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Have you ever had a problem, a bad habit, or a relational conflict that you couldn’t overcome or resolve no matter how hard you tried, how much you sought help, and even how much you prayed?  

I have. I did everything I could think of to resolve it - and prayed relentlessly.  

Finally in utter desperation I prayed, “God, I beg you to show me the truth and reality of what I am still contributing to this situation I am in.”  

I got the answer, not right away but I got it. I saw my super codependency. I hadn’t even heard of the word back then, but what I saw was that because I was trying to fix everybody else’s problem, I was blind to my own! And here I thought I was being a good Christian! Wrong. I was being a needy person; that is, I needed to feel needed in order to feel loved and that, of course isn’t really love - or is contaminated love at best! It’s need.  

Once I saw the truth of what I was contributing, I knew what I had to do to fix my problem. As Jesus said, “You will know the truth and the truth will set you free.” I also realized that the only person’s problems I could fix were my own!  

Why did it take so long to get my prayer answered? Because I’d been praying the wrong prayer. I’d been asking for deliverance from the symptoms (the external conflict) and not from the cause of my problem.  

In the Bible James wrote, “The reason you don’t have what you want is that you don’t ask God for it. And even when you do ask, you don’t get it because your whole aim is wrong - you want only what will give you pleasure.”

True, we need to treat our symptoms, but the reality is God wants to heal the root cause of our problems and make us whole, because if we don’t deal with the root, we can easily exchange one symptom for another.  

So now, whenever I have a conflict or a problem, I always ask God to face me with the truth of what I am contributing to it - only then do I ask him to show me the truth of what others are contributing, and the truth or reality of the overall situation. The important thing always is to face the truth about myself.  

I have found whenever I pray for truth and mean it, God always answers. It is one of the most effective prayers I have ever prayed. It has changed my life. Often I don’t want to face the truth about myself because I am too afraid so I also pray, “God I am willing to be made willing to face the truth about me no matter how much it might hurt.”  

Not that it is easy, not at all, but praying a prayer for truth is a sure-fire way to resolve most conflicts - or at least my part in them.  

And when it comes to relationship (including friendship)conflicts, if two people will genuinely own up to their unresolved personal issues and problems (which are often at the root of many, if not most, conflicts) and each ask God to show them what they are contributing, I believe they will be able to resolve most conflicts. Each needs to mean it with all their heart, otherwise it won’t work.



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      Ladysmith wrote Jan 16, 2009
    • I struggle with prayer and often wonder how effective it really is. I believe in God and have what I would call personal conversations with him.  I am not sure if that actually counts as prayer.  My question is how do you know if you are asking for too much.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Feb 3, 2009
    • Ladysmith,  hello prayer is very effective if your heart and intentions are right, God says to come to him boldly before the throne of grace, meaning bring all your cares and concerns to him for he is the only one who can make a way out of no way. There are several scrptures in the Bible that will confirm prayer as well as prayers answered. It works trust me.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Feb 3, 2009
    • MsKay he heard your prayer the first time, what we as believers must remember is that God moves in his timeing and we also must remember that he doesn't operate on a time scale like we do lol, I know too well how I can get so antsy waiting for him to answer my request but I'm reminded that he is working it out and will release the blessings when he feels I'm ready for it, as wel las still working out somethings in me he does this with all of us. But he is never late!



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