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I do not understand people.  I went to a bridal shower today.  Once there I was told that the Maid of Honor had called the bride yesterday and left her a voice mail stating that she was sick the day of the shower and wouldn’t be able to make it.  The bride was upset as this wasn’t the first time moh (maid of honor) had bailed on something that had to do with the wedding.  In fact, the bride planned her own shower because moh had failed to do so!

I had no idea nor did anyone else at the shower, although I did find it odd that my invitaion was a post-it note!  Had we known we would have taken that burden off her hands and planned something for her.  We did the best we could to make the shower fun and I think she had a good time, however; I know she was still upset about the moh - so upset that she called her while at the shower and left her a voice mail advising her that her moh services would no longer be needed and she had been replaced!  

I don’t know why moh bailed on the shower - maybe she really was sick - when I suggested this, the question put to me was how do you know a day in advance that you will be ill?  I didn’t have an answer to that, except to say that I like to beleive the best, not the worst of people.  I beleive the bride was more upset that all this was done through voice mail and moh didn’t answer or return her calls.  

While I understand the pressure to say yes put on you if you are asked to participate in a wedding in any capacity, I don’t understand why you would say yes, take on the responsibility and then bail on them.  I know that this moh had just purchased her first house and perhaps she wasn’t able to particpate in the wedding financially, however; it would have been far better for everyone if she had been up front and said that while she was flattered by the invite, it wasn’t something she could participate in at this time.  The bride and everyone else would have had more respect for her and maybe the friendship could have been saved.


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