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Hi...I hope your having a wondeful day! Here is my first personal email to you....laugh! I’m truly flattered to have your attention....I have goose pimple’s! I just checked my pof email and saw your message. Yes, I would love to hear where you been, are now and want to go in the future. We are all on a journey to find our path and soulmate, what ever you want to tell me will be held close to the heart-you may share whatever moves you...I am a trustworthy person and confident. Truth be told, I dream about someone so beautiful, talented and available as yourself- your definetly the needle in the haystack....truly, it is all about timing. I work very hard and am ready to share, compromise and create beautiful memories with my best friend, lover and loyal companion. I want my piece of the pie like everyone else....I am not perfect in anyway, but willing to let myself be vulnerable for the right person. I want to be proud when I walk down the street with her, bring her around family, laugh and smile all as one! I know and remember that feeling with someone, it has been too long. I love to work and am devoted to my career, but that would change with the opportunity to integrate someone into my life, schedule, family, routine etc. I have absoluelty the best family, the nicest sisters-(the girls...laugh!), they are tight, love to shop, gamble, travel, we know how to work a room and lead the parade when it comes to fun! Anyway, I am able to express my feelings and really want to fall in love...it’s hard to find her. If you were to invest in me, you would find a strong, kind, caring and very fuuny man....I enjoy making others feel good. I am loyal and generous to those I care about-I will never compromise that. I fell so compelled to share my thoughts with you, I hope you can appreciate my honesty and sensitivity- I really would love to have the right person...I’m ready....a flower waiting to blossom....I am psitive with good energy- I just want to express that to the right person the short time we are here....I live everyday as though it matters...I wake up happy each day because I have so much to be thankful for. If I am down, it is not long- I have too many people around me to ever let those close to me down. I have a presence about me, I make a difference-it is important that I am pertinet and walk with a demeanor. Wow!...I’m really flowing here. I think you are someone who makes a difference too, thus why I am reaching out. I love your attention,. texts, looking at how beautiful you are....I absolutely love how you style in the one pic with the blue sweater...I love to dres also and style very well....laugh! I have to run- ....home after....thanks for reading this long letter....hope you are having an awesome day....

                                             Your Friend,

Posting this might kill the potential here.....but what do you gals think about this.....we haven’t met yet, this is an internet potential match....does it speak desperate, needy, controlling?????  I’m a little afraid of the emotion portrayed here since he knows little to nothing of me.....



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • Was this on his profile? or in a message to you? either way it scares me.....



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • My first impression.....I initially thought this was your letter to him and I was taken aback.  I feel so much better that it’s from him to you tongue out.  I think it’s very overwhelming, to say the least.  Trust your gut Jenni.  If you feel “something is off“, then that’s what I would go with, and I think youre feeling something is off otherwise you wouldnt question it.  IMHO

      xoxo



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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • He’s a guy I met on an online dating site and this is a personal email..........but it’s been this intense from the get go. He’s an attractive 48 y/o never married, no kids, lives in my area.........sorta scares me with the intensity since we haven’t even spoke on the phone yet!!!!!!!!!    

      Wanted some verification here or other opinions.....gets sorta confusing with this dating stuff....



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • I was uncomfortable reading it. Too many “I” statements and it did sound a bit desparate to me.

      But you and only you can really do the gut check on this.

      I want to share something. My husband has a friend who uses an online dating service and he really puts it out there very similar to this man’s e-mail. Then after meeting someone It’s a common occurance that the woman decides not to pursue anything with him. Not exactly sure why but it’s always the woman who makes that decision. This e-mail sounded like him!



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      Mjmurphy wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • At first I thought it was something he had posted on his profile or sent out as a feeler to all the women. Then I seen the personal comments at the end and it got me a little scared. Maybe I’m being cynical... I agree to go with your gut, you’ve been talking to him so you have a better idea if it’s genuine or not.



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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • hahahahaha Cindy..........I agree, too much about “me” meaning “him“...meeting “his needs”    Pheeeeewww, my first X was very much like this........I’m not interested in being “arm candy“, and if he has such a huge “reverse Cinderella” picture of what the Ideal Mate is like........not even interested in attempting to measure up....



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      Robinesque wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • Hmmmmm.  All I can say is “not feelin’ this one!”



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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • Personally.......I am more afraid of the 47-50 y/o who has never been married than someone like myself, going on #3.....at least I am open and loving enough to connect with a man, both my marriages have lasted 10 yrs and they both would provide “references“...hahaha   I really HATE hearing “desperate“.......



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      Laurie Zieber wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • I thought this was a letter from you at first too.
      Man, I’m relieved it’s not!

      Can you say
      tries too hard?

      run! Jenni! run!



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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • OK....here’s my response:

       “Hey Babe,

      Gotta say....ur sorta freakin me out with the intensity. You know nothing about me, and yet you seem to be projecting a whole future here.... I’m good with a meet/n/greet and I’m avail sometime this coming week.  Let me know what might work for u.....

      Jenni
      Love doesn’t make the world go round, but it makes the ride worthwhile.”

      Whether or not ur interested....I’ll keep U posted girlfriends!!   Wish me luck....don’t know which kind I want...estatic



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • Jenni, when I first opened this blog, I thought "wow she wrote a long one, I'll have to read it later." And my first thought was-you wrote it and I was was going to tell you to cool your heels (great minds, Doreen!) Now that I re-read, and see he wrote it-WHOA!!! Pull back those reins, buster!  

      This gives me the willies. I would not go near his.ohhhh



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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • Like seriously......what guy writes like this?? and this is the 2-3rd lettr I’ve gotten like this....I guess I have no question.....I am as afraid as the rest of U!!



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • 48, never married??
      hmmmmm

      maybe all his as some think men this is what women want to hear. hmmmmm



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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • Tracy......Since I am not “Ideal“... AKA divorced twice, I feel a bit guilty “judging” a guy’s background.......BUT, I am really afraid of the “never married“....at least I have proven I can and do know how to love, and each marriage @ 10 yrs has spoken for my loyalty and attempt to make it work....



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      Marie66 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • jenni, He sounds scary, don’t even bother with him. And he’s NEVER been married, ok whats wrong with him? You go ahead and judge away,you have every right to do that..So just be careful..Take care..

      Gildaestatic



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • u r ideal !! it is not your fault you married two idiots!!! tongue out

      do not sell yourself short or settle. i do not care if your were married 2, 3, 4 + times...your are a beautiful woman inside and out!!!



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • I’m on marriage #3 and I can still say someone writing this crap makes me leery!!



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      Jenni0811 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • hahahaha.........that’s why I LOVE ya‘all



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      Leeann wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • I would run Jenni !!!



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      Bg2008 wrote Apr 30, 2009
    • OMG.. run away as fast as you can.  This is not a good catch.  Good luck my dear.



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      Carolnphil wrote May 1, 2009
    • I would NOT send back an email to him giving him the boot because you don’t know if he’s a stalker since you said he lives in your area.  He may already know where you live, work, etc.  I would not reply back to any emails from him and let it drop.



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      Shopgirl1960 wrote May 1, 2009
    • ALWAYS go with your first instincts...they are there to protect you.



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      Jenz ~ wrote May 1, 2009
    • Careful calling him ‘babe’ too. lol He may run with that.

      I’m not going to assume something’s wrong with him because he’s never been married. NEITHER HAVE I. ‘Nuff said there!

      I’m not into this one, but then again, I’m probably the wrong person to ask about this too b/c I’m not into the online thingy.

      Make sure you‘re ready girlfriend. Good luck.



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      UK Girl wrote May 1, 2009
    • Run Forrest run .......  

      I read it 3 times before commenting and I think it’s “all about” and then at the end the creepy blue sweater bit ...

      Right he hasn’t been married and he is 48 - worrying! Big question WHY and if he says he hasn’t found Mrs Right well WHY.

      As for you honey - well you know my feelings, your bight, witty , very attractive and as your mum would say could do better honey .....



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      Jenni0811 wrote May 1, 2009
    • Thanks everyone....

      I agree with everyone; since I had to ask...I should listen to my own doubts. Annie put it short and sweet:

      “For me, he's way too intense and talks way too much. He's also a little too expressive and seems too emotional. I think Cynthia nailed it with the "I" comment.”

      I spoke with him last night and he talks just like he writes....nonstop!! I could barely get a word in!
      Oh well.....throw him in the
      “99% UNDATABLE” Bag!

      And Jen~ NO reflection on you AT ALL when I speak of the never married aspect....I mention it only as it relates to this/any guy and my involvement with them. Huge difference I feel with my multiple marriages and someone who’s never had one and as it might relate to how similar/dissimilar we are.

      Never thought I would be such a dating SPAZ tongue out estatic estatic



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      Fraz764 wrote May 1, 2009
    • Well..Termagsea summed it up for me. Move on to the next one Jenni.



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      Jenni0811 wrote May 1, 2009
    • Thanks Term for clarifying this.....hahahaha!!  He doesn’t know where I live and I’ve tossed him in the “Un-Datable Bag“!



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      Mz. Queen wrote Jun 5, 2009
    • Too much information all at once even if it’s an email. There is something to be said about a man giving up so much of himself where’s the mystery?



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