. I am so sorry to hear of your mothers passing,Here is a great tribute to my Father.

         My Father died in a car accident on his way home from work, As a child he made sure we would be ok the day he started his journey, our whole life he made sure we all knew what he wanted to take with him.  

      Truly a life to Remember My Father  

      1 The racing form for that day.
      2 His coffee cup from open day at Roosevelt raceway.
      3 Mack the knife song on tape
      and many other things.  

      He use to say as we would get him a cup of coffee hold that with two hands it has a long journey to make with me.

      Needless to say the night of the accident his 6 kids and my mom were in the house all our spouse went home. About two am we all looked at each other and said, Dad told us all  what to do.

       Now at that moment we all got up and went to get the items we had heard about all our lives for my fathers final journey.  

      Knowing my father he was such a smart man, He would say to us I want to be laid out for 5 days so you are so sick of me you will go on with your lives.  

      Another thing was before we got married he would make us do work in the house his theory was that if you got mad enough at him you would never want to come back and work to make your marriage work, all 6 of us have been married at least 15 to 35 years with no brake up.

      Vikki I am so sorry to take this question to this level but It brings back some wonderful memories of my Father. Thanks



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      Vikki Hall wrote Feb 26, 2009
    • OMG!!! Thank You for sharing about your father, a truely beautiful story. I am sorry at the sudden and unexpected loss of your father.
      And you are right...death makes you look at things differently.

      Many Blessings to you!!!



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      Kaffeine wrote Apr 20, 2009
    • My dad died in 99 and we found nothing...absolutely nothing. He’d been shredding and burning and throwing things away for about a year straight. We thought he’d been “cleaning out clutter” as he called it and only realized that he’d cleaned out everything from 1998 backwards, including tax papers and important info. We had an inkling of a past that he frantically kept us out of that included other daughters than myself and my sister but we’ve never learned names, places, etc.  

      I’d heard about this thought about two years ago and started thinking of what my family would find when they go thru my stuff. lol So, I did some cleaning of my own...some journals weren’t meant to be read, etc. but I’ve left all the boys letters about their growing up, how proud I am of them and what I want for their futures, what I know they‘re capable of. Things that make me smile, I’m a person who keeps momentos so they’ll find those but nothing that would shock or destroy their idea of who I was like what my father would have done/did. And I hope that they remember me with fondness and smiles.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 20, 2009
    • Hi Kaffeine,

      Thx for sharing that. I am sorry about the mystery surrounding your dad and the unanswered questions you may have. Just keep that in mind so your sons don’t feel like they have unanswered questions.
      My Mom started going thru things too but required our help most of the time. She did have hired help too so who knows what ‘they’ went thru and got rid of.
      It sounds like your kids will have some good things to think about while going thru your stuff.



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      Carolnphil wrote Apr 20, 2009
    • Let’s see.  My boys found my “toys” when they were 3 and 5.  They showed them to the babysitter.  Hey, look at my mommy’s toys!  Ugg.

      There are diaries I kept from age 8-18.  Haven’t looked at them in years.  I do remember that the last two years worth (ages 17 & 18) were written in Gregg shorthand to keep my mom from snooping!

      There are loads of unfinished projects; knitting and quilting, and hoards of yarn and fabric stashes.  I should probably try to finish some of them.

      I don't write down my really private thoughts.  Those are mine and I don't want to share them with anyone else.  I'll leave them wondering about those.

      I hope that my husband and my sons remember that I did the very best I could and cut me some slack.  estatic



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      Tammyjoa wrote Apr 20, 2009
    • ATFER READING THIS QUESTION AND GIVING IT SOME THOUGHT. I STARTING THINK OMG,, THEY WILL FIND VIBRATORS, DIRTY MOVIES. POEMS AND BOOKS I HAVE WRITTEN OVER THE YEARS SOME DIRTY AND SOME JUST WRITINGS.. I THINK I WILL START GETTING RID OF SOME STUFF..LMAO...



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      Frannie1964 wrote May 31, 2009
    • Wow.. I don’t have journals, I have tried writting some, but then I get side tracked and never finish them, Is It too late to start one? I do have a couple of books called Writing my life and The book of Myself. I am working on those and there are a few things In them that would really turn some heads and put a look on their face. Other then that, My vibrators and a couple of unmentioned toys I should probably get rid of now..lol, but oh what a story they would have to tell when I’m gone..Anyway, I think we all have a junk drawer full of stuff and definitly my jewlery, they will have a field day with that one, I love jewlery!!



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      Vikki Hall wrote May 31, 2009
    • Frannie,
      It’s never too late to write a journal. After all you are the story...past, present and God willing future....

      Just hide that other stuff....



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      Moodydee wrote Jun 27, 2009
    • Hopefully nothing!!!! Jesus would most likely have come and waken everybody up by that time!ohhhh



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Oh Jo!

      My mom was a pack rat too and while we had fun going thru some of the stuff (above mentioned) we also was wondering what the hell on a lot of other stuff.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • How True Joanne!



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      Allinet48 wrote Aug 15, 2009
    • My daughter asked a friend to go in my mom’s nightstand drawer and get her my nail file. This teenage boy found some K-Y and freaked. She told my husband and I the other day-we laughed a little. I told her we are dead yet and we do still make love -this was our 29th anniversary. I laugh when I think of it, and then make plans for cleaning out or spicing up said drawers,can’t decide.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Aug 15, 2009
    • Just how lost they are without me.  Sad....but true.



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      Shopgirl1960 wrote Oct 21, 2009
    • My family would also find tons of journals from the age of 12 and current ones. I also keep most all my birthday cards from my parents and relatives so that I can look back at those cards and remember them should they pass before me. I am also a “pack rat” when it comes to memorable items, such as what the kids have made in school,etc.
      YES....I am a memory keeper. I wonder if they will look at my journals and keepsakes, and also what they will discard.
      I cannot to this day throw away any notes my Granny had written that were her keepsakes.

      I have pondered recently whether to start throwing many of my keepsakes away since I rarely look at them and they will only be trash to someone else. Hmmmmmm

      I still have my deceased husbands glasses,belt,and other items I can’t part with even though I’m remarried.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Oct 21, 2009
    • Della I can’t tell you what to toss and what to keep. I do know that my sisters and I enjoyed going thru some of the stuff. We sat and laughed for hours at some of the stuff my mom had kept and we cried at some of the stuff too.
      My mom did seperate stuff into boxes for each of us and for her grandkids. Things that she wanted to share with that individual. That was probably the best/worst part....seeing what she wanted ME to have and know about her.

      Kids (like me) may not appreciate pack rat practices while parents are alive but they sure are nice to have later.



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      L J wrote Oct 31, 2009
    • i have not even thought about what they would find, that i have stashed here and there!!!
      but i guess they would find things that would make them cry, and also make them laugh and just a couple of items that would bring a shock to their faces..
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