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Why Is It So Hard For People To Be Alone?
This issue has always astounded me. I just don't get it! I was married at a young age, I considered it necessary and for personal reasons, to get away from my parents home. It was an extremely detrimental place.  


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      Kyah wrote Jan 30, 2010
    • I don’t understand people who tolerate any kind of relationship just so they would not be alone. One of my 30 something friends moved back to her parents’ home because she couldn’t stand living alone, although when she first moved out, she was giddy with the idea of it all. I actually laughed when I found out because when I was her age, I was long gone from my parents’ home and loved having a place all to myself.  

      I’ve lived alone for most of my adult life. Visitors come, and visitors go, that’s how I like it. There is a distinct difference between being alone and being lonely. Society seems to be hung up on couples, so eventually it trickles down. I enjoy the skin I’m in, and that’s the way it shall always be.

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      Linni wrote Jan 30, 2010
    • im not sure why people do that either..

      it gets old after awhile seeing people use the revolving door



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      Venus 7000 wrote Jan 31, 2010
    • Humans are social creatures.  This has been so from the very beginning when Adam requested companionship in the garden of Eden (no offence to those of you who are not religious).  

      For the most part we crave companionship, acceptance and human bonding.  These are not “wants” they are human needs/necessities.   I believe it is possible for people to live alone once their needs are being otherwise satisfied (they spend a lot of time socialising with others boyfriend/family/co-workers etc.)  

      But being completely alone without having these needs met can cause a person’s undoing.



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      Darlene Sabella wrote Jan 31, 2010
    • Yes, I knew that eveyone has a point of view on this subject, it still puzzles me to think about it.  I have enjoyed living alone for many, many years.  I can stay in my jammies all day if I want.  I can write from sun up to sun down, I just like it this way.  Not that I would not want a special relationship, and if that happens great.  Yes, your right humans do need attachments, and mine are for animals.  Thank you all for you comments.



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      Hunnypot88 wrote Jan 31, 2010
    • I am dealing with the same issues. People think you are lying or crazy when you tell them you enjoy your alone time. I also believe there are a lot of women who fear being and living alone, and will settle for whomever they can move in with. I have been on my own for the past 3 years and I like it. Maybe it’s because I moved out of my parents house and straight into my married house at the age of 22.

      I never had a bachelorette pad and now my home is my home, just the way I like it and I am so enjoying it. If in the future I find someone worth sharing my life with on a personal basis (everyday) than cool. But right now I enjoy the company and the ability to say don’t forget to take your boots!



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      Linda James-Laville wrote Feb 14, 2010
    • I left a 38 year long relationship with a man two and a half years ago. I slept with him every night except for may a month of days in that time. I saw him every day. I raised five children and several dogs. When I moved into my apartment I cried the first night, not because I was alone but because it was so small! I found out I am very good at being alone and I am very good at having people around me but the solitude gave me a chance to breath, to think to do and to discover who I am. I don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life, I would like to continue having people in and out of my life and even someone who will come and stay a few days but then he will leave. I like it!



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      Darlene Sabella wrote May 17, 2011
    • Thank you LATosha, I try to keep them short, however sometimes I do ramble...lOL



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      Cressie wrote Jun 6, 2011
    • Who was it who said that the best relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself?
      Very wise, I think, whoever they were!



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      Anonymous wrote Jun 6, 2011
    • ffff



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      Darlene Sabella wrote Jun 6, 2011
    • Thank you Cressie, most people are so scared to be alone for even a minute.....



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      Mztracy wrote Jun 6, 2011
    • I love my alone time! Never had a problem living alone



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      Sonya Yount wrote Sep 7, 2011
    • I have had a couple of failed marriages, but I do have two beautiful sons as a result. I have lived alone for the majority of my life, and find it very difficult to live with others. I actually prefer living alone to living with someone. I can relax and do what I want, when I want and how I want. I had my children later in life and now, technically do not live alone lol, but I do enjoy those couple of weeks out of the year when the boys go for visits with family and I can be alone to focus on just me for a while. but, I have to admit, I live it when they come back home...will I ever marry again? Dint know. But the next time, if there is a next time, I want it to be for life.



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      Sonya Yount wrote Sep 7, 2011
    • It is hard to type on iPods lol. Sorry for the misspelled words in the former post.

      Sonya



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      Darlene Sabella wrote Sep 7, 2011
    • Thank you for your kind comments, it is strange that most people don’t even know who they are living with, and welcome aboard the big ship lolly pop.....



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