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Hi everyone!

Last November I blogged about my husband throwing me a curveball and putting himself on unemployment.  The advice and support I received from many of you was amazing.  Well its been a year ... unemployment has ended and miraculously, his employment status went back to full time once he realized I wasn’t giving or paying any more money to him.

Well, during this year I have taken stock of my marriage, my life, my self.  What can be fixed, I have fixed, what cannot be repaired I have decided to cut loose.  The looser in this is my marriage.  After a year of trying to work out the kinks, he sees everything as my fault ... I’ve changed, I should do more ... and yes, I have decided to do more.  I have decided to end this.  And so, as the year ends so does my marriage of 15 years.  

Here’s the strange thing ... I’m not sad, I’m at peace.  At last my daughters will not be on pins and needles, never knowing what mood he will be in.  They too will be at peace.

I just wanted to thank all of you for your great advice a year ago.

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • I pray the it will all work out best for everyone and the two of you can bring it to finality while remaining cordial to one another.



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      Frannie1964 wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • I also hope things work out for the best like Cynthia said.
      Alot of people want to put the blame on someone else because they know they are the ones to blame but don’t want to admit It and they are stubborn to. At least you know you have tried and you didn’t give up right away. Good luck with everything and I hope you can all still be kind to each other.happy



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • I am very proud that you decided, it was time for you to be happy.
      Sometimes we get into ruts and are scared of change. I admire your incentive to embrace a major change in your life. And you will be better for it, if it is truly, what you want and need in order for you to be happy.
      Be empowered girl!estatic



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      UK Girl wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • As my fabulous friend Lisa says be empowered ......... now you have taken stock and moved on you can fly and soar under your own wings .....
      Good for you and I hope this doesn't cause too much pain and agony .......



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • Good luck to you.  Sounds like youve made the right decision for you and your daughters!  

      xoxo



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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • I am really very happy that you have decided to be proactive in this lifechange. Seems like lots of gals “wait for him to straighten up“, and I always ask, “why does he get to decide when that is,“?

      The road will have its ups and downs, this I know personally. But I also know what living on pins and needles is like, oh too well!

      I left after 30 years because it was no longer eceptable for me or my two sons to be exposed to it. My strength came from them.
      I am still happy and yes struggling but I know life is such a big gift and I dont want to waste another minute. Please let us know how you r doing!!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • Living life in indecision is so bad. So whether your decision is easy or not you should and deserve peace for just taking stock and making decisions.

      Good luck and Best Wishes!!!!



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      Denise LePard Elhalawany wrote Nov 28, 2009
    • As always, the support I receive from all of you is overwhelming.  Yes, we have decided it behooves no one to be critical of each other.  We are more cordial and nicer to each other now that the decision has been made, for the sake of our daughters.  As we work out the kinks and financial orders, we are so polite to each other that we laugh sometimes.  In hindsight, although he says no, I think he wanted this more than I did.  

      I’ll keep you posted.

      Denise



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