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I LOVE being older, and here’s why:

Yes, workmen and stuff still make odd noises and whistles when I walk by, but now, I don’t care anymore. And what’s awesome is that when I totally ignore them, they simply stop and go back to their work.  

It took me years to figure this out. I’m a slow learner, I know.  

But personal boundaries have always been a problem for me, and one of these was that in the past I always felt I had to at least acknowledge the men if they talked to me or made bizarre male sounds.  

Actually most of the time, instead of whistling, they’ve learned to try to get women’s attention by saying something like, “Nice day, isn’t it?” And I’d feel, gosh, someone’s saying ‘nice day’ to me, it’s only polite to nod or smile or something.

Not any more. Why? Because I’m older and I don’t feel like it. (Reminds me of that wonderful line from “Fried Green Tomatoes” where Kathy Bates says to the young girls in the car, “I’m older and I have more insurance.“)

Anyway, my mother taught me it was rude not to respond if someone talks to you. I’ve decided to live my own life by my own rules, and I don’t want to be rude to anyone, but if I don’t want to respond to a strange man on the street who starts talking to me, I’m sorry Mom, but I don’t have to!

Namaste,
Suzann
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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote May 31, 2010
    • I hated being whistled at when I was younger. It felt disrespectful to me. I don’t have to worry about that anymore - no one even acknowledges me.



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      Marya1961 wrote May 31, 2010
    • What a coincidence that you write this blog, Suzann...just the other day I was cleaning up in front of my home and a man came down the street.  I did not recognize him and he said hello..I was so engrossed in my work, that I did not bother to say anything..he started to yell at me and mentioned he was a neighbor from around the corner, my response to him was that I don’t say hello to men I don’t know..he was very angered and kept walking...I felt it was the right thing to do as a woman never knows what a man may be thinking.

      Cynthia, you are a beautiful woman!heart



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      Veggie wrote May 31, 2010
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      Marya, people are weird, aren’t they?  Sheesh!  A normal person would think, “maybe she didn’t hear me & that’s ok’ but today people are so self centered.  He probably thinks he’s that important.  Hopefully he doesn’t have a wife.  Imagine someone having to live with someone like that?



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      Vikki Hall wrote May 31, 2010
    • I think it’s perfectly fine if you don’t respond....especially if you don’t know the person.

      Cynthia I think you‘re looking at it wrong...... You‘re being noticed but they are too intimidated by your beauty and brillance to say anything!



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      Timbuktu wrote Jun 1, 2010
    • Unless someone was being offensive (rude, creepy, drunk, etc) I would consider it very rude not to respond to someone if they spoke to me. If you never respond to anyone you don’t know, you’d never get to know anyone new. There’s no need to give a guy who is just trying to be polite a hard time. The comment about ‘a woman never knoews what a man is thinking’ (they sure as hell don’t know what women are thinking)implies that it might well be something bad. Certainly there will be the odd one who is, but come on, most men are not aiming to attack you. They are the husbands of women like you.

      Timbuktu



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      Suzann wrote Jun 8, 2010
    • Thanks, Timbuktu, I hadn’t looked at it that way!



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