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WTH?  I have a neighbor that lives directly behind me.  Never meet the woman.  We have been neighbors for four years.  Our back yard is separated by a privacy fence. When she is in the back yard and we come out, she goes in.  On a few occasions I tried to speak but she makes no eye contact.  She will have her blinds open and when I get up and open my blinds she closes hers like I can look in her space, really!  The houses are two stories but I cannot look into her house in the broad daylight even if I wanted too.  I thought I was crazy but even the kids noticed it.  What ever happen to be neighborly?  Why are people so antisocial?
This really got to me to today because; we had the city knocking on our door this morning like we committed a crime.  When we finally answered the door he said the neighbor behind us called and said there is water running from back of her house into the streets and he wanted to know if we had the sprinkler system on in the backyard.  Well, we did not and the water was not coming from our back yard.  Had we been neighborly she could have asked!




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      Linda L wrote Jul 16, 2011
    • Good post!  I agree - Whatever happened to being neighborly? The next door neighbors on each side of my house are nice people, but will only talk to you if you initiate the hi or hello.  

      Our backyard is also separated by a private fence and a few weeks ago I had the abundance of blackberry vines growing from behind my fence that were trailing into my backyard cut all the way down. Every year I trim it, but they grow back quickly like weeds so I took the initiate to have a co-worker’s son to get rid of it. Well, it sure benefits 3 neighbors who live behind me! The gardener told me that the neighbors were appreciative of it. Well the few times I’ve been in the backyard and a neighbor or two were out I didn’t get a thank you. It would have been nice for someone to offer their yardwaste container to help throw away the vines.  Our week pick up is once a week with an extra charge for any additional cans and there’s been 4 pickups already, but the huge pile of dried up vines in my front yard remains.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Jul 16, 2011
    • People are such a trip I think many in society today feel they are so much better than the next, but it hurts not to be neighborly you never know who your neighbors are and you never know who you may need to come to your rescue one day and it could very well be the very neighbor you turn your nose up to!worried



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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 17, 2011
    • Sadly, less and less people are interested in being neighorly. They‘re all wrapped up in their own life and there’s less trust of others living in a big city, as well.

      With my moving from here where I’ve been dumped by neighbors because of the divorce and moving to another small town soon as I can, I’m hoping for a neighborly environment there. Will let you know if that happens.  

      Cathie



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 17, 2011
    • Ok admission here......  

      It’s not that I’m not neighborly that I don’t go initiate friendships with my neighbors. Because of being in the service industry my entire life  I would come ho e from work and be tired. The last thing I wanted to do was be drawn into long conversations after being at work and being involved in 10 hour long conversations. (think about the stuff you tell your hair stylist, nail tech, etc). I gave my all at work and it was hard to give more to anyone besides family.

      Now with saying that I do try to be a good neighbor. I say hello and I wave. I pay attention to the goings on in the neighborhood just in case. I keep my yard and house up. I just don’t pry!!! Does that mean I’m not neighborly?



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      Linda L wrote Jul 19, 2011
    • Maybe some misunderstood me I’m not asking for wonderful friendship or chat and have a long conversation. When I come home from work I’m tired too and don’t want to be involved in a long talk. I love my privacy too. Sometimes a hi or hello from afar, thanks for taking care of those vines would be nice. I don’t pry into people’s business.

      That’s all.



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      Monay wrote Jul 19, 2011
    • Thanks for your comments ladies.  Hi and bye is alright with me as well. I do not care to get in anyone space, lol nor do I want them in mine.  I know who my neighbors are on each side and in front of me....we are cordial, not friends.   However, if anything is suspicious we will alert each other.



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      Diane17 wrote Jul 22, 2011
    • I live out in the country and the distance between people’s houses is pretty considerable.  I rarely see my neighbors too but when I do, I wave and say hi.  

      We had a family with 5 kids right across the street.  One of the girls was in my son’s class for a couple years.  The mother babysat Jack for a while and watched Kyle after school.  Unfortunately they moved and now there are no kids in the neighborhood besides my boys!  frown



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      Marya1961 wrote Jul 23, 2011
    • Great post, Monay!  If anyone on my street goes out of their way to be neighborly, it is definitely me, or it was when I first moved in.  I have noticed that people living in the ‘burbs want nothing more than to get up in the morning, get into their vehicles to go to work and then return in the evening and run into their home.

      I also don’t need a person’s life story or vice versa, but how about some consideration and respect for those that live around you?  It makes sense.happy



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      Mzd3 wrote Jul 23, 2011
    • I agree with you Mary, I like to know who my neighbors are too. I live in a suburb and our homes are close , some of us have been here since they were built, and we are all friends.



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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 23, 2011
    • Diane17, it’s different living in the country for sure. Most people up here at least know who their neighbors are. Not sure I like how I’m known these days, LOL, but some have come around to see me as me and that is cool. Not many kids living around here, the population is pretty much older people that know how to survive the winters or have a 2nd home for the winter. I hope you can find other kids close enough for your boys to play with.  

      Cathie



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