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Asking this question at first brings up visions of actors figuring out their parts:  “What’s my motive?  What am I supposed to be doing here?”  I chuckle at this image.

However now I’ve been asking myself that question pertaining to a number of situations.  “Why am I doing this?  Should I be doing this?”

The past few months I’ve been taking a “time out” from various activities in order to focus on myself.  In particular, why do I do the things I do?  How can I make positive changes in my life?  Where should my head be at?  And what about my heart?  (Hence, all these “Contemplations“!)

Lately I’ve been coming up against my motives vs. my actions.  What is my motive behind the things I think & do?  Is it out of fear (if I don’t do this, then...)?  A feeling of obligation (those “shoulds“)?  Pride (look at me!)?  Revenge?  Or is it out of caring for others, what I would like to do, what God is calling me to do?  And of course I ask myself, “Is this the best use of my time?”  One may be motivated to do many good things, but there are only 24 hours in the day and a limited budget!

On the other hand, there are also motives not to do things.  Am I trying to avoid confrontation?  Am I afraid?  And why?

Anyone else asking themselves these questions?

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