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Wow, I remember when I was a kid, I never went to bed without kissing my parents and saying Goodnight. In my house everyone just disappears without a word frown

After a day of not feeling well (nothing serious, just That time of the Month), having to push myself to go up and down two flights of stairs to wash laundry, then take it to the laundromat to dry (my machine works but my dryer is broken) clothes that aren’t even mine....I come home to do dishes my daughter was suppose to do. I’m left standing there doing dishes and everyone has gone off to bed without a word to me.

My back is killing me and I’m finally tired, but I’m too annoyed to wanna go to bed.  

I feel sad inside, empty as usual. heartbreak

I’m 42 and things around here are never going to change. HE will Never Change worried




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      Anne E wrote Sep 21, 2010
    • Faye,
      Sorry you‘re going through such a rough time.  It’s so hard having to do most everything by yourself!  I think it’ll help when you find a job (don’t give up!) and can surround yourself with a more pleasant atmosphere during the day.  Not to mention the extra income and the sense of accomplish that working can bring.  It took me over a year to find a job.

      My daughter does not hug or kiss me goodnight either and it’s tough when I see my brother’s daughter (only a year younger) is so affectionate that she hugs me too!
      Hang in there!



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      Denise Richardson wrote Sep 21, 2010
    • heartI’d disappear just like them, what you need to do is give them a taste of their own medicine. You are being taken for granted it seems, they love you but they are also taking you for granted, they know you‘re going to pick up the pieces, so what I would do is put on blinders and walk around like them as though I see nothing. If it means taking care of your own personal laundry do so, cook your own meals do so, and see what the end result would be, someone is bound to notice and say something it should spark some curiosity in one of them to the point of a discussion about it and when it does let it rip my friend. Hold your head up, it’s ok, and it shall be ok, do you and don’t worry about the rest, either they begin to do better or I would just take care of me and everyone else can fend for themselves. Good luck.heart



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      Lazylola wrote Sep 21, 2010
    • I like Neicy’s approach.



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      Jo46 wrote Sep 21, 2010
    • This is the time to make some boundaries.  Change is good for everyone!  Just tell them clearly and directly what you expect from each one of them.  You can do this...you are not a doormat!  Ask them what happened to being kind towards you!  You are worth it!  Don’t give up hope!



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      Anonymous wrote Sep 21, 2010
    • Yes ive been in your shoes before. i am guessing your kids are pretty grown up? Well i was brought up like you in a close nit family and hugs and kisses at night, i done the housework and cooking at age 15 not because i was made to but because i could see moma was too tired all the time from work. Then when i had my own family i expected the same if not better. And for the most part it has been, but now my 2 children are still here with me one is 16 and the other 24. I have never gotten any help with dishes or laundry or anything, and i still wait on them hand and foot. But i see the distance is growing as far as the closeness of course the 24 yr old dont hug or kiss goodnite but my 16 yr old always did but she is gotten more independent and a boyfriend. i feel like nothing more than a maid. Mom get me this, and mom get me that. And i can ask could you please do the dishes tonight......no...i know its my own fault, but my plan is to go on strike. I will stop cooking and cleaning up behind them and tell them to get their own drinks etc...when they ask. ive spoiled them. So when the house gets really dirty and im just laying around lazy like they are im hoping they will do something about it. It might not work but its worth a shot.



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