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What task should you be doing that you're ignoring?  I'm not talking about every day little tasks, I’m talking about that BIG task that you're consciously turning your attention away from wishing for it to just go away.

We all, at times, turn our heads away from tasks that must be done.

I had a conversation with a new VIP client recently and she mentioned that she has a mountain of mail that she's been ignoring.  Her fear is that she doesn't have the money to pay the bills; so she made the conscious decision of not opening up any mail.

At the same time, she's complaining that the electricity is being turned off at her house and debt collectors are constantly calling her.  Now she's not only dealing with unopened mail; but she is also in a reactionary mode due to the results of her inaction. Yet she wonders why her life is constantly hectic!

Tough love on this is to face your fear and do what you need to do.  Let me tell you why this is oh so very important.

Nothing upsets emotional balance quicker than reacting to life.  There will be life events that are out of our control.  But there are a lot of events that you do have control over; those you need to be proactive on ... YOU NEED TO TAKE ACTION.

Ignoring what you know you need to do is only going to put additional stress into your life; and then you’ll be stressing over when your inactions are going to catch up to you.  Chances are that when they do you’ll have the original issue, plus the additional consequences as a result of not doing anything at all.

This particular client of mine is dealing with her fear of not paying her bills, and also the consequences of that decision.  She now has to deal with creditors contacting her, late fees and high interest.  Yet she wonders why she can’t get ahead.

For your emotional well-being you need to push through your fear and into action.

After our conversation, my client finally opened all of her mail.  She does have bills she needs to address; but she was also pleasantly surprised that she had some rebate checks, some credits, and other miscellaneous perks she wasn’t expecting to be in those dreaded envelopes she'd been ignoring.  She also realized she had mail regarding enrolling her kids in school next year and some other items that needed her immediate attention.

Next she prioritized her bills so that she could start addressing them by contacting the company, explaining her situation and proactively working with creditors, or exploring debt consolidation.

Once you face your fear and start taking actionable steps, you will feel so much better.  You may not like the situation you are in; but you will feel a sense of peace.  At least you'll understand where you stand with a situation and what choices need to be made.

Confidence that you can deal with life on life’s terms is empowering.

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