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I know this will come as a real shock to you.....but....some men think they are always right!

I don't know what it is...but there is something deep in the hearts of many men that will not let them admit that they don’t know everything.

Now we sweet female types.....we do see right through it.....and that makes your man work even harder to be right!

One of my clients was trying to tell her husband that he said NO to her for every thing she asked. Of course, he said 'No, he didn't'! She decided to put it to a test...and here is how it went....

She: Do you want to see a movie?
He: No

She: Do you want to go for a walk?
He: No

She: Can we talk for a few minutes?
He: No

She: Could you help me carry this box?
He: No

Finally....in total frustration she said to him.....

Do you want to have sex?

He said NO before he even thought about what she said!!

Needless to say....she finally got his attention. This couple got a big laugh out of this and that broke the tension.....but they still had work to do.

So....what can you do if your man insists that he is right about everything?

There is an AMAZING AND POWERFUL TOOL THAT RARELY FAILS....it is so powerful, not everyone can handle it.....

ARE YOU UP FOR THE CHALLENGE? I hope so because it could just change your relationship forever! Are you ready........

AGREE WITH HIM.......you read correctly.....AGREE WITH HIM.....WHENEVER YOU CAN.

You may be in a pattern where you argue about big things and little things with the same passion. This is the perfect time to try this technique. There are so many things you don't really need to be "right" about.

Look in the mirror and practice saying....."You're right about that." It doesn't hurt that bad.....I promise!!!

Telling him he is right about something will surprise him and while he is getting over the shock.....you say what you have to say.

For example.....

He says...."Your friend Darcy is always calling you during dinner."
You say...."You're right about that but she needs a friend."

He says....."But we need you too and I want to eat together as a family."
You say...."You're right, I can tell her I will call her back after dinner."

If you can stop disagreeing about the small things......it won't be long before you will be talking calmly about important things.

Dr. Wayne Dyer says "When you have a choice to be right or to be kind....always choose to be kind."

It takes a strong person to live up to this.....and one strong person is often enough to start building a better relationship.

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      Yana Berlin wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • You are right on....

      The only problem is that we as women are sooo tired of always agreeing....

      I have an aunt who has never done dishes, never, but every night she sits at dinner and tells her husband how great he is and no one could take care of her or the house better then he does, they’ve been married for 42 years, he is still in love with her like he was all those years ago. I give her a lot of credit, and every time I get home I promise myself to do just that ....praise, praise, praise ...I’m still trying to succeed.



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      Catherine Behan wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • Hi Yana,

      This is why my heart is so passionate about helping women marry their second husband first.  I did not know the power of  agreeing on the minutia of life with my first husband.

      Men LOVE to be agreed with and why do we feel we are giving so much away by practicing this?

      I tell my man every day, more than once a day, that he is the nicest, kindest man in the universe.

      Guess what?  He gets nicer and kinder to me all the time.

      Imagine that!
      Catherine



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • Marry your second husband first, that is brilliant! This is a really good blog. I hope it stays on the home page for the whole day. I’m married to a man who adores me, and yet he just can’t stand it when he’s wrong. He has a very big ego. He gets to be the boss at work and he gets to have people fawn around him all the time.

      He was acting a little full of himself at home and I got weary of it. I looked at him and said “over there you are the big man on campus but here at home you‘re just Joe.” He smiled and took out the trash.

      Thank you for the great blog post.



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      Mom4boys wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • I think this is so true and they never say sorry I was WRONG!



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      Catherine Behan wrote Sep 12, 2008
    • Thanks Chocolatier,

      Wow, what a fab comment!  The greatest gift a woman can give to herself is the awareness that her man is perfect...especially when he is a little annoying.  It is then we grow.

      Indeed, I would have saved myself some drama and trauma had I married my second husband first, however, I can see that my first husband was the perfect man too.

      After all, I have two awesome kids, now one adorable grandbaby and irreplaceable life lessons all the way through.

      Now when triggered by old memories and stuck thought patterns, I can truly be grateful for ALL of my experiences because they draw me closer to my own Inner Being.

      You inspire me, Chocolatier, thanks for the support!
      Catherine



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      Greytdogz wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • “He has a very big ego. He gets to be the boss at work and he gets to have people fawn around him all the time.

      He was acting a little full of himself at home and I got weary of it. I looked at him and said "over there you are the big man on campus but here at home you're just Joe." He smiled and took out the trash.”

      Same problem here. My husband is a civilian instructor, teaching Canadian Forces students. He has students “fawining” over him all the time, telling him what a great instructor he is (which he is), etc... and when he says “jump“, they “jump“. He also has a very big ego.
      He has trouble letting that go once he gets home. Expects me and the kids to “jump” when he speaks, to do everything his way...but, unfortunately for him, I am not one to “jump“. Neither are our kids.
      I have had to tell him on more than one occasion that we are not one of his students and to smarten up.



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      Catherine Behan wrote Sep 14, 2008
    • Sounds like you have a good handle on his behavior at home reflecting the behavior at work.  It is always amazing to me how the dots I connect in dealing with my man are so easy for me to see and so hard for him to see.

      I have the most success when I wait until a calm and conflict free moment to bring things to the table.  I have also found the magic seven words that always disarm him....

      I MIGHT BE WRONG ABOUT THIS BUT...

      Seems whenever I preface my opinion with these words, he hears me a bit more clearly.

      Acknowledgement and negotiation pave the way to happiness....every time!

      Best to you!
      Catherine



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      J63 wrote Sep 16, 2008
    • But, what you agree several times hoping that would change his behavior and it is still the same? Don’t we get tired of it?  How can men be right all the time?  Shouldn’t they be man enough to admit they are wrong sometimes?  I do admit when I am wrong, at work or at home, why can’t they do it?



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      Catherine Behan wrote Sep 16, 2008
    • I so know what you mean and I can feel your passion through the email!!

      Yes, it is possible to coach your man to acknowledge when he has misstepped.  I say coach on purpose.

      Men LOVE to be coached. They understand the coaching concept as they have been coached in life all along.  When you choose to see your man’s strengths and nurture them, he will begin to soften and see his weaknesses without freaking out.

      This is a slow, steady process and takes a lot of focus.  The less prickly we are when upset, the more our men can learn to hear us without defensiveness.

      Above all, men respond amazingly to cute and funny.  When your sense of humor is intact, you have more power than you can imagine.

      Hang in there!!!
      Catherine



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      Timbuktu wrote Apr 5, 2010
    • You make men sound like irritating dogs. Well fair enough I guess. Of course agreeing is fine sometimes, but bloody hell, not all the time otherwise it goes on making them believe they are always right.



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