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I can’t believe I am admitting this but I have turned into one of people I have always hated. A winy sniveling complainer. I used to look at life and laugh in the face of adversity, now I run and cower at the least provacation. I need to remember who I am and what was so great about me, that used to take everything for what it was instead of what it might mean. I no longer want to be this person. I want myself back, I just have to figure out who that is now.




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      Maryann Rhodey wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • Don’t you just hate that when things sneek up on you!  It’s just temporary, you’ll be fine, just start thinking happy, pleasant thoughts and you’ll be bad to normal again!  Sit down and write down a list of all your attributes.  You will see that you are not a winy sniveling complainer.  Just a temporary detour!



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      Rose Nino wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • Hi Tori! I remember feeling exactly the way you described. Of course, at the time, I had many health issues. So it seemed like all I did was whine, complain and feel sorry for myself. This went on for many years. It’s no fun feeling like your life is not your life anymore and wondering what the heck happened. Have faith. I know you will find your way back to the great person that you truly are both inside and out.  

      Your friend heartestatic



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • First question, what has happened or has something specific that caused this?heart



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      Tori Santos wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • I am tired of being in pain, not working, depending on others!



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • is this a permanent situation for you?



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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • I can truly feel for you as I have been there and still live with these feelings off and on..the first step is to determine your self-worth..do you feel important to you?..once you recognize how important you are as a person, then you will begin to have better control over events and situations.  It gets easier once you make the changes you need to.  Let me know how things go.happy



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      Tori Santos wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • I was working part time when I came up with a bulging disk and a fracture on my foramen. I have been unemployed for 1mth and before my part time job for 6mths. I left a job because I kept getting sick.



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • So Tori, can the physical issues be healed? And you say you kept getting sick, do you know the reason?

      Since 1997 I have gone from walking to being in a wheel-chariot due to progressive MS. Talk about not being able to work and depending on others. Along with that I have degenerative disc-disorder, depression, migraines, fatigue, 3 new active MS lesions, I could go on, but you get the point. My issues will never go away they will only get worse.

      I have my days where I complain and bitch and a separate blog to do that. But 95% of the time I just have learned to go with it.  

      It is a choice you have to make on your own. Wallow in it or find that inner strength and keep on going. It is NOT easy, and imho, I have a real right to moan and groan, but what good will do me. It will not bring back my legs or the person I once was. I have my pity parties, everyone’s invited, but then I get over it.

      I have 3 kids, a husband, a home so there is no time to whine and do the poor me pour me a drink. lol  

      We just have to keep on keeping on.  

      I hope you can find your way back and find the ‘who’ you want to be.  

      I think ruby is putting up the link to our talk show and we hope you drop on in. There is always hope at the end of the day.

      Blessings!heart



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      Lazylola wrote Apr 9, 2010
    • You should go listen to our show and hear Tina’s story, Tina has Lupus and other medical issues, she has a great outlook on life despite all her problems. I also have my fair share of medical issues and have been off work since June of last year due to 2 back surgeries, I am still recovering from those. I have my own pity parties but at the end of the day I’m still crippled, life goes on. Here is the link [Link Removed] and I hope you find your way back to you.heart


      Lazylola, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 10, 2010
    • thanks for the link Ruby! heart



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      Tori Santos wrote Apr 10, 2010
    • Thank you I will I have had surgeries had the shots but it I guess it always seems to be something else just when I think I am getting better. But I do want to stop this cycle. thank you



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      Tori Santos wrote Apr 10, 2010
    • I have just found out my husband has been reassigned so we will be moving, so I have no choice its up to me to get it together.



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 10, 2010
    • Good luck with the move Tori.

      Remember, it is ok to whine and complain at times. We are human. As long as you do not let it take you over, it’s all good!!

      We‘re here to listen. heart



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      Lisa Brown wrote Apr 11, 2010
    • This may sound weird, but, Congrats on recognizing that there is an issue, that is the first step on fixing it.  Many people go through there whole lives and don’t realize there is any other way or that something is wrong to begin with.



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      Tori Santos wrote Apr 11, 2010
    • Thank you for your words of encouragement.



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      Denise Critcher wrote Apr 15, 2010
    • We all have something to bitch about don’t wefrown. But being on this web site has brought me inspiration and a lot of soul searching. If it isn’t one thing it another.
      We all need to vent and this is the perfect place to do it. We have good day and we have bad days and every once in a while we have to kick our own ass and get it together. At least that ’s been in my life.
      Tori I hope you feel better soon and you can get back to what your life means to you.
      As they said back in the day “Keep on Trucking“!estatic



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